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Teyonah Parris Promptly Put An 'Old Man' In His Place After He Inappropriately Touched Her Hair
It's been said so many times, you would think it was common knowledge: Don't touch a black woman's hair, or a black man's hair, or anyone's hair at that -- especially without permission.
Sadly, some people are still grappling with practicing common sense and have to learn some lessons the hard way. That is precisely what happened this week when actress Teyonah Parris was approached by an overzealous stranger who couldn't keep his hands to himself.
On Monday, the "Mad Men" actress, who usually wears her hair in beautifully elaborate natural styles, was out dining with friends when she said an "old man" approached her and grabbed her hair. Not only did she put the rude man in his place, she also publicly shared the shocking ordeal via her Twitter account.
Here's a recount of what Parris said happened (our jaws are still on the floor):
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
Teyonah Parris (@TeyonahParris) June 9, 2015
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/06/10/rude-man-touches-actress-_n_7556506.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices
B2G
(9,766 posts)Cali_Democrat
(30,439 posts)and it's usually white people doing the touching.
B2G
(9,766 posts)Completely shocked in fact. I've never witnessed such a thing.
Chances are this man was suffering from some sort of mental ailment.
BainsBane
(53,034 posts)that you shouldn't be surprised that it translates to real life behavior as well.
You also might consider that the fact you aren't African American means you aren't in a position to see it very often.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)thick and tempting head myself, so I've had some people ask me if it's happened to me.
It did only once, to a drunk who thought it was a wig and tried to swipe it off my head!
But yeah it's a thing.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I guess they think they're being tender and maybe even protective, but damn...
Kids need to be taught boundaries of a person's space early on.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)That's the ticket.
Snotcicles
(9,089 posts)would say some strange things she would never had said before she had it.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)We often fail to see that which invalidates our biases. Hence, I'm not surprised you've never seen it happen... regardless of how many times you've observed it happening.
cherokeeprogressive
(24,853 posts)I always miss out on stuff like that. Check out lines at the supermarket are boring as hell too.
JonLP24
(29,322 posts)There are various hair styles when it comes to black woman hair that some are unique to white people. White women are usually or only ones from my personal experience I can remember -- I remember requests to touch it usually but lacking the perspective or the insight to know it comes across as irritating usually.
Airport pat-downs of black women's hairstyles discriminatory: ACLU
Two black women who said their hairstyles made them targets for airport security pat-downs said on Thursday the Transportation Security Administration (TSA) had agreed to stop singling out women for screening based solely on their "sisterlocks."
Malaika Singleton, a neuroscientist based in Sacramento, said she was on her way to London last year for an academic conference on dementia when a TSA agent at Los Angeles International Airport began pulling and squeezing her hair.
"I was going through the screening procedures like we all do, and after I stepped out of the full body scanner, the agent said, 'OK, now I'm going to check your hair,'" Singleton said on Thursday.
The same thing happened when she passed through the Minneapolis airport on her way back home, Singleton said.
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She contacted the American Civil Liberties Union, and it turned out that one of the lawyers there, a black woman who also wears the tiny, stylized form of dreadlocks known as sisterlocks had the same experience - twice.
Novella Coleman, the ACLU attorney, had already filed a complaint about the practice in 2012, to no avail, Coleman said on Thursday. She filed another complaint based on Singleton's experience, and on Thursday the two women said that the agency had agreed to conduct anti-discrimination training sessions with its officers to avoid what they called racial profiling of hair.
"The first time I was on a trip with colleagues, some other attorneys who were white and Latina," said Novella Coleman, the ACLU lawyer who filed the complaint.
"The woman said, 'I need to search your hair now,' and she just started grabbing my hair and squeezing it from top to bottom," Coleman said. Her white and Latina colleagues underwent no such searches, she said.
http://www.reuters.com/article/2015/03/27/us-usa-california-hair-idUSKBN0MN01L20150327
I don't know what you're referring to exactly with check-out lines but lines in general here in Arizona provide opportunities to overhear Republican and/or racist rhetoric which is ridiculously common in the most conservative city of +250,000
ariesgem
(1,634 posts)are not in a position to experience it. Happens to me ALL THE TIME. Especially when I wear braids.
