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yeoman6987

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116. If it's not a choice I would accommodate but you come to my house,

Sun Aug 30, 2015, 12:02 PM

Aug 2015

You eat it don't eat what is in front of you. Choices are personal and should not impead on others. Good for her for giving up meal. The hosts didn't.

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I am a vegetarian. You've known me as a vegetarian for 20 years. Please do not invite me [View all] Luminous Animal Aug 2015 OP

Many people don't have any idea madaboutharry Aug 2015 #1

Yet again. I got invited for dinner and was assured that their would be a vegetarian Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #2

You should say something to them. madaboutharry Aug 2015 #3

We've said it like a bazillian times. They are our best fiends and they are not getting Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #9

Um, yeah laundry_queen Aug 2015 #23

Why does it have to be the most bland vegetarian option? Did they serve the worst possible caprese? merrily Aug 2015 #31

Because they are being thoughtless laundry_queen Aug 2015 #36

Are they? As I said, a caprese is one of my favorite summer meals. merrily Aug 2015 #37

Well, the OP seemed to think it was a bit of a slap. laundry_queen Aug 2015 #110

Well, my love of caprese and how I think friends behave toward each other. merrily Aug 2015 #113

Caprese is my favorite food. Period. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #197

"a big ol' caprese salad" kentauros Aug 2015 #198

It wasn't the entree. The salad was for the table and there was enough for about 3 slices of tomato Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #200

I get it. I understand why you were upset. Arugula Latte Aug 2015 #204

Thank you. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #206

Sorry that happened that they gave you cheese Aerows Aug 2015 #217

I've no problem with cheese. I have a problem with the vegetarian option was 3 slices of tomatoes Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #220

So you are a vegetarian? Aerows Aug 2015 #222

For a vegan. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #224

There's a new miracle egg-substitute around called "aquafaba" kentauros Sep 2015 #229

That's a bazillion - 2 opportunities you've had bvf Aug 2015 #45

Maybe the answer might be not to cook them meat treestar Aug 2015 #83

Well, there's your problem, right there Warpy Aug 2015 #157

Stop cooking them meat!!! roody Aug 2015 #166

It'll be okay in the morning :) snooper2 Sep 2015 #236

I cook meat for my grandchildren kpete Sep 2015 #246

Or even left off the meat on a small part of the main one. No excuse for that one. PoliticAverse Aug 2015 #7

Vegetarians won't eat it because it was in close proximity to meat Aerows Aug 2015 #218

meat cooties! snooper2 Sep 2015 #237

A lot of people think that's all vegetarians eat. Or they're confused about differences pnwmom Aug 2015 #38

Funny - we always make vegetarian lasagna malaise Aug 2015 #67

I've always made vegetarian lasagna Aerows Aug 2015 #139

I agree malaise Aug 2015 #151

But you said they gave you a pasta dish too. LisaL Aug 2015 #99

They didn't. The pasta dish reference was from another time and a different Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #130

There really is no way to figure that out from reading the OP. LisaL Aug 2015 #155

I'm not teacher of grammar kentauros Aug 2015 #186

So somehow I am supposed to figure out that OP is also mad at somebody else for LisaL Aug 2015 #187

Admittedly, I didn't take it to be two different people, kentauros Aug 2015 #193

Well, it wasn't evident to me, and quite a few other posters. LisaL Aug 2015 #194

It was also evident to quite a few posters that it was separate events. kentauros Aug 2015 #196

I agree with you. I read it the same way you did. kcr Aug 2015 #210

I sounded rude...but I didn't mean it in that way. I meant I think it's kind of funny C Moon Aug 2015 #207

Dude, if someone invites you over and prepares Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #4

Word. Nictuku Aug 2015 #5

Um. I, as a vegetarian, prepare a special meal for my meat eating friends. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #6

You cook - and keep score - so now they owe you? Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #16

I am actually surprised that you would participate in the turkey killing that occurs every year for Tipperary Aug 2015 #41

No one wants a vegetarian thanksgiving.. TipTok Aug 2015 #58

It's non-traditional, not non-normal iwillalwayswonderwhy Aug 2015 #62

That's nice but at my house we have the full turkey meal yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #105

Yes, you are right iwillalwayswonderwhy Aug 2015 #114

I would never do that. yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #117

so what is normal, anyway? you, I assume? and you get to judge? NRaleighLiberal Aug 2015 #65

normal? handmade34 Aug 2015 #92

Define "normal" please. Autumn harvest food can be many different things, and uppityperson Aug 2015 #175

