Let's see if I got this straight, OK?

[boston bean]

Parents verbally abusing their children causes unimaginable mental distress to their children, causes a life time full of pain and depression.

Women who are verbally abused and battered and kill their husbands garner some amount of sympathy because of the situation they are put in and may get a lesser time in jail. Because they were driven to it, and their mental and physical safety was in danger.

But, bullying in school and the schoolyard is just part of growing up.

WTF am I missing here on DU?

[Trajan]

1. What you are 'missing' is perspective ....

DU is a community of various minds and ideas ....

Many of those ideas you will disagree with ....

Go ahead ...... disagree .....

Feels good, don't it ? ....

Freedom ......

DU, like the real world, is an uncontrollable realm with no two minds in perfect syncronization ...

We are lucky to agree on a place to eat ....

[orpupilofnature57]

2. Alec Baldwin is a Democrat ,Schoolyard bullies or any proximity bullies tend

to be Republicans ,who own MSM.

[Solo_in_MD]

4. Bullies transend political affliation

[Solo_in_MD]

3. You (and others) having been hawking the bullying isses for about a week now

there is not going to be that much traction here. There are lots of important issues, yours is not going to garner much attention except for the live to post crowd. Just deal with it.





I could not resist that last line...

[Boojatta]

5. Bullies buy candy bars.

The retail taxes on candy bars support the public schools. If you want to complain about bullying, first you have to replace the economic contribution of the bullies.

Also, young people choose to go to schools where there are bullies. If young people don't want to be bullied, then it's their responsibility to select schools that contain no bullies.

Finally, blowback from bullying is famous for being unfocused. If each victim of a bully were to kill a particular bully who had recently bullied him or her (and to kill nobody else!), then there would be more favorable press coverage of victims of bullies. Only the friends of the bullies and parents of the bullies would complain.

[alfredo]

11. No, the bullies take the candy bars from smaller kids.

[dsc]

6. Honestly I think part of it that people really can't identify with the people who

were picked on in school because they have to ask themselves what did I do back when I was in school and they were getting picked on. I know I ask myself what I did back then and don't particularly like thinking about it so I can relate to that. It is easy to blame oneself for not fighting back or helping others.

[rosesaylavee]

7. Try the ignore thread.

Sounds like you have been on some crazy threads this week. As stated up thread, there are a lot of people here who I agree with wholeheartedly and others - well, I don't agree with them at all.

Bullying scars people - it's wrong. Healthy people don't bully and healthy people try to intervene when they are aware that bullying is happening. Period.

[Breeze54]

8. Immature people bully.

;)

[rosesaylavee]

9. Damaged people

who more likely than not have experienced bullying carry on the damaged behaviour.

Violence begets violence.

[Breeze54]

10. Agreed.

But most bullying occurs in school. Right?

So that would make them immature. ;)

[rosesaylavee]

12. Ha.

Wish it were so. There are many people who don't feel the need to develpp mature emotions after they leave school.

[Breeze54]

13. Agree again.

I don't think it's a choice though. I think a lot of men don't ever mature beyond high school.
My father, as much as I loved him, was immature; in a lot of respects, even when he was elderly.
Just using that as an example. My ex-husband has proven to also be very immature, in a lot of ways!
I'm not saying all men are immature but many are and there are many women guilty as well.

[rosesaylavee]

14. I think on some level it is a choice...

if a person understands that their behavior hurts others and they don't choose to examine how that is so - than, yes, its a choice to stay the same and not grow up.

Unfortunately, I know many women that fall into that category as well as men. Bullying is a trigger for me as I was bullied as a kid. My response has been varying degrees of fighting back... sometimes when I was young - inappropriately fighting back. Being a woman, it annoys me more when I see women bullying others. I expect more of them I guess.

[Breeze54]

15. I meant they may not be 'aware' they are emotionally immature.

I know one of my older brothers is in denial about it.
He is immature. All my family agrees on that fact.

Edited to add:

You are right though. He knows it and refuses to correct his behavior.
Ignoring him seems to be doing the trick though.
Lately he has been wondering why nobody wants to come to his house.
I told him why and then did go see him on New Year's Eve day and he behaved.

Maybe he'll stick with it.

[rosesaylavee]

16. Hey! Is his name 'Mike'

Are we related?

:hi:

[Breeze54]

17. LMAO!

No, not that brother! :rofl:

I DO have a brother named Michael though. But he's cool. ;)