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Edited on Sun Jun-19-11 02:45 PM by seabeyond
and you are gay.
yup
so many years, and i am to the point, i do not know how NOT to speak up and out sometimes. always speak up. dont always speak out, but mostly. lol.
my huband is absolutely anti (not gonna do it), controversial. that attitude is very hard for me. yea, he mostly handles that i cannot be quiet. my kids have found a place of their own in this. for their age, i am going to say, mostly speak up. rarely out.
i live in texas. i grew up in AZ and CA. so, living in texas, i entered a whole new world of southern baptist, i had no clue about. i had hung around the progressive catholics in calif. i am non religious, and all religious, and no religion type of spirituality. all one. i put my kids into a private christian school for the academics and oldest child... skinny, glasses, intellectual. we had no private that was not religious. oh, what we learned. my kids were regularly figuritively beat up on for their non southern baptist beliefs. YET they were so highly respected for their christ like, turn the other cheek, love, kindness, "we are one" attitude.
that was such a huge lesson for all of us, but especially the boys. i say that, cause it was a huge lesson for me too. my oldest, especially, sharing his journey on this path of confusion and contradictions and pain... we would not trade it for anything in the world. but then as a family, we were so supportive of the boys, and left them to do, with the knowledge that at any time, they are pulled out of that environment. when they were ready.
i understand what you say about making you stronger. i would not change this experience my boys had at such a young age for anything. they were there for 9/11. movie passion and the escalation of rw christian hate. and they were able to move beyond, argue the ugliness in respect, disagree with love.
i feel the same battle you do, with gender. i imagine blacks and latinos are feeling the same. there is a reason we feel this way, and like i could no more allow a racist or homophobic comment be made without speaking up and out, i could not with a sexism comment either. its a joke, liten up. nope. wont do it.
it matters.
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