I get the usual - "ooh can I touch 'it?'", "is that that really ALL your hair or extensions?", "can you WASH 'it'?"...smh
Cali_Democrat
(30,439 posts)That doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
Try listening to black women and they will tell you.
Instead of talking, try listening.
JonLP24
(29,322 posts)malaise
(269,024 posts)First time was in Macy's in New York 1970.
Glassunion
(10,201 posts)When wore a fro, folks would constantly touch it.
JanMichael
(24,890 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Happening, multiple times. I think it's much less frequent with men. Ask, and you will learn.
jwirr
(39,215 posts)Response to Cali_Democrat (Reply #2)
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MADem
(135,425 posts)Read the post...the WHOLE post, contextually.
https://m.youtube.com/?#/watch?v=Uag2G0J6iqw
B2G
(9,766 posts)MADem
(135,425 posts)DWP is a way of prefacing a meme. It's not dissimilar to the phrase Pro Tip.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Snow Leopard
(348 posts)I can imagine if the post said "black people please stop ...... fill in the blanks" Everyone gets up in arms about sweeping generalizations or stereotypes unless it is about white people. This is not going to help the situation imho.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)I think that's how it goes...
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)For the love of God people, keep your hands to yourself.
B2G
(9,766 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)bettyellen
(47,209 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)You're funny.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)possible...?
F4lconF16
(3,747 posts)People mess with other people's hair all the time. The two guys with afros in my high school band had to deal with people touching their hair constantly.
mainer
(12,022 posts)Men who say leering things at women will excuse it by adding it's all "just a compliment."
Lilith Rising
(184 posts)Gross.
WillowTree
(5,325 posts).......saying that she always wondered what "yellow" hair feels like. In that circumstance, I thought it was cute, but I do understand how other people in other situations might find it intrusive. Or maybe I should have looked for a video called #Dear Black People and thrown a hitsy over it.
People are naturally curious about people who are unlike themselves. Granted, it's poor manners and surely the older fella should have known better, but in the scheme of offensive and intrusive things that people do, this is on the very low side. Then again, other people seem to get a lot more enjoyment out of getting offended than I do.
MADem
(135,425 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)rubbed my arm. I think he wanted to see if the white stuff comes off!
closeupready
(29,503 posts)who said that when he was in college, all his white guy friends wanted to touch his hair. It was a 'thing'. He thoroughly loved it.
More generally, I imagine there are plenty of black people who bristle at self-appointed black leaders telling people (in general) what black people do want and don't want. A VERY patronizing thing to do, IMO, as we saw here recently with NYC_SKP's PPR.
On edit, it's thought-provoking that of 12 responses, I see only 5, 10, and 12 (my own).
JI7
(89,250 posts)I think the complaint is more with strangers
pnwmom
(108,980 posts)might have some sort of dementia -- which is why he was so persistent.
People with various forms of dementia experience changes in behavior. They often say whatever comes to mind, without censoring themselves at all.
Of course I know nothing about this particular man. He may have always been a racist jerk. But there is the possibility that this is something new -- and his poor daughter is stuck dealing with it.
gaspee
(3,231 posts)My dad has dementia and he does inappropriate things he never would have done before hand.
And yet, I still believe it is a thing - even though in this particular incident, I thought the guy had dementia as soon as I read it.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)I mean, it's not like it's really his.
bluesbassman
(19,374 posts)And I believe he's an anti-vaxxer too so there's alway a chance of rabies.
Prism
(5,815 posts)During the bit about the McKinney pool party. It's a common thing.
Weirdly, I get the same thing more often than one would think. I have medium brown hair that goes kind of golden red in sunlight. When Uber driving, maybe once or twice a week, I'll have a passenger try to touch my hair if it's showing red. Every single time, it is an Asian passenger from Asia. And usually guys (I assume gay. Maybe they're hitting on me. I have no idea).