Thanksgiving meal is the most popular in america yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #108

and heirloom turkey dsc Aug 2015 #133

like artisanal arugula Facility Inspector Aug 2015 #149

I like food, frankly way too much dsc Aug 2015 #150

But when you do nice things for other people Facility Inspector Aug 2015 #148

I didn't expect something in return. I expected what was promised Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #188

Well that right there is asshat behavior by your friend nadine_mn Sep 2015 #273

Didn't your mama teach you manners? You don't invite a Jew to eat pork. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author merrily Aug 2015 #32

They didn't invite a Jew to eat pork or a vegetarian to eat meat, though. merrily Aug 2015 #33

The meatless option was for everyone. Not just me. So, my dinner was 3 hearty slices Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #73

They did not have enough food then. merrily Aug 2015 #81

What about the tortellini and sauce? oberliner Aug 2015 #90

The tortellinis referenced were from another time and a different person Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #132

Oops - sorry about that oberliner Aug 2015 #138

You were provided with a vegetarian entrée and a caprese salad oberliner Aug 2015 #85

nuff said: kpete Sep 2015 #248

I think you are wrong here. madaboutharry Aug 2015 #11

Caprese salad! Yum! Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #17

Poptarts aren't vegetarian because of gelatin IVoteDFL Aug 2015 #19

No kidding. They put gelatin in everything now. beam me up scottie Aug 2015 #42

I used to pretend I know what kind of friendship strangers may or may not have too... LanternWaste Sep 2015 #270

nods DonCoquixote Aug 2015 #25

A good caprese salad is made with lots of good mozzarella cheese and tomatoes. merrily Aug 2015 #34

The OP says that the host also gave them a vegetarian pasta dish oberliner Aug 2015 #87

You need to work on your reading comprehension so people don't laugh at what you write. jtuck004 Aug 2015 #24

Second that Demeter Aug 2015 #27

Allergic to quinoa? That's a new one. smirkymonkey Aug 2015 #48

I agree. I am a vegetarian, and guess what, when I am invited over to someones place for dinner, I still_one Aug 2015 #28

Great post. TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2015 #239

It is the people and getting together that count still_one Sep 2015 #241

Frequently, the menu is also dictated by finances. TexasMommaWithAHat Sep 2015 #247

LOL still_one Sep 2015 #249

I love bloody juicy meat, and get annoyed by snooty vegetarians.... Adrahil Aug 2015 #127

:) maybe then it's more an attitude about Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #141

It depends upon the event... Adrahil Aug 2015 #145

Seriously. uppityperson Aug 2015 #174

Maybe you will get your wish. Nictuku Aug 2015 #8

I hope so. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #13

I can't believe they served you frozen tortellinis. Nye Bevan Aug 2015 #12

:) Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #14

This is why I don't have dinner guests. No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #15

McDonald's run? ellisonz Aug 2015 #18

I've only been a vegetarian for going on two years IVoteDFL Aug 2015 #20

seems to be a conflict here - claim to be vegtarian yet cooking meat for any old occasion nt msongs Aug 2015 #21

I'm guessing the OP is vegetarian for environmental or health reasons and not the animals. mucifer Aug 2015 #56

My husband and daughter eat meat. We host 3 feasts a year. Since I am a far better Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #134

Someone should post vegetarian recipes that non vegetarians could use as a guide. Kablooie Aug 2015 #22

Then let's start with Jamie Oliver, kentauros Aug 2015 #29

I am not a vegetarian, but one of my all time favorite meals is SoCalDem Aug 2015 #39

I imagine that innumerable such recipes are already available on the internet. nt tblue37 Aug 2015 #52

What---we don't eat pasta dishes? Vegetables? WinkyDink Aug 2015 #103

I bring my own food, so does my daughter gwheezie Aug 2015 #26

It sounds like they did purchase a vegetarian pasta dish specifically for the OP. LisaL Aug 2015 #102

There's usually something I can eat gwheezie Aug 2015 #185

Wow! Le Taz Hot Aug 2015 #30

When they invited me and my husband (who eats meat) they explicitly told me Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #78

But they did purchase a vegetarian option for you. LisaL Aug 2015 #106

Actually. The only option presented was a caprese salad offered to everyone. My meal Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #129

