I'm all out of strong...

[one_voice]

Today my husband lost his job--downsizing. He'd been working for the company for over two years. He was out of work for a 1 1/2 before he found that job. It wiped us out, trying to stay a float during that time.

We have very little saved, because the job payed a lot less than he was making. We were barely making ends meet.

They worked the shit out of him...he worked every bit of 70 hours a week. A year ago October he had a heart attack. The heart attack happened on a Wednesday, he was back to work Monday.

I'm scared we're going to lose everything. I can't do this again. He heard me crying and said just be strong..it will be ok.

I don't have any strong left. I can't stop crying. There aren't any jobs out there. What are people like us supposed to do? He not only lost the job, but the health insurance too. He has a heart condition, meds he has to take.

I don't have anymore strong...

[Harmony Blue]

1. Hang in there

:hug:

True inner strength comes from those that have supreme empathy for others.

[sinkingfeeling]

2. What type of work does your husband do? I'm very sorry for your situation.

http://www.careerbuilder.com/jobs/Delaware/

Where are you located?

[Denninmi]

3. OMG, I'm so sorry for your circumstances.

I hope you will find the support you need.

This is such a typical story in America these days. People are treated as garbage, cast away when they are unwanted.

[Bluebear]

4. I'm so very sorry

[grantcart]

5. ((hug))

no words could be found to give an adequate response to your very personal and honest piece.

no words at all.

[truedelphi]

17. Same here. What can anyone say?

But a (hug) anyway.

[lsewpershad]

29. +1

[Sarah Ibarruri]

6. I'm so sorry. Maybe you could post his job and geographical area on here?

It could well be that someone in the same geographical area might know of something??

[librechik]

7. contact your state social sevices office

you need all kinds of help and they are your best hope at this point.

[jwirr]

55. I agree. You have been paying your taxes - go get help. Also one

of the things I have heard through the grape vine is that those who can are applying for Social Security Disability. After a heart attack I would think that may be a possibility.

[librechik]

73. yes indeed--in my state they have Aid to the Needy Disabled

which is a fast entry into disability, since SSI takes a long time to come through, and usually rejects the first application. Keep trying though!

[RebelOne]

8. I'm sorry you are in this situation. There is nothing I can

suggest to ease the pain of your problem. There are so many in the same situation. Do you have any relatives that can help you out until your husband finds another position? That's is probably a stupid question, but just thought I would ask. At least your husband can collect unemployment. It's not much but it will at least put food on the table.

I was laid off my job in 2010. Fortunately, I was already collecting social security. It is a pittance, but it pays my bills and I won't have to eat cat food for a while. I have a little savings, but I am trying not to touch it in case of a dire emergency.

[TwilightGardener]

9. Sorry to hear of your troubles. That's a damn shame, to get back on your feet

only to be knocked down again. Unfair. Well, you still have each other--that's what my parents used to say to each other when they were financially barely hanging on. Usually accompanied by a dark chuckle. They had a grim sense of humor that always helped them keep their sanity. I wish you and your husband strength, humor and optimism to see you through.

[Bragi]

10. I'm so sorry for you

Words fail. I don't pray, so I'm sending you verdant, positive thoughts.

[Lunabelle]

11. I am really sorry

I understand your situation. I am a 50 year old nurse with no savings. I am just one illness away from bankruptcy. Good luck and I hope you can find more strength somewhere.

[duhneece]

12. I'm hugging you and sending you some of my 'strong'

Please know I love my DU sister and sending you all of the love and strength vibes/prayers one human can. I am lifting you up in my heart and in my mind.

[livetohike]

13. I'm sorry this happened

:hug: You will be okay, you've done it before. It sounds like a cliche, but "When one door closes, another one opens." Something better will come along.

[truedelphi]

14. I am done with pity - I'd like to smash these

Fuckers so much that they never ever recover.

How dare any of these people even exist. How dare good people have to cry over what was once a given - that Americans had jobs!

Somewhere there has to be a damn accounting of this all.

And the blame needs to be right at the top of the pile.

