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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:34 PM Original message |
People are not assholes for putting their elderly relatives into nursing care. |
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dsc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
1. amen |
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katkat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 06:51 AM Response to Reply #1 |
182. I'm sorry for your grandmother, amen |
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sorcrow (68 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
2. Well said |
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niyad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:01 PM Response to Reply #2 |
19. welcome to DU |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:41 PM Response to Reply #2 |
56. mmmmmmmm!! sorghum!! one of my favorite things! Welcome to DU! |
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JohnnyLib2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:41 PM Response to Original message |
3. For sure. |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:42 PM Response to Original message |
4. I can't believe you were flamed over that. Nobody knows what you go through. |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:51 PM Original message |
imho, sooner is always better than later. |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:58 PM Response to Original message |
17. I'm working on them, but would like for it to be their choice. |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:30 PM Response to Reply #17 |
34. sometimes you have to put your foot down, i guess. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:46 PM Response to Reply #17 |
57. See if you can find one of these: |
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gblady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:53 AM Response to Reply #57 |
171. great suggestion.... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:41 AM Response to Reply #171 |
200. Pleased to meet you gblady! Yes!! Me too!!! I feel very blessed to help |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:05 PM Response to Original message |
21. The emotions you go through watching your once vital parent deteriorate are indescribable |
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tblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:14 AM Response to Reply #21 |
161. My mil has advanced stage dementia. |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:04 AM Response to Reply #21 |
207. Exactly! |
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tosh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:08 PM Response to Reply #4 |
23. NYC_SKP, my situation was very much like yours - |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:17 PM Response to Reply #23 |
27. Somehow the strength comes to us. They are worth the work. |
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tosh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:26 PM Response to Reply #27 |
29. Back atcha, NYC_SKP - Good Job! |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:08 AM Response to Reply #23 |
208. Well stated, Tosh. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:40 PM Response to Reply #4 |
55. . |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:38 PM Response to Reply #55 |
103. Thank you... |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:07 PM Response to Reply #4 |
64. She wasn't flamed over that in the other thread. |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:44 PM Response to Reply #64 |
109. It matters not. This post is her post and the topic is decisions made regarding aging parents. |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:24 PM Response to Reply #4 |
101. That is such a sweet pic. I've always opted for in-home |
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NYC_SKP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:41 PM Response to Reply #101 |
106. Thanks. I've got multiple helpers in place, someone staying overnight every night... |
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MUAD_DIB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:22 AM Response to Reply #4 |
163. Take care of your parents and you SHOULD pressure them...gently. |
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cali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:44 PM Response to Original message |
5. judgmental assholes all those people are. |
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shraby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:46 PM Response to Original message |
6. I agree with you. My father is capable of dressing, |
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Poiuyt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:47 PM Response to Original message |
7. Putting your parents into a home can be a loving thing to do, but not visiting them is a sin |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:38 PM Response to Reply #7 |
78. the families who don't visit their parents |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:14 PM Response to Reply #7 |
114. I work in a lot of care facilities |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:21 PM Response to Reply #114 |
134. Endless good hair days????? |
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KT2000 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:47 PM Response to Original message |
8. Sorry you were treated badly |
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Whisp (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:01 PM Response to Reply #8 |
127. she was not treated badly, she was acting like a jerk. n/t |
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frazzled (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:48 PM Response to Original message |
9. I agree with you entirely |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:50 PM Response to Original message |
10. My 88 yr old grandmother broke her leg in 2 places and needs more care |
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TheCowsCameHome (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:50 PM Response to Original message |
11. Let's see how well these do-gooders make out when their time comes. |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:20 PM Response to Reply #11 |
141. She wasn't flamed for what she is claiming here. |
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queenjane (258 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:51 PM Response to Original message |
12. Thank you! |
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katkat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:10 AM Response to Reply #12 |
183. queenjane |
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imdjh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:53 PM Response to Original message |
13. Most people have never been in long term care, so it scares them. |
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icnorth (954 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
14. H.K. an @sshole you are not... |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:55 PM Response to Original message |
15. My wife's cousin has been trying to get her mon to go to a |
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Iwillnevergiveup (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:14 PM Response to Reply #15 |
113. Well, OldMark |
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old mark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:51 AM Response to Reply #113 |
188. About half of that side of the fmily is lawyers - I am sure this has occurred to them. |
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niyad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 04:58 PM Response to Original message |
16. k and r-- I am, alas, not surprised that you were flamed for your comments-- |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:10 PM Response to Reply #16 |
24. There are some promising developments in LTC. |
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niyad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:24 PM Response to Reply #24 |
28. that is a good start, but so much more needs to be done, and yet, people are really reluctant to |
