It's that time again! Start planning your Father-Daughter Purity Ball '10!

[Bluebear]

Eve Ensler, author of "The Vagina Monologues" remarked "When you sign a
pledge to your father to preserve your virginity, your sexuality is
basically being taken away from you until you sign yet another contract, a
marital one... It makes you feel like you're the least important person in
the whole equation. It makes you feel invisible"

The Christian Center has put together a manual to help other organizations sponsor their own Purity Ball.

This manual includes all the tools and tips to help you have your own Purity Ball.

Included are instructions on:

* Introduction & Overview (collapse)
o Purpose
o An overview of the night
o Where to begin
o Time line
o Who should attend a Father-Daughter Purity Ball?
o Is there a specific programming approach?
o Is this a fund-raiser?
o Are there advantages to coming under a ministry to host the event?
o Should we hold a Ball yearly?
o Who puts the Ball together?
o The importance of a prayer team.
o Scholarships-application form
o Are Balls in large cities and small towns different?
o Should we set a budget?
o How will we pay for the Ball?
o Is special printing necessary?

* Planning & Organizing

* Funding the Ball

* Event Logistics

* Promoting the Event

* Effective Programming

* Post-Event Follow-up :wtf:

* Appendix

This extensive manual can be yours for only $100, the cost of which will be absorbed within the budget of the Purity Ball itself! Please email Janet for more information and purchasing.

Also, available for an additional fee:

* Our coach will meet with your organization’s leadership & volunteers to initiate planning
* Our coach will meet with you over the phone one hour per week for sixteen weeks
* Our coach will attend your event to assist with details
* Low-cost purchasing of jewelry and keys
* Full-length DVD of Peoria's 2007 Purity Ball
* Marketing of your event via our website (www.purityball.com/yourLocationHere)
* Professional audio, video production, or lighting for your event
* Royalty-free, professionally designed digital templates which you can use for your print marketing, including:
1. Brochure
2. Tickets
3. Posters
4. Program

http://www.purityball.com/host.html



Signing the contract to Daddy.


Having a preschooler pledge her purity? Hokay.




"I, (daughter's name)'s father, choose before God to cover my daughter as
her authority and protection in the area of purity."


'Purity balls' and fundamentalisms in the United States by the Association for Women's Rights in Devolopment:
http://www.awid.org/eng/Issues-and-Analysis/Library/Purity-balls-and-fundamentalisms-in-the-United-States2

[RagAss]

1. Thorazine for Everyone !

[johnnie]

2. Ummmm

Yikes

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. The girls are so pretty.

And this whole charade is sick, sick, sick.

:puke:

[Ken Burch]

12. Nothing like dating your four-year old daughter.

[bluestateguy]

4. Creepy and archaic

and don't something like half of girls who take these purity pledges "fall off the wagon" (if you know what I mean) before marriage?

Oh, and where are the mother-son purity balls, anyway?

[Ilsa]

9. Before marriage or before tenth grade? Don't about 80% have sex before marriage?

I don't remember what the accurate statistic is, but I have a hard time believing as many as 20% are virgins on their wedding night.

[awoke_in_2003]

35. there was a study a few years ago..

that showed that a big portion of girls that took abstinence pledges engaged in oral and anal sex to get around it. Bill Maher jokingly asked "why didn't they have this when I was in high school?"

[Stevenmarc]

5. The future Bristol Palins of America

[JI7]

6. wasn't there some documentary on this ?

if anyone has a link to the whole thing can you post it ?

the whole thing is just gross, creepy .

[seabeyond]

7. it would be a really nifty father/daughter bonding/memorable dance if not about girls

sexuality.

that simply takes it to a whole different level that is wrong in so many ways.

they could have made it a special time for the girls. the fathers willing to dress up with girls and spend an evening.

but noooooo, about power and control

[awoke_in_2003]

36. my wife's granddaughter...

is the closest thing I have to a daughter. How do we bond? She is eight years old and LOVES reading. She is my library buddy, and every pay day we go to half price books and buy some books. I remodeled a bedroom as my office. I have my desk, and a comfy reading chair (with lamp) for each of us. I built bookcases, and she has a spot for hers. She is the light of my life, and that being said, these fathers are sick SOB's. I will protect her purity by teaching her to be smart and to make the proper decisions in her life. And one day, in less then 7 years or so, certain hormonal reactions will cause her to wonder about sex. While I would hope she would hold on for that "special" moment, she will be armed with the information necessary to protect her health and well-being.