A black friend of mine constantly has this problem. Tourists from Asia are always stopping him in San Francisco, wanting to touch his hair, wanting to take pictures with him. He takes it good naturedly, but you can tell it wears him down over time. And some days he is just not. in. the. mood.
I don't blame him.
HubertHeaver
(2,522 posts)Fifty or so years ago, when I had hair, it was bright red. Seems like there was always somebody scruffing it. My children all have bright red hair. The youngest seemed to attract the most attention. He had one of his brothers cut it off. The only way to even it out was to turn him into a skinhead. Then his ears prominently protruded from the sides of his head inviting ear-pulls.
LibertyLover
(4,788 posts)Mom had blonde hair that at the time was only a little Miss Clairol. Mine was reddish gold. We were in Guongzhou, Nanning, Kunming and Beijing. In the 2 smaller cities of Nanning and Kunming we were followed around by a whole bunch of men who kept wanting to touch our hair. It was a bit disconcerting, as I had never wanted to touch anybody's hair except my own. I don't even really like to,touch my daughter's. I know it happens, but I just don't understand it.
all american girl
(1,788 posts)He had blonde hair, blue eyes, and chubby cheeks. It was amazing how many people would poke him in the chest and say how cute he was. He hated it. Some people don't know personal space, I guess.
NightWatcher
(39,343 posts)It solves a lot of problems.
closeupready
(29,503 posts)touch me without my consent. Period.
Nick Jonas? Okay, I'll let it slide. THIS time.
Smarmie Doofus
(14,498 posts)We feel *stronger* when we're angry.
It's a psychological fact of life and it's REALLY hard to get over.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I wouldn't want someone touching my hair, either!
Behind the Aegis
(53,959 posts)It seems to me it is more common among women, meaning they are usually the recipients of the "pat down." It is similar to "is that your real hair?" or "is that natural?". It is simple as "don't invade someone's personal space"! I have honestly never understood the "fascination" some have with wanting to touch other people's hair.
As a side note, when my brother was in Kenya, the children liked to touch his hair because it was curly and wiry (Jewish genes) and it wasn't something they normally saw.
Orrex
(63,213 posts)Honestly it would never have occurred to me that it's a thing. I mean, what kind of an asshole would do that?
It's akin to grabbing a pregant woman's belly or mushing the cheeks of someone else's infant. Keep your hands to yourself, dammit!
In the discussions I've had about this--both about the hair-touching and the pregnancy/infant-grabbing--the justification has always been "Lighten up, it's not a big deal."
I'm sure that it's not a big deal to the jerk who's doing the grabbing.
Behind the Aegis
(53,959 posts)Or to the person who is not getting grabbed!
Orrex
(63,213 posts)ileus
(15,396 posts)get the red out
(13,466 posts)I had no idea white people did that! WTF is wrong with so many people that look like me???? How can someone ever think of doing that???? I am glad she told him off!
whathehell
(29,067 posts)would.
Glad we got that covered.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)whathehell
(29,067 posts)In addition to checking out the other Caucasians on the thread who, like me, responded as individuals,
you might want to consider that when you address an entire race on one issue, you can expect such responses.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Well it's pretty self involved, but go for it.
whathehell
(29,067 posts)When one attributes something as idiosyncratic as non-consensual hair touching to an entire
race, I'm afraid questions of "relevance" and perspective have already left the room.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Nope. But god forbid a woman of color talks back about a phenomena that bothers her. Dismiss, deny and denigrate is the response here.
Ain't that special.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Is the poster denying that? I don't think so. You're being pretty mean. Why would every white person know about it and should we all be on a crusade about it? I get that it's a thing, but before I learned about it, I didn't know about it either. I would say the white people who do that are rude and overly curious but that's not the worst of racism in white people.
whathehell
(29,067 posts)I am not the one who is "upset". You are upset. I didn't respond in the way
you thought I should, so you've been yammering away at me, putting words in my mouth
in an earnest effort to make a mountain out of a mole hill.