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Cerridwen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
18. Yes. Exactly what you said. |
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Whisp (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:13 PM Response to Reply #18 |
131. like raising a child, 24 hour care and not so much sleep. |
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Cerridwen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:18 PM Response to Reply #131 |
133. Not quite. |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:31 AM Response to Reply #131 |
168. Yes, but you choose to have children. |
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katkat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:31 AM Response to Reply #168 |
187. sounds like a lot of people in here not wanting to take care of their parents had abusive parents |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:09 AM Response to Reply #187 |
194. That was kind of unnecessary. eom |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:02 PM Response to Reply #187 |
212. What a strange post... are you sure you're responding to the right person? |
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Cessna Invesco Palin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:03 PM Response to Original message |
20. We had to put my grandmother in a home recently. |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:07 PM Response to Original message |
22. Deleted sub-thread |
etherealtruth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:14 PM Response to Original message |
25. we need to make sure that the elderly receive the best care possible ... |
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niyad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:16 PM Response to Original message |
26. do NOT, under ANY circumstances, promise that you will NOT put a parent or loved one in |
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laughingliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:58 PM Response to Reply #26 |
87. Amen to that! When I worked in Hospice I had sooo many families whose |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:23 PM Response to Reply #87 |
99. Don't you think too that families can give their Love more freely without the stress of having to |
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laughingliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:29 PM Response to Reply #99 |
102. That was how I saw it. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:43 PM Response to Reply #102 |
107. Depending upon the working relationships involved, it could be a very liberating and loving |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:25 PM Response to Reply #87 |
118. I agree and have witnessed some aspects of this dilemma. |
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jwirr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:26 PM Response to Original message |
30. In most states no one can just PUT grandma in the nursing home. |
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Swamp Rat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:27 PM Response to Original message |
31. . |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:28 PM Response to Original message |
32. No, they're not. People are assholes for arguing without listening, |
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cali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:38 PM Response to Reply #32 |
37. there are some people who will still need to be in a long term care facility |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:49 PM Response to Reply #37 |
41. The number would be a small fraction of the population in LTC today |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:45 PM Response to Reply #32 |
40. Again, you're entitled to think I'm an asshole for my opinions on DU |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:31 PM Response to Reply #40 |
50. There's a difference between being an asshole and acting like one on DU. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:04 PM Response to Reply #32 |
61. There is no substitute for the continuous, 24/7, presence of experienced specialized medical |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:35 PM Response to Reply #61 |
75. Agreed, when some one is in that dire a condition |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:40 PM Response to Reply #75 |
80. And if, policy-wise, it were to come down to competition for resources held in common? |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:35 AM Response to Reply #80 |
169. Obviously not, but that presumes that alternatives would be more costly |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:19 PM Response to Reply #32 |
116. perhaps. perhaps not |
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WyLoochka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:29 PM Response to Original message |
33. My Mom - 92 |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:32 PM Response to Original message |
35. The irony in our health care system is that people like you get guilted |
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enough (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:34 PM Response to Original message |
36. While I was caring for my two elderly parents, both invalids, I soon decided I would not listen to |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:38 PM Response to Original message |
38. My mother went into a nursing home because |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:33 PM Response to Reply #38 |
51. And that is something a lot of people don't understand... |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:49 PM Response to Reply #51 |
58. Thanks. |
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gblady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 03:17 AM Response to Reply #51 |
174. I'm an Alzheimer's Association volunteer.... |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:45 PM Response to Reply #38 |
83. my father, 80 |
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sarge43 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:07 PM Response to Reply #83 |
94. Mom died several years ago. |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:29 PM Response to Reply #83 |
219. --- |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 04:07 PM Response to Reply #219 |
247. i'm so sorry... |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 06:37 PM Response to Reply #247 |
248. Thank you, Shanti. |
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druidity33 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:39 PM Response to Original message |
39. link to the other thread... |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:50 PM Response to Reply #39 |
42. Here's a link to the subthread about nursing care |
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exboyfil (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 05:50 PM Response to Original message |
43. My grandma is in a nursing home |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:20 PM Response to Reply #43 |
46. Unfortunately the health care reform does not deal with LTC. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:30 PM Response to Reply #46 |
137. What? I thought something was posted here about a change in how LTC |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:45 PM Response to Reply #137 |
138. Maybe the Medicaid aspect of it. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:02 AM Response to Reply #138 |
149. No, I think it was a new type of LTC insurance, something more affordable. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:17 PM Response to Original message |
44. My family has done what most Americans consider to be the ideal Elder Care. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:25 PM Response to Reply #44 |
47. Wow, that is a really insightful and thorough response. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:38 PM Response to Reply #47 |
54. I'm getting old, so I have seen a lot. |
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NC_Nurse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:17 PM Response to Original message |