We spend

TRILLIONS AND TRILLIONS AND TRILLIONS
AND TRILLIONS AND
TRILLIONS

on the MIC and the unending wars.

Why Mr Geithner! Why could you, did you, must you, see to it that Trillions went to your friends on Wall Street, with billions more planned as "loans" to the deadly nuke industry.

Give us our manufacturing base back, You Scum Bag!

[DirkGently]

33. Amen. And hang in, one_voice.

[sfpcjock]

15. These times feel bleak.

But it could just be an appearance, so do your best to be open. You will feel different soon. :grouphug: :yourock:

www.Dice.com (Tech site)

[lunatica]

16. ((((((((( one-voice )))))))))

Reading this I just want to cry with you. This really made me cry.

[sharp_stick]

18. I'm so sorry and about the meds

I don't know what he takes but look into PPRX for prescription assistance if you can. The earlier you look into it the earlier you can find out if you can get anything from it.

http://www.pparx.org/

If you can look into it while he still has some health coverage you may be able to get any prescriptions moved around by his Cardiologist to make sure you can get the best stuff from the program.

on edit: I'd call them rather than fill out the web forms. At least that way you know you're speaking to a real person.

[onestepforward]

19. I'm so sorry.

Wishing for strength and comfort for you and your family.

:hug:

[gateley]

20. I'm so sorry, too.

We care - our hearts ache for you.

Over the years I've learned that no matter how bad it gets, no matter that we can't possibly imagine any way out, we always manage to keep on going. And though I say I've learned this, every time something new comes along that scares me to death, I think, "well, I've made it through before somehow, but NO WAY will I make it through THIS time!" And I don't know how, and the results aren't always what I'd ideally want, but I'm still here. Bad times and good times, we always survive.

I'm waiting for the day when you're reporting back that you've made it through this -- again. I hope it's not a long time coming this time. :hug:

[Stinky The Clown]

21. . . . .

I can only nod my head in understanding.

:hug:

[deutsey]

22. I'm so sorry to hear this

There are some good suggestions in this thread...I hope they help. :hug:

[monmouth]

23. I just posted a Time-Warner hiring in Tampa, FL. $50K plus ..Hang in there...n/t

[Melinda]

24. Low cost by mail prescription site:

http://www.rxoutreach.org/

On of our medications is $400 a month locally; we pay $45 for a 3 month prescription using RX Outreach.

Look for Human/Social service agencies in your area. Perhaps your husbands physician might consider him for disability. Let your friends, family and community help. I hope this helps - empathy, compassion and understanding is all else I have to offer. And take life each day as it comes... just one day at a time.

:hug:

Melinda

[RebelOne]

28. Also, check out the Canadian drug Web sites.

I order my blood pressure meds for half the price. And you do not need a prescription.

p://www.family-online-pharmacy.com/purchase_blood_pressure_generic/

[TheKentuckian]

25. one_voice, I surely understand that feeling of going to the well a few too many times

I know too well the feeling of dragging yourself back to precariously on your feet only to not only get knocked down but finding yourself in a deeper hole to climb out of just to get back where you just dropped from. In the past ten years I've been through four shut downs along with a couple of cutbacks and a few pay cuts.
I can't pump sunshine, it takes some mustard off every time but I can say you deserve better and the home fires have to keep burning. You cannot give up on you, you can't give up on your spouse, he can't give up on you and you both can never give up on your "us" because if you do they win and you will find you had more to lose than you realize as it is extracted.


I pray for you and yours to have a renewal of spirits and a revival of opportunity for all of us and warn that this is going to be the good old days if we don't really fight back against the establishment, there is no compromise with their vision. It can be mitigated to certain degrees but there is no compromise with the heading. Mitigating or curbing the worsts is not going to cut it and will make the problem DEEPER if not also worse

[renate]

26. I'm so sorry

To have even a threadbare rug yanked out from under you is so scary. We all wish we had a magic answer for you, some fabulous piece of advice that will fix everything (and the tips on getting prescriptions at a low price are pretty useful). We all wish we could make everything better. I hope it helps just a little bit to know that many people are thinking of you right now, sending you prayers and good wishes and compassion.

