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LongTomH Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:52 PM
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How many of you are dreading Thanksgiving with RW relatives?
My cousins, on my Mom's side keep Faux News on all the time. You wouldn't believe the rants I've had to endure! And they don't realize that's why I spend so little time with them anymore!
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gateley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:53 PM
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1. Thankfully I just have to spend it with boring relatives. Bring Pepto Bismal!
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jobycom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:54 PM
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2. I converted all my right wing relatives.
Bush helped.
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woo me with science Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:13 PM
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14. Hail you!
Seriously, good job!!!!! :thumbsup: :hi:
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Tansy_Gold Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:54 PM
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3. Just me and my four dogs.
Real dogs. The woof-woof kind.

NO RELATIVES, thankyouverymuch.



TG
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chidy Donating Member (38 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:55 PM
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4. i'm having a relation-free holiday!
and i'm really looking forward to it. i had a big blowout with my "lifegiver" and i decided i wasn't going to subject myself to any more of her shit. it's really liberating! i may visit with some friends, or i may just spend the day eating what *i* want to eat (not turkey) and watching movies and smoking a blunt.
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Mona Blue Donating Member (25 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:31 PM
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32. Sounds good to me!
Maybe I'll just do the same thing.
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Zen Democrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:57 PM
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5. I had two RW relatives, but one has advanced Alzheimers and the other went bankrupt. nt
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RoccoR5955 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:57 PM
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6. Not me, all my RW relatives are either dead or too far away to visit. n/t
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MorningGlow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:58 PM
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7. Me! Me!
Just one--my crazy Church Lady Fox-Lovin' aunt. Dinner is at her house. My mother (her sister) pretty much has her trained, though--has frequently threatened her with bodily harm if she tries to talk politics, and as soon as she enters my aunt's house, she turns off the TV (which is permanently on Fox). So for the most part she behaves.

Too bad we either don't usually hang with, or are too far (geographically) from, my liberal relatives. But at any rate, I'm grateful they outnumber the wingnuts in the fam.
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Mona Blue Donating Member (25 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:58 PM
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8. I'm stuck with a bunch of white racists
Boston style Irish who hate Italians, blacks, and everyone. I usually get them all wound up by discussing progressive politics, then leave.
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sufrommich Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:58 PM
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9. I don't have any right wing relatives. I am thankful for that. nt
Edited on Thu Nov-18-10 03:21 PM by sufrommich
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csziggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:59 PM
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10. The only reason I am going is the Fundie part will not be there
That bil is going to Louisiana to spend Turkey Day with his ailing parents. Otherwise I would beg off like I have for most holidays in the last decade. The rest of the family is pretty liberal as far as I know, so they are cool. This is hubby's family, btw.
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 02:59 PM
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11. I have RW relatives.
But I don't eat with them.
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bluedeminredstate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:06 PM
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12. Me!
I have to spend TG with my Obama-hating, gun-totin', Palin-loving, God-fearing, Bible-thumping, gay-bashing, tax-hating, regulation-overturning step-son and daughter-in-law. The rest of us are all proud libs so there will be no spirited political discussions next Thursday - it has gotten too heated in the past. My husband almost strangled his son one time when he said that the kids who were shot at Columbine should have been carrying firearms and not been such "pussies." My lovely daughter can't tell her brother she's gay because she's afraid he'll disown her.
Other than that, it should be a good time...

:eyes:
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no_hypocrisy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:10 PM
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13. My father will probably have FOX on during the dinner . . . . .
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queenjane Donating Member (258 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:13 PM
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15. I have much to be thankful for this year
Mainly, I am spending t-day BY MYSELF. No relatives. Taking my elderly mom to visit family out of state; she's staying for 2 weeks. Me, I'm fixing some roasted veggies and maybe a vegan pumpkin pie, calling friends who live elsewhere, and watching a movie. No religious proselytizing, no snide remarks about Obama, no screaming kids.

Yes, I am very very thankful.
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ChiciB1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:35 PM
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20. No, We Don't Do The RELIGIOUS Blah, Blah Either! n/t
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jtown1123 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:18 PM
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16. Thank you for this. Love my family, hate the politics.
Hopefully the Republican takeover of the house will shut them up some.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:23 PM
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30. Ask them why the Republicans haven't fixed things yet.
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louis-t Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:20 PM
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17. Not Thanksgiving I'm worried about. It's Christmas.
Extended family Birther, Palin-loving, Bush-Reagan worshipping, racist crazies.
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Initech Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:28 PM
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18. All my RW relatives are on my dad's side.
My mom's side of the family is great - everyone is either left-wing or moderate left-leaning. I don't have to worry about that side. My dad's side is all RW Xtian fundies - in some cases on the really extreme side,, and I still am puzzled as to how he fits in with them.
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ChiciB1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:34 PM
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19. THANKFULLY... I Don't HAVE Any Right Wing Relatives! We All To
the LEFT man, ALL to the LEFT and PROUD of it! Even inviting some "leftists" to dine with us. About 18 people will be gathering together. We'll be raising a glass of beer or something because at least we are surviving on what little we have. Got some of that make believe bubbly for the little grandkids. Before we eat everyone raises a glass and tells others what they are THANKFUL for. It's a tradition we've had for a very long time.