So the host forgot the vegetarian option? He was tending to his relatives, the "guests of honor", No Vested Interest Aug 2015 #144

Actually. The host was my friend's mom who was agitated that she hadn't been told by Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #221

For your sake, I hope you can and have already moved past this incident. No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #231

Vegetarians are pretty easy to deal with Aerows Aug 2015 #123

. . . Le Taz Hot Aug 2015 #124

I am a "pain in the ass" vegan. I expect nothing. I would just eat the bread and salad Liberal_in_LA Aug 2015 #153

If served a purely vegan meal Aerows Aug 2015 #162

I say nothing about my veganism. i simply assemble a plate of Liberal_in_LA Aug 2015 #164

When I offer you beans and rice I've cooked all day Aerows Aug 2015 #223

I don't ask about spices! Liberal_in_LA Sep 2015 #268

LOL Beautiful, Aerows. I just inspect the beans to pick out the gravel, myself... Hekate Aug 2015 #160

And we have the thread Trailrider1951 Aug 2015 #214

What I would do: decide if you really want to be friends with these people or not. merrily Aug 2015 #35

^^this^^. My advice as well. n/t Euphoria Aug 2015 #46

Do you really not want to be invited to someone's house if they aren't very pnwmom Aug 2015 #40

My daughter dropped by with a friend of hers who has celiac disease and lactose intolerance- hedgehog Aug 2015 #147

I know it's hard to figure out at first. Rice, potatoes, and corn are fine with most Celiacs. pnwmom Aug 2015 #179

Confused.... Takket Aug 2015 #43

I guess I'm lucky. beam me up scottie Aug 2015 #44

My daughter was a vegetarian alphafemale Aug 2015 #47

It wasn't about you. alphafemale Aug 2015 #49

I think this is a great response! I am actually having difficulty with the many levels of wrong in Tipperary Aug 2015 #51

I was invited on the promise that their would be a vegetarian option Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #201

Why not cook a delicious vegetarian meal for your friends instead of flesh? Hun Joro Aug 2015 #50

Henceforth I will only serve vegetarians Orrex Aug 2015 #53

I cannot believe this post can be serious oberliner Aug 2015 #54

Wow you cook meat for people. I'm thinking you probably aren't a vegetarian for ethical reasons mucifer Aug 2015 #55

I live one mile as the crow flies from this vegan bakery. Apparently even Hollywood types order from WinkyDink Aug 2015 #107

You sneer at Caprese salad? Tomatoes, basil, and garlic, all straight from the garden. enough Aug 2015 #57

Got my own tomatoes and basil; home-made-mozzarella store 4 miles north. German garlic from the far- WinkyDink Aug 2015 #109

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Sep 2015 #234

Some people just aren't into learning about cooking. Vinca Aug 2015 #59

Don't let it bother you jopacaco Aug 2015 #60

~ Lars39 Aug 2015 #61

Luminous Animal, madaboutharry Aug 2015 #63

My advice to her is to lighten the hell up. I don't do carbs. But NEVER expect that.... Logical Aug 2015 #79

You don't do carbs? oberliner Aug 2015 #84

Sorry. < 30 a day. For a year now. So some carbs yes. nt Logical Aug 2015 #86

That is fascinating oberliner Aug 2015 #89

I got to my high school weight and off my HB meds. Worked for me. nt Logical Aug 2015 #93

Can I ask how old you are (approximately) ? oberliner Aug 2015 #95

Lowering your carb intake Aerows Aug 2015 #168

Mid 50s. nt Logical Aug 2015 #183

I'm finally listening to long-ago advice: Eat nothing white. I want to go off HBP meds, too! WinkyDink Aug 2015 #111

I do next to no carbs, too Aerows Aug 2015 #167

Exactly! I do the same and moonscape Aug 2015 #169

True. I think people tend to read these things and insert themselves and how they'd react kcr Aug 2015 #212

Thank you. The host was actually rather upset that her daughter hadn't told her. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #219

You seem like a really nice person. madaboutharry Sep 2015 #228

I never make meat unless my dogs are sick. a la izquierda Aug 2015 #64

A feast should be a feast for all Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #66

If it's not a choice I would accommodate but you come to my house, yeoman6987 Aug 2015 #116

You food choices are resitricted because of your own choice to be a vegetarian. LisaL Aug 2015 #118

ICYDK, Vegetables are food Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #176