:grouphug:

[InkAddict]

27. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you and so many more

of us. It is small consolation, I know, but you are not alone in suffering losses of home, health, and most important of all, the jobs that sustain whatever we do to be ourselves. THEY are weak and cowardly, sociopaths bent on destruction; WE are strong and brave against them. You may have to make many more changes along the path you both share; savor, if nothing else, the time to enjoy those things and the time together that can't be purchased, because I suspect there will be many martyrs. GIVING IN doesn't mean GIVING UP!

[Ezlivin]

30. Can you chill out at your vacation home?

Or at least have the in-home chef prepare a tasty meal as a distraction? In trying times I find that these little comforts can mean so much.

Whoops, I'm sorry. For a moment I had you confused with a Republican going through "hard times."

I truly wish the best for you and hope that you can replenish your strength through the compassion and empathy of family and friends for they are the true wealth.

[chill_wind]

31. So very sorry.

Goddamit, it's just wrong. Wrong!

:-(

[GoCubsGo]

32. I'm sorry. You/re not alone, sadly.

I've been going through this shit for over four years, and I'm at the end of my rope, too. Here's hoping they get better for us and everyone else in our situations.

[ZombieHorde]

34. ...

:hug:

[one_voice]

35. Thank you to everyone...

for the kind words and the helpful links and advice. I can't tell you how much it means to have a community to go to when things are good as well as bad.

To all that are going through the same...and I know it's many based on this thread alone...I will keep all of you in my thoughts and wish you the best of luck out there.

I'm so sad for my country, to see what it's become. Where people are treated with such indifference and disrespect. Where someone's worth is based on how much they can do for you...and when you've used them up you throw them away. This isn't how it's supposed to be.

How are we supposed to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps, when they make sure the boots have to straps.

I'm beyond being disgusted, and feeling beaten down. No matter I will find the strength and be there for my husband. Watching him cry and hearing him say he failed, is killing me. We'll get through this together..what other choice do we have.

Again, thank you to all who took the time to post encouragement, look up sites to help me. I'm kinda shell shocked right now and it's really appreciated. :grouphug:

[shireen]

36. you deserve better

it's sickening to hear this. i wish i had something useful to say but feel glad that others here have given valuable advice.

:hug:

[SammyWinstonJack]

48. ...

:hug: :cry:


Yes, it isn't suppose to be like this.

[a la izquierda]

I don't know what to say, one_voice....

except that I hope a little light shines in a window for you and your husband.

[a la izquierda]

37. I don't know what to say, one_voice....

except that I hope a little light shines in a window for you and your husband.

[sellitman]

38. All I can do is offer a hug

We have been hit too. I was out for 2 years. Now I work 7 days a week for less.

[dixiegrrrrl]

39. Maybe this will help on the health issues?

A list of free/low cost clinics.
I have no idea how current the list is for your state, worth a shot, tho.

http://www.needymeds.org/free_clinics.taf

[handmade34]

40. take some of mine for a bit

:hug:

[donheld]

41. Sorry I can't do more

:hug:

[Name removed]

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[democrank]

43. I`m so very sorry, one_voice.

Sending a hug....

[Odin2005]

44. !!!!!!!!!

:hug:

[Enthusiast]

45. one_voice, I'm very sorry to hear of

your circumstances. I sure hope things will work out for the good.

As you know there are millions of good hard working Americans like you and your husband in similar circumstances.

In light of this suffering the idea that the Republicans would obstruct the passage of the President's jobs bill* just looks all the more cruel. I hope they get their much deserved reward in 2012.

I am not in 100% agreement with the President's bill but at least it is "something" and it should be moved forward as quickly as possible.

[tpsbmam]

46. I'm so sorry, one voice. I hope you'll find the strong again with time

It's these times I wish I were a lottery winner and could step in with help.