None of us have any extra money, so everyone will be bringing something to the table and we will have a nice feast. Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday, because we can give thanks for having one GREAT family. I have a son and daughter and they have given me 4 grandkids, and we all live close to each other AND we all get along very well. I am blessed!

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old mark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:36 PM
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21. We almost never see our really RW in-laws - They cross too many lines,
and I don't have that much self control any more.
Besides, my time is too valuable to waste with right wing bigoted half wits.

mark
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fishbulb703 Donating Member (492 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:47 PM
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22. try going home when your fiance "eva" is actually "evan"... so akward
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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:55 PM
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23. When I have had Thanksgiving with RW relatives the talk is not about politics.
There's more to our relationship and family than the political polarization that seems to obsess so many. I feel sorry for the families that have not obtained that level of maturity.
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Raine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 03:06 AM
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40. Same with my relatives
I don't understand the obsession with having to pound home your point of view on politics. I actually love my screwed-up RW relatives and we all actually WANT to get along.
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ProudToBeBlueInRhody Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 03:58 PM
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24. Thank God, no
Small gathering, and everyone is a Democrat.

There may be a few Cowboys fans, however, which will be a problem.
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Ishoutandscream2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 05:02 PM
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36. They sound like great people!
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MissDeeds Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:01 PM
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25. I refuse to do it
My husband and I are inviting my 85 year old Dem mom to our home for Thanksgiving. We will not - NOT - endure one more holiday with knuckle-dragging Rethugs. Life is too short to be in the company of such people.

BTW - Did I mention it will just be the three of us?

;-)
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Ex Lurker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:01 PM
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26. I feel sorry for everyone who has to deal with this
my family is about 80-20 Red/Blue. We all know where everyone stands and politely agree to disagree. Politics rarely come up at family gatherings.
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Nye Bevan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:04 PM
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27. Simple solution: *don't talk about politics*!
Edited on Thu Nov-18-10 04:05 PM by Nye Bevan
There are so many other things to talk about! Why ruin a family get-together?

And if someone wants to say grace, let them! It won't kill you!
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:25 PM
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31. When has anyone ever stopped people from saying grace?
The religious always feel that people should cater to them, and I've never been in a situation where a non-religious person has stood up and objected to grace-saying. We mostly just inwardly roll our eyes, keep our mouths shut and count the awkward seconds until it's over.
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sixmile Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:06 PM
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28. I look forward to it
Because the truth is on my side.
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Luciferous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:20 PM
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29. My family is mostly comprised of Democrats, but we avoid talking
politics... we also avoid religion since my 11 year old daughter told my extremely religious grandmother that she is an atheist :)
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Erose999 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:36 PM
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33. Dreading the whole holiday season. My family are all fundies and the dinner conversation is all

either racist jokes, rants about how "Obama is gonna come after our guns" or talk about sports or hunting. It was better when my aunt was still around, she was a crazy fundie too but at least she played music and would have her band over so there was entertainment. Oh, and there will be prayer, and I'm an atheist. Awkward doesn't even begin to describe that feeling.

Probably gonna skip the family stuff all together and spend those days at home alone drinking or reading or watching re-runs of Bill Maher on-demand something... just to counteract all the Jesus in the air. I'd ideally like to have a "What Would Charles Bukowski Do?" day and go to a titty bar or a horse track or something, but I doubt any of those places will be open.
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DCKit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:39 PM
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34. They tried to guilt me into attending what is sure to be a hostile gathering...
and I simply told them I have no interest in being belittled, berated and insulted.

"But it's FAMILY!" they cried.

"You no longer have any power over me" I answered.
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-18-10 04:42 PM
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35. Our problem is more subtle - relatives who insist on everyone being there
because they know that's what you're supposed to do, but who really don't like having other people around.