Don't worry. I won't invite you. Bluzmann57 Aug 2015 #68

+1000 nt Logical Aug 2015 #75

the problem is knowing what KIND of vegetarian they are...some won't eat dairy CTyankee Aug 2015 #69

You've been a very painstaking hostess for years. Syzygy321 Aug 2015 #70

Can I ask a question? RoccoR5955 Aug 2015 #71

They cook dead animals for their friends oberliner Aug 2015 #91

If they didn't care about the animals, they'd cook live animals Orrex Aug 2015 #119

LOBSTER! snooper2 Sep 2015 #240

You raise a difficult question. MineralMan Aug 2015 #72

Wow, lets just say I would never invite you over to dinner. You sound like a PITA. nt Logical Aug 2015 #74

she sounds like a pocket bread? Hekate Aug 2015 #163

Fill that pocket bread up Aerows Aug 2015 #172

You're making my mouth water Hekate Aug 2015 #180

Mine too. LisaL Aug 2015 #192

I AVOID CARBS, and you know I avoid carbs, Please invite me to dinner and I will deal with it! nt Logical Aug 2015 #76

I avoid carbs, too Aerows Aug 2015 #177

Speaking as a flexitarian I think too many people are giving you too much shit. CBGLuthier Aug 2015 #77

Being a vegetarian MuseRider Aug 2015 #80

The OP writer was offered "some frozen prepackaged vegetarian thing" oberliner Aug 2015 #88

It sounds like the OP MuseRider Aug 2015 #98

Fair enough oberliner Aug 2015 #104

Is it that hard to add some vegetable dishes to a menu? Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #97

Nope MuseRider Aug 2015 #100

dinner parties can take a lot of planning, shopping, preparing, expense . . . DrDan Aug 2015 #82

Also do note that a special meal was specifically purchased for this person oberliner Aug 2015 #94

I have some dietary restrictions TheOther95Percent Aug 2015 #96

As an omnivore, I'm opining---and not because of THEM---that you should not go against your WinkyDink Aug 2015 #101

The OP said that her husband eats meat, kiva Aug 2015 #120

Ah, sorry. I'm getting ADD as i age. WinkyDink Aug 2015 #182

It's a long thread, kiva Aug 2015 #199

I'm getting to be an old fart SwissTony Aug 2015 #112

When I go to a meat-eater party, I bring my own dish justiceischeap Aug 2015 #115

It's pretty crappy to complain about free food from someone's house. Deadshot Aug 2015 #121

This happened to me a few weeks ago..... Avalux Aug 2015 #122

Normaly I wouldn't invite a vegetarian... ryan_cats Aug 2015 #125

I lived with a vegan Aerows Aug 2015 #131

I follow a strict organic diet. Liberal Veteran Aug 2015 #158

The OP has already rejected frozen vegi dishes. Ms. Toad Aug 2015 #136

This is why I never invite vegetarian's over for dinner GummyBearz Aug 2015 #126

Ah, the Holidays, some of my favorite childhood memories... hunter Aug 2015 #128

Am I the only one who likes the frozen tortellini? riderinthestorm Aug 2015 #135

The frozen tortellinis referenced were from another incident when the host had realized Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #137

Ok so you're also mad about that episode too riderinthestorm Aug 2015 #140

No, you aren't the only one! noamnety Aug 2015 #184

Don't you just love that: come on over, we have salad. C Moon Aug 2015 #142

I chuckle every time I scroll past this comment kentauros Aug 2015 #189

Not cooking vegetarian, but cooking vegetables Bad Thoughts Aug 2015 #190

I agree with that assessment. kentauros Aug 2015 #195

This somewhat... Chan790 Aug 2015 #143

OMG you cook dead animal flesh???? Boudica the Lyoness Aug 2015 #146

I agree melman Aug 2015 #154

Look at it this way, they may lack creativity, and talent, for cooking. Zorra Aug 2015 #152

Stop preparing meat for others, and share your delicious cuisine. Period. When I'm a guest... Hekate Aug 2015 #156