:grouphug: (For Mr. one_voice, too)

[SammyWinstonJack]

47. So sorry. Us 'lesser' people matter not one wit to the greedy bastards who control us

That much is clear. :mad:

[AmBlue]

49. {{{{{{{{{one_voice}}}}}}}}}}

A hug and a prayer is all I have to offer.... but it is heartfelt. I truly hope things turn around for you.

[bertman]

50. This is a horrible situation and I'm very sorry to hear about your and your

husband's misfortunes.

[Auntie Bush]

51. One_voice, I hope I have your permission to send your storyto my very Repub. brother who is always

sending me propaganda letters that all those ReThugs send to each other and to Liberal friends and family who hate to be rude and ask them to shove their crap back in their own mouths. I'd like him to read your letter and remind him you and a million other people across the US have sad, desperate, depressing life situations like yours.

The very people who want to help them are Liberals. I want to ask my brother (who is a surgeon and spent 35 years helping people and saving lives...who also has a very serious heart problem and has an expensive pacemaker just like Dick Cheney. He'd be dead by now if he didn't have extra expensive health insurance) how he can take part in voting for a party that doesn't want to help those poor people hang on to their lives and health? He should have enough empathy after seeing so many miserable people to want to help them.

However, I'm afraid my beloved brother has become very selfish in his old age. Maybe he just feels he worked hard for his money and deserves every penny. But, if it weren't for a father that cared about education and had the funds to send him to college and medical school...he wouldn't have what he has today and could very well be in the same situation as you and millions of others one_voice.

I'll send him your post and see what he has to say...but I think I already know! Sending good luck and much strength! :hug:

[Hotler]

52. I stand with you. I no longer have any fight left in me.

I have no hope. I see no future.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

53. (((((one voice)))))

:cry:

My heart is breaking for you. Sending loving vibes for your tears and pain. :loveya:

[xchrom]

54. recommend

[joeybee12]

56. KNR and good vibes coming your way...

:grouphug:

[FloriTexan]

57. I'm one day away from the same fear...

My husband just went back to work after 2.5 years where we were pushed to the brink. Its temp to perm and a 10% cut in pay (which is still better than nothing so no complaints), If he hasn't got work in his hand every second he is there, he worries that they won't need him. We find that our default thinking no longer permits us to look beyond a day or two. We only go so far to hope that they will keep him on through the end of the year so we can pay off some bills and take care of some things before we have to make it on one check again. I try not to think about it.

[tropicanarose]

58. ((((hugs)))) This sounds very hard. I do believe that things will get better. We have to be strong a

together....its okay to cry--it doesn't mean that you are weak--just just means that you are human and a thinking, feeling person.

[VenusRising]

59. My heart goes out to you and your husband.

I am so sorry for what you're going through.

Before Zodiak died, he was on 3 different medications for his heart. You can call the pharmaceutical companies that make your husband's medication and ask if they have an assistance program for that drug. Some do and some don't, but every little bit helps. His doctor may also be able to give you free samples of his med. Zodiak's doctor did that for him more than once when we were having a lean month. The other thing is check with your county for a Medical Assistance program. Zodiak made too much to qualify, but he had a job at the time. People with no income are put at the first of the line in many cases.

Please, keep us updated and let us know if we can help.

And just a small note from someone who lost her husband to a heart attack:

Hold on to each other. Love each other. Comfort each other. Laugh together as much as possible. I would have sacrificed everything I have for just one more minute with him.

:hug::hug::hug:

[Horse with no Name]

60. I'm so sorry.

:hug:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-PNun-Pfb4

Almost thirty years to the day since this performance and it STILL brings tears to my eyes.

[valerief]

61. I'm sorry to hear this. Rich America sucks. They won't share a cent. nt

[SammyWinstonJack]

75. They won't be made too. Shared scarifice is bull!

[cate94]

62. I am so sorry

:hug:

Please post what kind of work he is looking for and your general vicinity. Maybe someone can offer more than a hug. You never know.

[L0oniX]

63. We are all (except the rich) headed this way.

[RandomKoolzip]

64. But Ron Paul says that's beauty of the free market!

No, I'm kidding. I'm very sorry for what you're going through. I send positive thoughts and vibes of support and strength your way.