("Why don't X and Y visit more often? "

"well, dear MIL, X and Y are both working full time, and their time is limited. However, X and Y would visit more often except that you make Y so uncomfortable by your constant nagging of your husband!")
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chriscraft Donating Member (15 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 02:54 AM
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37. Man no kidding
All of my relatives have jobs and own their own homes and have new cars and their kids are all in good schools and they just can't conceive of anyone being downtrodden like me and the rest of us. It just pisses me off to have to listen to them gloat about their perfect little lives and their perfect little families and all that perfect little crap they always throw at me.

Do you think that they could ever help me out a little? I've tried to tell them that the drug thing is almost done with and I will get that damned GED and maybe go to art school like i said, but no, they just have to grind on me about my failures, which aren't my fault at all because i have to be who I am and they can't understand that because they're all just a bunch tea bagging fundie stick in the mud republicans who don't give a shit about me.

And they watch Faux News and NASCAR and vote for Bristol on DWTS.

Thank GOD I found DU so I have people that understand!
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joe_sixpack Donating Member (655 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 03:42 PM
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43. Very funny
eom
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LLStarks Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 02:59 AM
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38. Dread? It's an opportunity and by the end of the night, we tend to meet halfway. nt
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Raine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 03:02 AM
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39. WHY even discuss politics
I'll never understand this. Isn't there someone's operation to talk about or something else concerning family that can be discussed, geeesh! :yoiks:

My extended family goes from very conservative to lefty liberal and we all just agree to disagree and NEVER discuss politics. :think:
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avaistheone1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 03:08 AM
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41. It's no worse than going to the airport and being groped or going through
Edited on Fri Nov-19-10 03:09 AM by avaistheone1
the porno scammer scanner.
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cherokeeprogressive Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Nov-19-10 03:33 AM
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42. Politics does not rule my life. I carry a good time in my pocket, and whip it out when necessary.
I love my family. They are my blood; plain and simple as they may be. Some are much smarter and way more educated than I am. Some come down way further left on the spectrum than me, and some come down way further right. We argue about who called who last, not politics. It's unspoken, but out there just the same.

We all hate the Cowboys and the Lions. There is an equal number of women/men watching the games and men/women cooking the traditional meal. My specialty is the mashed potatoes. I make the perfect combination of creamy and lumpy. That, and carving the bird. Chill out... I got that. I'm not sure whether it's my way of being at the head of the table, or showing my kin how good I am with a knife. Either way, it's fun.

My plate? Dark meat next to stuffing (Mrs. Cubbison's cooked in the bird), with gravy over both. The gravy is pureed giblets with a bullion cube and some corn starch with milk, water, garlic, minced onion, salt, pepper. Mashed potatoes with lots of pepper, butter, and a splash of gravy. Yams, with a little of the caramelized marshmallow. The cranberry sauce has to be from the can sliced into thin round slabs.

Steamed veggies from carrots to water cress.

Politics? Take that shit somewhere else. All ya gotta do at my house is hate the Cowboys and Lions for playing at home on Thanskgiving every year.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 03:53 PM
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44. Nope.
I don't have any right-wing relatives any more. When I did, holidays weren't about politics, they were about family.

I have to say that I used to dread holidays with my in-laws, when I was married to my first ex. Those holidays weren't political, but there was a lot of religious intolerance and bullying that went on. I didn't argue with them; they were relatives that I had to interact with all year long, so I let them spout and kept my perspectives to myself.

They were dysfunctional people, and simply expressing a different point of view would have caused more strife than it was worth.
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lunatica Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 03:57 PM
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45. That's why I stopped doing holidays about 15 years ago
Edited on Sat Nov-20-10 03:59 PM by lunatica
Stopped all of it. No Christmas gifts or get togethers, no Thanksgiving dinners with the relatives, no Mothers' Day, No Easter, No birthdays, no nothing. I've never looked back or regretted it. I do what I want. Go to a movie or eat out or just stay home and watch tv or read or hang out on the internet.

One day a light went off in my head and I realized that I had been doing something that everyone feels obligated to do no matter how bad it turns out. What in the world forced me to tow that line if I didn't want to? Nothing. So I dropped the behavior.
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totodeinhere Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 04:05 PM
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46. I love my family and I keep politics out of it. They are entitled to their opinion and I am
entitled to mine. If they want to bring up any specific issues, I am happy to discuss it with them and give them my progressive perspective. But I don't let it get personal.
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butterfly77 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 08:03 PM
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47. K&R..
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Catshrink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-20-10 08:11 PM
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48. I'm not going.
I'm going to my neighbors' instead. If my parents were still alive this wouldn't be possible but they're gone now and I'm not going to put up with my sister's Palin worship. Her husband is somewhat reasonable, but she's a loon.
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