[seabeyond]

39. well, awoke

i gotta say, that is awfully darn special what you are doing with your granddaughter. suh a huge gift to her. hug to you. also a pretty huge gift to you. i am glas that you were able to create something so special.

a girl finds her self worth in the adult men, fathers/grandpas, that love her and they way the treat her, show her respect.

i have told my father, because of how he treated me young, i was able to insist on only the best when i made the choices.

[awoke_in_2003]

44. she is a diamond to be sure...

she is "grandma's girl"- hell, if they were any close they would be conjoined. Her mother lived through some rough times (her father was a physically and mentally abusive asshole). She had a few of those relationships herself. I am no saint by any means, but I never get loudly argumentative with my wife, and the only time I ever think of touching her is to hug or caress her. I try to provide a safe atmosphere in my house, and the reading room is just one small part of it. Respect is the most important of our emotions.

[blueamy66]

54. awesome

I wish you were my Grand Daddy.

[awoke_in_2003]

71. my wife might not like that

:)

[Lilyeye]

66. Excellent post!

[awoke_in_2003]

72. thank you...

I know the schools down here will only teach abstinence. Of course, we have one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the country.

[Jamastiene]

77. People should have an awoke_in_2003 ball instead.

Your approach is much better. Spending actual time teaching a kid is way better.

[Arugula Latte]

59. My husband and my daughter go to an annual Daughter-Daddy night

at our local community center every year. They pick out a dress for her (thrift store -- she'll only wear it once, probably), he gets her a corsage, we take pictures -- it's the cutest thing. They really bond over it every year. There is no mention of "purity" :eyes:.

I think they used to hold a Mother-Son night, which I would have loved to have gone to with my son, but they had to cancel it due to issues with the boys' behavior. :rofl:

[seabeyond]

61. my father and i would dress up, and go out to dinner, and ballet or something

a few times. and yes, it is special.

i love your hubby does that with his daughter.

[Arugula Latte]

68. That's great they'd do that.

I'm hoping that once my daughter is too old for the dance (I think the cut-off is age 12) they will continue to have an annual night where they get dressed up and go someplace special.

[BrklynLiberal]

8. So very ,very sick in so many, many ways... Give me the creeps..Big time.

[miscsoc]

11. Fucking a, makes my skin crawl

Haha, I was trying to describe why and I couldn't think of anything to write but that it was fucked up in "many many ways" which is actually just what you wrote.

[Initech]

10. Once again I say that our religious fundamentalists are no better than the ones we're fighting.

This is seriously creepy. :scared:

[fishbulb703]

62. If the ones we were fighting were 1st world, it would be the same. +1 nt

[patrice]

13. To be sold to the highest bidder. Odd, how love works out that way, isn't it?

[mzteris]

22. just thinking today about "bride price"

and that whole custom. Like buying another piece of livestock. Only this one should be able to cook and clean, too!

[Ken Burch]

25. How did the old song put it:

"we're slaves to our fathers, until we are wives,
Then slaves to our husbands the rest of our lives".

(I think that was from farm country in Ontario).

[patrice]

32. Still programming girls to place security agove all else and use sex as bait.

This has resulted in untold generations of lost potential, female and male, and frustrated development even in the "best" relationships.

[miscsoc]

14. aaaaaarrrrghhhhh

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-9019249422941584807#

look at this shit

horrific

[miscsoc]

16. "until the day i give myself as a wedding gift to my husband"

wtf

[Stevenmarc]

46. Like a toaster, then they keep popping kids out Dugger style

[Vickers]

15. The pix at these things always skeeve me out. n/t

[Lars39]

17. "....to cover my daughter...."

Horse talk....covering maiden mares, etc. :puke:

[Odin2005]

18. Every one of those dads should be investigated for child sexual abuse.

Sick fucks!

[miscsoc]

19. That's what I thought too.

It's not crazy to think that if some guy has THAT much interest in their daughter's vagina (The whole ceremony is basically concerned with that) there might be something fucked up going on.

[miscsoc]

20. Actually it's interesting for us guys to think about

How fucked up it would be if our mothers made us sign a contract about our own sexuality and insisted we consider them some sort of "wife" until we got married and they gave us away. And if our mothers were talking about how we needed to "give ourselves" as a sexual gift to our wives on our wedding nights. I mean jesus fucking christ just think of it.

[mzteris]

21. where are the "mommy / son purity balls"?

Shouldn't the boys stay PURE, too?

[provis99]

23. How nice. Saving their virginity for daddy.

How many ways of creepy is this whole idea of a "purity ball" for little girls?