Accusing others of emotions you yourself are feeling is called "projection". Help is available.
Enjoy your evening. I intend to enjoy mine, so that means saying "adieu"
to you and wishing you well.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I was merely observing what is all too obvious from your many posts in this thread. Dismiss, deny and denigrate. It's all you have to offer.
Poor you.
whathehell
(29,067 posts)and so respond with distortions and "personal attacks" of your own.
Sorry, Bet, I'm getting bored -- You'll have to find someone else to fight with.
Buh bye.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Opinionated is pretty fucked up. Angry? Lol, nope.
I just point out gaslighting bullshit when I see it.
Your increasingly hostile responses are pretty interesting. Sad, but all too common here these days.
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Sissyk
(12,665 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)I'm so ashamed.
Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)in a laundromat when I was 14. She was around 1. Apparently, the blonde hair was something new! Her Mom (and I) said it was okay.
Catherine Vincent
(34,490 posts)People shouldn't be touching anybody's hair without their permission.
Inkfreak
(1,695 posts)I'm covered in tattoos and if it's anything like like what I deal with, it's frustrating. People are always grabbing my arms to look at the tats and twisting and turning the arm to get closer looks. Personal space! Learn about it.
DawgHouse
(4,019 posts)Is it rude to ask "why" a person has a certain tattoo? I'm often curious about the choice of body art but don't mean to sound as if I am judging them.
Most people are willing to talk about it but I didn't realize I might be overstepping a boundary.
Inkfreak
(1,695 posts)Though I don't have great stories for every one. Some were just cool & I wanted it. Some are personal expressions. The touching thing isn't the norm. But it has happened so I thought of that when reading this.
Rex
(65,616 posts)What is it about black peoples hair and some white peoples...fetish?...compulsion...to touch it? As a white person that really freaks me out. I am sure some here have never heard about this 'issue', but I saw it firsthand growing up in south Texas.
Weird and perverse imo.
It is like me walking up to X and saying, "my your arms are so smooth and silky...I must touch them!"
DawgHouse
(4,019 posts)I have hair that is long and curls in spirals. Twice I have had a stranger in an elevator reach out and grab a curl, stretch it out and watch it spring back in place. They seemed to think they were complimenting me on my hair because they would comment that they liked my hair or it was "cool".
It's weird to be touched by strangers.
FYI - I'm white, if that matters, but it's not cool to touch anyone without asking!
Codeine
(25,586 posts)It always freaks me out /- I don't know where your hands have been so I sure as HELL don't want them on my scalp!
Add in the layer of racial patronizing that the writer has to deal with and I'd probably deck someone. A better person than I.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)He looks like he is baptizing them!
orpupilofnature57
(15,472 posts)JI7
(89,250 posts)Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I'm sure that sort of thing was good for all sorts of hearty yuks, around the Yale Fraternity Keggers.
On a global leader, though, it looks pretty bad,
Algernon Moncrieff
(5,790 posts)I don't get bent out of shape about it.
m-lekktor
(3,675 posts)ieoeja
(9,748 posts)Kalidurga
(14,177 posts)Stop freaking out when a black woman calls out white people over touching her hair. I am sure she doesn't mean #allwhitepeople.
randys1
(16,286 posts)Kalidurga
(14,177 posts)JanMichael
(24,890 posts)Not the stupid mo-hawks or Dreds or braids or bald or tattooed or pony tails etfuckingcetera.
Do not lecture me.
romanic
(2,841 posts)I know my step sister had a similar experience when an older Middle Eastern woman asked if she could touch her afro. She was nice enough to let her (the woman was one of the patients in the senior home she worked in) but at least the woman asked! I get that some are fascinated by afros but its rudeto just touch someone without consent.
