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In reply to the discussion: Our daughter has been indoctrinated by the Fauxed and Christianed family she married into. [View all]GitRDun
(1,846 posts)My oldest (29) and youngest daughter (22) got into a fight with their brother. It was over something really dumb. Not worth a harsh word by anyone.
The youngest instigated it. The oldest escalated it to the point where she first broke an electronic item he was holding. Then she followed it up by hitting her brother so hard in the ear he lost 90% of his hearing in that ear; and he happens to be a musician.
While he was not guiltless (called them some names in response to their bad words), he didn't hurt anyone, and was trying to leave when he got cold cocked.
While I was not there when it happened, I did try hard to get them to talk to each other and apologize.
The girls were so blind they refused to reconcile "until he gets help".
I ripped up their Xmas gift checks as well as my youngest's graduation gift check. Told them they could have them back when they start acting like adults.
Their response?
They ghosted me. It's been a year.
The reality of it from my perspective is it's not healthy for me to be in relationships with people who cannot treat those around them with simple respect.
While I am open to a relationship, I am not open to one where I have to accept a lack of respect and decency as a part of it.
Just my opinion... better alone than in bad company.