[Empathic_1]

24. Twisted fuckwads should be locked away.

Makes my skin crawl. :puke:

[Ken Burch]

26. Somebody needs to find the dads in that list picture

And TURN THOSE JIZZBAGS IN!

Whatever is going on in THOSE shots damn sure isn't "purity".

[marmar]

27. That's just so creepy.......

:scared:

[Dr Morbius]

28. I'm a daddy. My daughter is sixteen. Her purity has nothing whatsoever to do

with her virginity. Her purity lies in her heart.

God, protect me from your followers. Again.

[Vickers]

31. THANK YOU!!!!!

I have a 15 year old daughter, and I feel exactly the same way.

Hell, I worry more about her grades and her learner's permit and how filthy her room gets than her romantic life.

:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

[miscsoc]

41. Appreciate yr non-creepy/insane father inputs, Morbius and Vickers

[Lithos]

29. Why do I feel the urge to call Child Protective Services?

Creepy...

[The Magistrate]

40. Because, My Friend, These Are Sick, Pedophile Fucks....

[Lithos]

55. That they are

How are you dear friend?

[Mariana]

30. Why are Fundies so fucking OBSESSED with sex?

Don't they ever think about anything else?

[Missy Vixen]

38. No, they don't

After all, they deny every shred of their own sexuality. It's sinful.

Imagine how shocked I was to discover upon adulthood that the "pillars" of the Assemblies of God church I grew up in weren't quite as pure and sinless as they wanted the rest of us to believe.

The latest research states that the "purity rings", "purity balls", etcetera, are leading to nothing but an increase in STD's and unwanted pregnancies. After all, you won't get pregnant from having anal sex, right?

:eyes:

[HughBeaumont]

50. Moreso everyone ELSE'S sex than theirs.

They (dominionist Pentacostal males) want to control the sex of everyone around them. Strangers. Their daughters. Gay people (and in this area, they describe it with SUCH graphic hyperbole, it would make pornographers blush). Teenagers. Their women.

"Everyone else is fair game. I'll do what AH want because AH am the MAN!"

Females to them are nothing more than servants.

[Initech]

51. You'd think they'd have better things to do right?

[Horse with no Name]

33. Sounds to me more like "grooming"

fucking perverts.:puke:

[WolverineDG]

34. So in order to "own" her sexuality

a girl should bang everyone in sight? Choosing to remain a virgin = bad. Screwing anything that moves = good.


dg

[miscsoc]

42. I don't know who's saying that.

There are more options than those two.

I'd say, don't feel any obligation to have sex early, and actually ideally leave it til your late teens. And when you do have sex make sure it's with a boy/girl you are genuinely into and for christ's sake use protection.

[XemaSab]

43. I think you're totally missing the point

n/t

[WolverineDG]

56. Uh, no

repeatedly on DU, women & girls who state they want to remain virgins because of their religious beliefs are bashed for being "brainwashed" & called "religious fanatics," while parents who want to encourage this in their daughters are accused of being child molesters & "weirdos."

It's very apparent that the only "choice" women are allowed to have here is to be sexually active & "good" parents are those who teach their kids to hit everything in sight.

dg

[Arugula Latte]

58. You've got to be kidding.

These fathers are obsessed with their daughter's purity. Notice there's never a mention of their sons' purity? And obviously there is middle ground between banging everything in sight and submitting to your religious freak father who probably has incest fantasies.

What about making their own decisions? Too radical for you?

:eyes:

[XemaSab]

63. What Arugula Latte said.

Women do not belong to men.

A girl does not belong to her dad, and a woman does not belong to her husband.

Dads can hope that their daughters remain virgins until they are married, but to demand that their daughters sign a pledge is just gross. This is why traditional Middle Eastern culture sucks, and why we should all hope that the culture over there changes so that women don't get killed by their families after they are raped.

[RainDog]

76. total bullshit

your remark is total and entire bullshit.

what people object to is the cult of virginity FOR FEMALES in patriarchal religious belief systems.

you're lying to say that people here tell their kids to hit everything in site.

you're also on the wrong side of facts, as far as what sort of attitude toward sexuality results in girls making smart choices about their own life and sexuality.

you can go to this link to get to the NPR program, but here's a salient quote:

...the higher rates of teen childbirth and divorce occur in the red states that conservatives so often celebrate as the heartland of family values.

the red states - the religious right wing states, in other words, the states that serve up these sick, sick father daughter "balls" - which sounds like pedophilia, honestly - are the ones whose daughters can't keep their legs together it would seem.