That said, was anyone side-eying the language of the tweets with the "brown folks"? Why not just say friends instead? Struck me a bit of a race separatist. js
MattBaggins
(7,904 posts)JustABozoOnThisBus
(23,344 posts).. an ice bag will help.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)I can totally believe black women deal with this constantly, as when I was pregnant people constantly touched my belly. Total strangers did it. EW! By the time I was pregnant with my 3rd I would stand in such a way as to avoid anyone being able to accost me. The worst was when, with my first, my husband's dad's old friend ran up to me, got down on his hands and knees, and starting rubbing and stroking my belly while talking to the baby. He was a stranger to me - I had briefly met him once before. I was so icked out.
I'll have to ask my SIL if people do this to her. She's half black but we live in an area that is very diverse and she said she's never experienced any racism at all. So I'll have to ask her about this. I do know neither me nor my kids have touched her hair - and we know her pretty well, LOL. It's called respecting people's personal space. Apparently that is a very difficult concept for some people.
greytdemocrat
(3,299 posts)Brown folk?? People find it necessary to mention their color?
Now that I find strange. Whatever.
randys1
(16,286 posts)greytdemocrat
(3,299 posts)I simply find it strange someone would
use a phrase like that.
And I tend to believe the old coot probably
had a degenerative disease that was affecting him.
The whole thing strikes me as over blown anyway.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)The environment, who was with her, and the general reaction from the company she keeps.
orpupilofnature57
(15,472 posts)MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)I can explain why in detail, if you'd like.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)There are some du-ers who can only focus on one task at a time.
Same folks will pretend that rubbing your head isn't offensive (they know it is)
But pointing out a white person who doesn't keep their hands to themselves - and having them mocked in a public forum -
Is the worst thing in the world.
It's so mean.
The woman who tweeted this out - she's mean. Is sensitive. Etc etc.
Yet - they have empathy for a boar who lacks basic manners.
All I can think is the elderly man's mother was worthless because my mother - who is also white - taught me to keep my hands to myself and respect boundaries.
His mother was worthless.
polly7
(20,582 posts)My sisters and I sang on tv once - it was a regional entertainment thing on once a week where people sent in names of those they thought should be on. I had bouncy, super long hair that my aunt had made even curlier. Before the cameras started, the host kept grabbing my curls and watching them bounce back. He was so, so strange. Something that should have been fun and exciting, and all I felt about it was creeped out.
orpupilofnature57
(15,472 posts)hfojvt
(37,573 posts)don't EVER shoot a woman's hair
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)Come on now - I'm not feeling it.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)Was assuming that all Democratic party members "rub shoulders" with us.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)I'm sure they don't intend to gaslight or "mans plain"... But when you offer your two cents before considering you really don't have a clue, what are others to think?
Glassunion
(10,201 posts)Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)People who had no home training - ie terrible parents who did not teach them basic manners and to keep their hands to themselves - engage in this behavior.
I think - if she had framed the argument as - "can you believe the Ritz allows people who put their hands on other people into their establishment?" -
She would have made it palatable for a segment of the population who are too self absorbed to understand why being a rude obnoxious boar is inappropriate.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I've just never heard of it happening, and I'm still very skeptical that it happens often. My "feelings" have nothing to do with it.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)Does it have to happen every day - five times a day for it be a thing?
:lmao: - my husband slapped someone's hand away from my hair at a graduation party two weeks ago.
Luckily it was another Calabrese man and they bring their respect - and he apologized. It's their culture. but an American born and raised white male - was too ignorant to even apologize.
Again - he wasn't raised right. His mother did a poor job.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)mythology
(9,527 posts)It's really kind of creepy to think you have the right to touch other people you don't know.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)They had a black friend once in the third grade who didn't have hair like xyz.
Most of the people who have done this to me - seem to think black people are something fascinating - like we are from a circus freak show.
Here's an idea - if everyone kept their hands to themselves - it wouldn't be a problem.
I was raised that you don't ever put hands other people.
The man in the OP was intrusive, rude, ignorant, and made a problem for another person because he has zero social skills.
