Sluts Like Me

[kpete]

Sluts Like Me (1:59 pm)

By Lindsay Beyerstein

“Slut” is just another way of saying “worthless” without having to come up with a reason. Little girls get called sluts before they even know what sex is.

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Even virginity is not a defense against alleged sluttiness. Virgins can be sluts if they dress the wrong way, walk the wrong way, or even instill the wrong thoughts in other people. Some people will convict you of sluttitude because your body is the wrong shape, or the right shape.

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Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe it’s because your accuser is racist or classist and your “sluttiness” is built into some stereotype that was clanking around in their head before they ever met you.

If you try to argue that you’re not a slut, you’re implicitly buying into the idea that there are sluts out there. If there’s some criterion that will set you free, that standard will indict someone else—someone with a higher “number,” or shorter skirt, or a later curfew. So we get bogged down in slut/non-slut border skirmishes over a line nobody should have tried to draw in the first place, and we all lose.


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[krispos42]

1. Slut: a sexy and sexual woman that won't sleep with your sorry butt.

The guy's definition, at least.

[blondeatlast]

5. Yup. nt

[snooper2]

2. I used to be a slut

but then I got married :P

[ensho]

3. re: women, men use the word slut like they use the words

hysterical and crazy

[Keith Bee]

4. Recced for the title alone!

:evilgrin:

[VWolf]

6. FWIW, I've been called a manslut more than once n/t

[socialist_n_TN]

7. Well, I'm old, but my definition has ALWAYS been

a woman who took control of her own sexuality just like most men do. IOW, a woman who had sex with whoever she pleased, whenever she pleased. So the word was never derogatory to me.

Men generally (well maybe not so much anymore)used it as a derogatory term. I never did. ALL of my long term and emotionally based relationships were with women that would have been considered "sluts". I LIKED being with a sexually experienced woman.

Claim or reclaim the word and it loses it's stigma.

SLUT = Sexually Liberated, Ultra Talented. By that definition, I like to consider MYSELF a slut and damn proud of it.