NOT the people on DU. NOT those despise the sickness of religious fundamentalism.

maybe part of the reason is because fundies sexualize and objectify women as much as any tits and ass program - but they also try to make girls ashamed of their sexual identities as well so that males can control its expression.

[Bunny]

83. Your interpretation of what is going on here is really pretty warped.

You should seek help.

[lolly]

47. No

Obsessing about your daughter's genitals and who has access to them = bad

Raising your daughters to be strong, smart, and independent = good.

[Seneca]

37. Hiding incest behind their bible

Those pictures speak volumes, as in... buckets of puke. :puke:

[pepperbear]

45. don't know if anyone else noticed, but the planning book costs $100. n/t

[Dinger]

48. What About A Father-Son Purity Ball?

Not hearing a lot about that.

[old mark]

65. They have an annual father-son visit the whores night.

In jesus' name, of course...


mark

[Dinger]

69. Well Of Course, What Was I Thinking?

I hadn't thought of that.

[old mark]

82. Other people's daughters are fair game, no closed season and subject to

braggin' rights among good christian men and their boys...got to keep that aggression for jesus thing going...

mark

[Vinca]

49. There is something very, very creepy about this.

[TheKentuckian]

52. Do these guys have "thing" for their daughters or what?

What's up with the dates, prom like events, weird fidelity pledges, faux weddings, and the fixation on their girl's vajayjay?

Seems creepy to me.

[Dr Morbius]

53. Is this, when one goes down to the root of it, a matter of confusion?

Are these morons (and I apologize to all morons for the use of the term) simply confusing virginity with virtue? Granted, this confusion if confusion it is has been systemic in western civilization for millennia; why is virginity seen as virtuous? I suspect this is a tool used by religion to control the behavior of women, and the confusion we see in the parents is intentional. It has been placed there. Of course, it's not possible to physically tell if the male of the species has been "virtuous" so there's no attention paid to whether boys are virgins until marriage.

[Contrary1]

57. Ball? Why not dance or prom?

These girls will also be having balls when they decide their purity days are over.

[asdjrocky]

60. Freaks.

I could not imagine doing this with either one of my daughters.

[lolly]

64. Probably because you have a healthy relationship with them

One that is focused on your daughters as full human beings who need guidance and love, not "covering."

[Canuckistanian]

67. Ah, yes. The Annual Father-Daughter Hymen Protection Ritual

With optional Ox sacrifice and stoning of girls who have "broken the covenant".

[Bluebear]

70. Ox sold separately.

[Jamastiene]

79. Some assembly required.

Batteries sold separately.

[Lucian]

73. So...how come they never have mother/son purity balls?

Oh, that's why...the son is a "stud" in dad's eyes when he scores with a chick...but the girl is evil and unpure if she scores.

Gotta love the double standard. :eyes:

And on top of it all, the purity ball is the creepiest fucking thing I've ever seen in my life. Seriously.

[Iggo]

84. 'Cause a son dating his mom is fucking gross. Dad's and daughters, on the other hand...

Oh wait...

[HughBeaumont]

74. Even MORE Molestacular photos!

"I know, we'll be outta here in another two hours, pumpkin butt. Just sign that contract, and yer all MINE . . ."


"In MAH day, yew had to sign this in bloood."


I couldn't make this shit up if I tried. You know, because what tween wouldn't want to be Daddy's Litte Property?


Yeah, YOU'RE not utterly disgusting or anything, Lurch.


Raise your swords, Dads! SHIELD your daughter's hymen from the Mighty Teen Penis!


Nice Suit. What is she . . . five, six? REEEEEALLY appropriate, pe-dad-phile.


"Wow, daddy . . . I'm so grateful to be your possession. I sure am looking forward to you giving me away like a trinket at a yard sale on my wedding day. And afterwards, me and my new owne . . er . . .husband . . are gonna be having some really painful, uncomfortable, embarrassing, bumbling, awkward, sad and abrupt married virgin sex! Sure hope once the initial stab-a-thon finally gets finished, we'll be sexually compatible. Marriage IS for life, ya know. I SO cannot wait! I love you!!"

[dflprincess]

75. Child Protective Services should be keeping an eye on these creeps.

And their teachers (assuming they're not all home schooled) should be given a heads up to watch for any sign that may indicate abuse.

[SoCalDem]

78. and the daily drawing for the free vacation..don't foreget that

:evilgrin:

[Jamastiene]

80. zOMG, they are still having THOSE?!?

:puke:

:nuke:

:puke:

[Iggo]

81. Way to put a price on the _____, Pops.