DisgustipatedinCA
(12,530 posts)And no pageant winners of any type should ever touch anyone else's earlobe.
Zenlitened
(9,488 posts)A black woman tells of her experience in this life, out jumps a bunch of old white guys to blurt out, "I've never heard of that, it's not a big deal anyway, no you're the racist for bringing up race."
And they've lived such sheltered lives, apparently, that they really don't seem to realize how obviously, glaringly ridiculous their comments are to everyone looking on. Didn't you notice you walked out of the house today with no pants on?
It would be funny, I guess, if it wasn't so toxic. But it's so damn toxic. Leaves even an old white lady like me retching and ill.
Snobblevitch
(1,958 posts)People would touch her hair without asking permission while she was in a stroller.
I wonder what hairstyle this actress was wearing when she had her hair touched. I just looked at her photos at imdb.com. While there is no excuse for anyone touching somebody's hair without permission, this actress certainly has sported some interesting hairstyles. I'm not convinced this is all about race and not just plain rudeness.
JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)He ever saw a black person in the Ritz?
Snobblevitch
(1,958 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,828 posts)Was funny!
You are getting push back because you showed - by her tweets -
That sometimes when non black folks overstep physical boundaries - they get laughed at in a group setting (twitter, the tea party at the ritz) - and treated like a culture oddity.
And disregard some of these folks who have no clue. The blind man says one day we'll see. When you choose to be blind - that's your issue.
They can't relate, don't give one fuck, and just stepped into this to look down their noses at a womn doing the right thing - using her words - instead of the wrong thing -
Slapping his hand so hard he'd put them in his pockets every time he saw a black woman on the street.
Behind the Aegis
(53,959 posts)a-yup!
Rather than listen to the perspective of the affected party, it is the "guilty" party who becomes the "victim." When you are offended, you are supposed to take their offense and abuse with good nature and aplomb. Or, better yet, they will tell you what your opinion/action/feelings should be in order to satisfy their needs.
"Slapping his hand so hard he'd put them in his pockets every time he saw a black woman on the street."
But would that have been wrong? He invaded her personal space...repeatedly.
akbacchus_BC
(5,704 posts)Who cares if someone wants to touch your hair, they are just being curious!
We need to concentrate in electing another President who cares about working class people and not only the middle class.
You know what, am from the Caribbean, and many a times I see someone with dreadlocks, and I wish I could touch it to see if it is real but I refrain. Back home, it would not be an issue but here in Canada, a white guy or girl with dreads is not a good idea to ask.
Hair is not the issue and I do not understand what is your issue about hair. I might be insensitive, I suppose.
BumRushDaShow
(129,061 posts)Welcome to the American way. Where millions of us were dragged here and objectified into commodities that were to be bought and sold and dehumanized for financial gain. And even today, we are considered animals to be petted, scolded, disciplined, hunted, and shot on sight like wild game. When you are a minority in the country to which you were born (which you weren't), there's a whole different dynamic.
The "problems" are NOT the "least". It is a part of the issue of the American definition and cultural manifestation of "race" and "superiority", which have been going on for centuries - the hourly, daily, monthly, yearly, and generational indignities. A President "who cares about working class people" is irrelevant when you are the wrong color because they treat the least among us and the greatest among us, the same way - as chattel and non-human.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Some of the words he said and the way his daughter responded. That said, I agree with you.
Marr
(20,317 posts)But I was five. And it was enormous.
Seriously, it was like he had his own storm cloud that followed him around, lol.
But yes, I would agree that it's bad form to touch anyone anywhere without permission, or at least a very good reason-- like they're about to be run over by a bus.
Boudica the Lyoness
(2,899 posts)"Having tea at The Ritz w/beautiful brown folk".
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JonLP24
(29,322 posts)It is always wise to keep your hands to yourself.
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)I wonder if this really did happen, or if Teyonah has "created a fiction" to promote her hair movie.
She's the one who may be clueless and ignorant, especially if the old white man has some sort of dementia.