[Vinca]

65. "I'm all out of strong." That one collection of words says so much.

I'm sorry for the mess you're in . . . sometimes I wonder what will become of us all.

[The Backlash Cometh]

66. What state do you live in?

I hear you. And I'm sorry this is happening to you. I wish I could do more.

[Tatiana]

67. Words fail me. (((((((HUGS)))))))) These are rough times for us all.

Please know that you are in my prayers.

I know you don't feel like it now, but you ARE strong. You made it through this before and you'll get through it again.

[rhett o rick]

68. The Revolution is Waiting. nm

[benld74]

69. Prayers to you and your's, he is with you,,,

[quakerboy]

70. Sorry

Being out of work sucks. IFor a while, as long as you can distract yourself, its nice in that you don't have to go anywhere, you have time to do things. But the uncertainty, the money, the instability and unsustainabilty of it really sucks for all of us who are experiencing it.

You have my best wishes that he can find a new position before unemployment runs out. Keep each other. That's the most important part, as far as I can see from the 2 month point of unemployment

[TBF]

71. I am so sorry -

I think those of us who aren't in your situation know that we're not far from it. We've been on eggshells ever since my husband's firm had lay offs in 2008-2009. My heart aches for you both, and all others who are unemployed right now.

[aggiesal]

72. You're welcome to use my strong, ...

if it will help.

If we channel all our strong, hopefully good things will happen.

[Moostache]

74. Find your strength in the ONE THING the bastard's can't touch...

your love for each other. Its trite, but ever so true, the fleeting moments that we have together with our loved ones and families are the ONLY THING truly worth hanging onto - possessions and pastimes and jobs and responsibilities ALL exist only to service those moments when we are with another human being and lost in THAT moment, when the problems of the world can't touch us.

That is why we work, play, laugh, sing, dance and cry.
That is why the greedy and the materialistic NEVER find enough "things" to fill the hole.
That is why the some of the most religious and fundamentalist among us search and torment themselves incessantly looking for more in all the wrong places - with eyes on the skies or fears in the soil, instead of looking to the left and the right and finding it right there all the time.

All of us face the finite clock of time in our personal lives, but those moments that we truly connect with another person, truly share time and experience and love, those moments add to the richness and beauty of our time. When you have one year of deeply felt and shared love, you have exactly what everyone is searching for and if you can hold on to that, you can find strength beyond anything you ever felt was possible to have.

I wish you peace and kindness in the days and weeks and months ahead and truly hope that you and your husband can find your way through together.

[Old Codger]

76. Heart Attack

How old is he and what do Drs. say about his ability to work at any job. Might be worth your time to look into social security disability, it takes time but may be worth the effort in the long run...

[Beavker]

77. And the tea bagging, right wing moron of this country

think it could never happen to them. It's called empathy, and a sociopath doesn't have it.

I'm wishing you as much luck as I can!

[Jim_Shorts]

78. I don't know what its going to take for people to say

"I will not accept this any longer"

* 46 million people living in poverty (highest in any industrialized country)

* 50 million people without health insurance (skyrocketing costs will still exist after the main insurance reform kicks in)

* 28 million people unemployed (sorry, government numbers are bullshit)

In Germany, if you are laid off, you will receive unemployment and more schooling until you are reemployed. In Cuba, if you have any ailment, you just walk in to the hospital and they start treating you and basically give you any needed meds.

If our government isn't about "the people" then what good is it?

[Arugula Latte]

79. I don't get it either.

Education keeps getting cut, too. Most adults are parents. You'd think they'd eventually say "enough." Where is the outrage, the rising up, the saying "we won't stand this anymore?" Meanwhile, in Iraq and Afghanistan, money keeps pouring in and being burned up. Americans are stupid, docile sheep.

[wial]

80. If the GOP weren't traitors

that jobs bill would be signed by now.

[Exultant Democracy]

81. If the GOP weren't traitors we would also have universal health care

[MedicalAdmin]

82. You are stronger than you think.

Sending you good thoughts. And you don't have to be strong forever ... just today. And then maybe tomorrow.