My friend lost his son last Sunday

[kanda]

1. so sorry

a year and a half ago the county chaplain showed up at our door to tell us our 19 year old son had passed in his sleep. The autopsy showed a cardiac arrhythmia from unknown causes. He was very healthy. Had just completed 2-3 months of training with the Marines at Camp Pendleton (he was a Navy corpsman).

You're right--you never know. And you're also right about never having too many friends at a time like this. We were surrounded by LOTS of people for a few days, then a smaller, but closer set of friends/family to be with us. Life becomes segregated into two time frames--things that happened before he died and things that happened after he died.

I went to a bereavement class. My husband didn't. We all process it differently. There's a darkness in our lives that will never go away, but somehow we go on and try to find good things.

My heartfelt sympathy to your friend and his family. And blessings to you, too, as you help him pick up the pieces. A friend once said "I wish I could hug you hard enough to put your broken heart back together."

kanda