My veggie stepsister serves wonderful meat dishes, too! KamaAina Aug 2015 #159

Yeah, it sucks to be treated as an afterthought. GoCubsGo Aug 2015 #161

I always accomodate my vegetarian friends. KMOD Aug 2015 #165

If I were a guest in your home CrawlingChaos Aug 2015 #208

I would change your attitude. noamnety Aug 2015 #170

I shouldn't invite you to eat bread, salad, frozen pepackaged veggie thing I am eating? OK uppityperson Aug 2015 #171

i empathize. mine was from colitis and high carb stuff. NuttyFluffers Aug 2015 #173

when someone invites me to share food they've prepared... mike_c Aug 2015 #178

First-world problems. Nuclear Unicorn Aug 2015 #181

Bingo hueymahl Sep 2015 #252

People who go to bed hungry=People who lack vegetables. Bad Thoughts Sep 2015 #258

Yes, and lack of anything else to eat. hueymahl Sep 2015 #259

Because the broader implication is that the host put out no or little vegetables to eat Bad Thoughts Sep 2015 #260

I respect vegetarians, vegans and everyone else who has eating preferences (taco-tarians anyone?) hueymahl Sep 2015 #263

Just finished off a great yam with some okra and broccoli with cauliflower. Rex Aug 2015 #191

i was a vegetarian many years ago. DesertFlower Aug 2015 #202

Did you change? Are you no longer a vegetarian? No Vested Interest Sep 2015 #232

my friend was a vegetarian but she used to make DesertFlower Aug 2015 #203

Aww! So cute. Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #205

If I invited a vegetarian leftyladyfrommo Aug 2015 #209

"Please do not invite me" lumberjack_jeff Aug 2015 #211

A host should not have to prepare 5 different meals to appease at a small dinner party.. alphafemale Aug 2015 #213

Something happened to me that utterly baffled me. Manifestor_of_Light Aug 2015 #215

First I ever heard of that, been doing some googles on "nightshades" and some seems like woo snooper2 Sep 2015 #242

They aren't that rare. I've had it my whole life Lorien Sep 2015 #257

I so understand this. I'm allergic to tomatoes too Lorien Sep 2015 #253

yes I have had people mad at me because I didnt overstuff myself at some holiday meal . I am lunasun Sep 2015 #254

I'll tell you what happens when I eat tomato. Manifestor_of_Light Sep 2015 #275

So you're upset that your friends don't go to the same trouble as you do for them? cleanhippie Aug 2015 #216

No. I am upset that my friends promised a vegetarian option and that option consisted of 3 slices Luminous Animal Aug 2015 #226

Maybe they don't really want you there and this is their passive-aggressive way cleanhippie Sep 2015 #235

It is indeed, appreciative and rather grateful to invite a recovering alcoholic out for a few drinks LanternWaste Sep 2015 #269

Yeah, taking an alcoholic to a bar is exactly like making a shitty vegan meal for a vegan. cleanhippie Sep 2015 #271

were they really thick slices snooper2 Sep 2015 #243

They were probably the wrong kind, like Hothouse instead of Heirloom cleanhippie Sep 2015 #272

Almost sounds passive aggressive but I do not know the relationship lunasun Sep 2015 #255

Well this thread went 100 politics, recipes, and ways to make a ziploc bag Aerows Aug 2015 #225

Call Congress right effing now!!!!! aikoaiko Sep 2015 #227

Don't worry, I will not invite you. demosincebirth Sep 2015 #230

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Sep 2015 #233

OK, I won't invite you. LannyDeVaney Sep 2015 #238

Yep my thought 2. dembotoz Sep 2015 #245

friends i have know for 20plus years kpete Sep 2015 #244

Many animals do eat other animals. LisaL Sep 2015 #256

yes kpete Sep 2015 #261

I would definitely stop serving them meat- and offer them recipes when they compliment your food. bettyellen Sep 2015 #250

I'm a vegetarian who is allergic to tomatoes and soy Lorien Sep 2015 #251

I suggest inviting them over for a good vegetarian meal. yellowcanine Sep 2015 #262

I am a vegetarian... I go into these situations expecting nothing. demmiblue Sep 2015 #264

I'm not a vegetarian. I've never met you. I'd still invite you over. Glassunion Sep 2015 #265

I am pretty flexible. But I was irritated on an occasion when I was sitting with a group who was GoneFishin Sep 2015 #266

I have noticed over the years that most everyone likes the veggie option... demmiblue Sep 2015 #267

I am sorry - this is less about what there was to eat and more about nadine_mn Sep 2015 #274

Ok... Snobblevitch Sep 2015 #276

How gracious of you Android3.14 Sep 2015 #277

I haven't read the thread. I may not. herding cats Sep 2015 #278