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And, as CA Peg said, to make legal provisions to carry out your wishes.
Personally, I absolutely HATE going to funerals. I've lost a lot of people in my life, which makes funerals very tough for me. At the same time, I understand how important it is for the living to have some way of closure in dealing with a loss.
The issue came up again for me a few months ago, when I lost my little brother. He was cremated, so there was a memorial service instead of a funeral, and it was followed by a wake at his house with his wife, and son, and daughter and many, many friends. And what a time we had!
The eulogies at the service were filled with loving remembrances--and a lot of funny stories about my brother. They moved my other brother and me to get up and speak (something we'd had NO intention of doing), to share some of our own memories and funny stories.
It was more of the same at the "reception," which was really more of an Irish wake. There were tears, but there was far more laughter throughout. It was a real celebration of my brother's life, and I would not have missed it for the world. I lost my brother, but the events marking his passing were among the most memorable experiences of my life. It gave me a new outlook on these ceremonies that I used to dread so much.
As for those medical interventions, I had a friend who went through a lung transplant that was difficult, but it gave him eight more years. Other friends have gone through various heart interventions--and I'm happy to report that they're all still here. Something to think about before dismissing them--they can be and often are a real lifesaving and life-extending possibility.
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