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CTyankee

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115. Another thing is people patting a pregnant woman's abdomen...

Sat Jun 13, 2015, 08:08 AM

Jun 2015

I guess they think they're being tender and maybe even protective, but damn...

Kids need to be taught boundaries of a person's space early on.

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Dear white people, please don't touch a black person's hair....or anyone's hair without permission [View all] Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 OP

One crazy old coot warrants a general warning to white people? B2G Jun 2015 #1

Yes. You'll be surprised how often this happens to black people Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #2

Well I am surprised. B2G Jun 2015 #4

We have seen enough discussion about black hair on this website BainsBane Jun 2015 #11

Really? I've heard black women talk about this my whole life! It's funny because I have an unusually bettyellen Jun 2015 #16

Another thing is people patting a pregnant woman's abdomen... CTyankee Jun 2015 #115

If you call being a racist asshat a mental ailment, sure. Starry Messenger Jun 2015 #21

Maybe he had dementia and didn't realize he was offensive. My mom Snotcicles Jun 2015 #23

We often fail to see that which invalidates our biases... LanternWaste Jun 2015 #25

I've never seen it either. cherokeeprogressive Jun 2015 #37

What the poster or the topic in question is very common JonLP24 Jun 2015 #132

perhaps you haven't witnessed it because you ariesgem Jun 2015 #46

" I've never witnessed such a thing" Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #54

Larry King "I never learned anything while I was talking" JonLP24 Jun 2015 #134

It's happened to me several times malaise Jun 2015 #78

No mental ailment. Glassunion Jun 2015 #94

Not me or anyone else I know. nt. JanMichael Jun 2015 #60

Ask next time you're hanging out with a bunch of black women- because I've never heard of it NOT bettyellen Jun 2015 #64

I have heard the comment - "I wonder what it feels like" so I believe this post. jwirr Jun 2015 #125

Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2015 #129

OFFS...DEAR WHITE PEOPLE is the MOVIE TITLE!!!!!! MADem Jun 2015 #8

I am totally aware of the context, thanks. B2G Jun 2015 #9

What's up with the ' general warning' gripe, then? MADem Jun 2015 #18

It's a lot more common than this one guy Capt. Obvious Jun 2015 #13

was thinking the same thing Snow Leopard Jun 2015 #72

No, that would be okay because... institutional racism. Oppression. Something. SMC22307 Jun 2015 #133

Wait, this is actually a thing that happens on a regular basis? NuclearDem Jun 2015 #3

It's a common thing because one instance of it was posted on Twitter. nt B2G Jun 2015 #6

Are you really that sheltered? Capt. Obvious Jun 2015 #14

You need to get out more, lol. And stop gaslighting people when you are obviously out of your depth. bettyellen Jun 2015 #17

I eagerly await your post explaining that you have black friends. (nt) jeff47 Jun 2015 #49

LOL Cali_Democrat Jun 2015 #55

country of 330 million people...chances of it happening to one person a day snooper2 Jun 2015 #7

Yeah, it really is. F4lconF16 Jun 2015 #53

It's also a male-female thing mainer Jun 2015 #5

Ain't THAT the truth! Lilith Rising Jun 2015 #123

Conversely, I once had a teenaged black girl touch my hair....... WillowTree Jun 2015 #10

It's an award winning film, not a video. MADem Jun 2015 #22

OK WillowTree Jun 2015 #35

Once a black small child treestar Jun 2015 #86

As a white gay man, I once had a black boyfriend closeupready Jun 2015 #12

But those were his friends JI7 Jun 2015 #52

I'm sure it happens and it's WRONG. Sadly, however, I suspect this old man pnwmom Jun 2015 #15

That's what I thought too gaspee Jun 2015 #61

What about Rand Paul's? KamaAina Jun 2015 #19

With Rand you take the chance that it will bite you. bluesbassman Jun 2015 #65

Jessica Williams just mentioned this on the Daily Show Prism Jun 2015 #20

Red hair does seem to be an attractant. HubertHeaver Jun 2015 #63

In 1980 my mom and I went to China LibertyLover Jun 2015 #98

We lived in Japan when my son was a toddler. all american girl Jun 2015 #111

How bout: Dear People, don't touch other people without consent NightWatcher Jun 2015 #24

This. Even if you are Carrie Jean Prejean in a bikini, don't you DARE closeupready Jun 2015 #32

But it's not as much fun. It fails to satisfy. Smarmie Doofus Jun 2015 #39

+1 treestar Jun 2015 #85

Not surprising this still happens. Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #26

I believe that this happens, but... Orrex Jun 2015 #27

"I'm sure that it's not a big deal to the jerk who's doing the grabbing." Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #29

Good point Orrex Jun 2015 #30

Uh yeah...sure....whatever you say. ileus Jun 2015 #28

I am sorry get the red out Jun 2015 #31

Dear Black People, I have never done that and never would, nor do I know anyone else who has or whathehell Jun 2015 #33

Was the OP about you? I thought it was about the experiences of thousands of black women- silly me! bettyellen Jun 2015 #41

The OP was addressed to white people, so it's about them as well. whathehell Jun 2015 #68

Lol, if you think your individual denial is somehow relevant to the issue raised.... bettyellen Jun 2015 #69

LOL whathehell Jun 2015 #74

What baloney. Do you get upset at every PSA directed at humanity when it doesn't apply to you? bettyellen Jun 2015 #84

Well apparently there are some white people who do this treestar Jun 2015 #88

Um, betty? As the number and content of our posts makes clear, whathehell Jun 2015 #93

Instead of answering you offer a personal attack. bettyellen Jun 2015 #97

I have, you just don't like the answers whathehell Jun 2015 #114

"Get help" is demeaning bullshit, and coming from someone admittedly ignorant on the topic but oh so bettyellen Jun 2015 #118

Your OP was Alerted on - DURHAM D Jun 2015 #34

Bogus alert warning! Sissyk Jun 2015 #38

While people are clearly the only people that have ever done this. 99Forever Jun 2015 #36

Now, hold on there. I had a black girl touch and feel my hair.... Eleanors38 Jun 2015 #71

I agree but... Catherine Vincent Jun 2015 #40

I bet it's pretty damn annoying.... Inkfreak Jun 2015 #42

Oh my, I'm not one to grab a persons arm but I find tattoos pretty interesting! DawgHouse Jun 2015 #45

Nah, I'm not bothered by the why or questions about them. Inkfreak Jun 2015 #47

Oh man...haven't heard about this in a long time. Rex Jun 2015 #43

It is NOT cool and I've had it happen to me. DawgHouse Jun 2015 #44

I get this as a white guy with a shaved head. Codeine Jun 2015 #48

It's a known fact that unwanted rubbing of peoples' heads is a sign of socioapathy. Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #50

Fuck he's creepy Scootaloo Jun 2015 #83

LOL does he think he's a priest? treestar Jun 2015 #89

You nailed that !!!! orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #101

his nickname for Ari Fleischer was "bald jew" JI7 Jun 2015 #109

Captain Charm Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #110

Whenever I get my summer buzz cut, people rub my head. Algernon Moncrieff Jun 2015 #51

K & R.nt m-lekktor Jun 2015 #56

Good thing I'm already divorced. n/t ieoeja Jun 2015 #57

Dear White People who are in this thread you know who you are. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #58

White people arent used to being called out, period, let alone by a Black Woman randys1 Jun 2015 #80

Yeah I should carry smelling salts when I come in here. Kalidurga Jun 2015 #95

This is a manners thing. I have NEVER touched anyone's head without permission. JanMichael Jun 2015 #59

This does happen sometimes. romanic Jun 2015 #62

Darn it... Can I still randomly rub the bellies of pregnant women? MattBaggins Jun 2015 #66

Yes, and then you can rub your sore jaw ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jun 2015 #67

That's another weird one that's very common. bettyellen Jun 2015 #70

I was just going to post about this laundry_queen Jun 2015 #99

Here is what I find strange... greytdemocrat Jun 2015 #73

That is what bothers you about all this? randys1 Jun 2015 #77

It doesn't bother me greytdemocrat Jun 2015 #87

To show JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #106

Like the ' The Round Table ' at the Algonquin ?? orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #79

Yes, it is necessary... MrScorpio Jun 2015 #90

Don't JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #113

I would never even think of touching someone else's hair. polly7 Jun 2015 #75

No one has the right,,,,,,wait a minute I don't want to be banned. orpupilofnature57 Jun 2015 #76

and whatever you do hfojvt Jun 2015 #81

Does this really happen that often? NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #82

Ask any group of black women. I've heard about it all my life. bettyellen Jun 2015 #91

See bettyellen the mistake you made JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #116

It's an amazing thing to offer opinions when you really don't know. bettyellen Jun 2015 #117

Yes. Yes it does. Glassunion Jun 2015 #96

yes. it has happened to me Liberal_in_LA Jun 2015 #102

Yes - doesn't matter what you feel JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #112

I didn't say it wasn't inappropriate. NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #135

Skeptic - hmmm 'Kay JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #136

OK NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #137

Why would people do this? mythology Jun 2015 #92

Because - I've always gotten the impression JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #105

Also, green-eyed people should never, NEVER touch my pancreas DisgustipatedinCA Jun 2015 #100

Never fails to disappoint. Zenlitened Jun 2015 #103

I have a niece with platinum blond hair. She was born with it. Snobblevitch Jun 2015 #104

Maybe it was the first time JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #124

I still think it was about the hair. (Without information telling me otherwise.) Snobblevitch Jun 2015 #127

I think every tweet she wrote JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #107

"When you choose to be blind - that's your issue." Behind the Aegis Jun 2015 #119

Oh Cali, this is the least of our problems! akbacchus_BC Jun 2015 #108

"am from the Caribbean" BumRushDaShow Jun 2015 #122

No excuses, but it sounds like perhaps diminishing mental capacity was at play. ScreamingMeemie Jun 2015 #120

I used to touch my friend's afro in kindergarten. Marr Jun 2015 #121

This bit made me laugh...... Boudica the Lyoness Jun 2015 #126

Post removed Post removed Jun 2015 #128

Its battery if unwanted JonLP24 Jun 2015 #130

How many old white men have hair-related "add on" as part of their vocabulary? SMC22307 Jun 2015 #131