45. I don't think you're an asshole. There are a lot more options and stages of |
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JoeyT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:26 PM Response to Original message |
48. It can be cruel to the elderly relative to not put them where they can get the care they need, too. |
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Initech (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:29 PM Response to Original message |
49. We had to do that with my grandma, one of the hardest things to do in one's life. |
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Raine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:34 PM Response to Original message |
52. Exactly on point |
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Mari333 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:37 PM Response to Original message |
53. I completely respect your right to do what is best for you |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:05 PM Response to Reply #53 |
63. It's funny but when I used to do LTC planning with couples |
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Mari333 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:09 PM Response to Reply #63 |
65. probably true, but I worked in some nursing homes |
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tnlefty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:24 PM Response to Reply #53 |
100. I've helped out and done that and more for 2 people |
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Djinn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:10 AM Response to Reply #53 |
160. a friend of mine said that earlier this year when he was dying of lung cancer |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 06:49 PM Response to Original message |
59. This post is misleading. "DU Public Enemy Number One"? Chill out, it's not all about you. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:03 PM Response to Reply #59 |
60. Since this thread is about nursing care what say you about this? |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:13 PM Response to Reply #60 |
68. Children are NOT a retirement plan and Elder Care need not be prohibitively expensive to the poor. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:38 PM Response to Reply #68 |
77. There's no dog-whistling about the comments I quoted. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:00 PM Response to Reply #77 |
89. re dogs and whistles =/= you. |
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druidity33 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:15 PM Response to Reply #60 |
70. quoting things out of context |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:50 PM Response to Reply #70 |
84. I realize I should have left out any reference to that OP because it's taking this thread off topic. |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:20 PM Response to Reply #60 |
98. So what? |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:40 PM Response to Reply #98 |
105. So plenty. |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:02 PM Response to Reply #105 |
128. Wow. Are you intentionally misreading? |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:16 PM Response to Reply #128 |
132. Then come up with a system that doesn't oppress women |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:04 PM Response to Reply #132 |
140. Again you are misquoting what I said. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:25 AM Response to Reply #140 |
196. That is a disgusting accusation and you really should take it back |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:23 PM Response to Reply #98 |
142. Everyone for her/himself: Cultural differences ARE speaking here, for example: |
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druidity33 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:04 PM Response to Reply #59 |
62. thank you |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:19 PM Response to Reply #62 |
71. This OP is about nursing care |
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druidity33 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:39 PM Response to Reply #71 |
79. there is a difference |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:11 PM Response to Reply #79 |
96. Those comments are not out of context. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:27 PM Response to Reply #59 |
73. Who is to assess the quality of family care? Those who are cared for? |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:17 PM Response to Reply #73 |
115. I had no issue with the topic of this OP. Neither any preference for individual solutions. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:08 PM Response to Reply #115 |
130. There are state-level programs that Family Care can access - it varies from state to state. |
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Duende azul (608 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:48 PM Response to Reply #130 |
139. Thank you for the answer. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:53 PM Response to Reply #139 |
147. Welcome. You have a good point about individual and familial responsibility. |
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Bennyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:10 PM Response to Original message |
66. I am with you on this one... |
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travelingtypist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:10 PM Response to Original message |
67. No, the assholery comes in when old folks have no visitors. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:15 PM Response to Reply #67 |
69. Ding, ding, ding! . . . Or start a lawsuit of somekind. |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:21 PM Response to Reply #67 |
117. That always sucks |
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travelingtypist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:27 PM Response to Reply #117 |
119. Well, gee, it just must've been the parents they're neglecting. |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:37 PM Response to Reply #119 |
121. Because that is in anyway comperable |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 03:16 AM Response to Reply #119 |
173. Apples and oranges. |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:22 PM Response to Original message |
72. oh kitty hugs to you, and don't let the haters get you down |
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medeak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:29 PM Response to Original message |
74. am torn to call adult protective services |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:36 PM Response to Reply #74 |
76. Oh my! |
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tosh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:59 PM Response to Reply #74 |
88. ... |
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medeak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:04 PM Response to Reply #88 |
92. www.care.com |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:41 PM Response to Original message |
81. No one who goes through this will criticize you, so tell the others |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:43 PM Response to Original message |
82. No such thing was ever said |
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Djinn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:22 AM Response to Reply #82 |
164. just read the other thread and don't recall the OP |
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gleaner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:52 PM Response to Original message |
85. No one can make that generic .... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:07 PM Response to Reply #85 |
93. Agree about arrangements, with the addition that the process should be started WAY, WAY in |
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gleaner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:07 AM Response to Reply #93 |
176. I agree ... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:31 AM Response to Reply #176 |
198. Been there with Daddy. There are many, many, many pros & cons with chemo for the Elderly. |
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DRoseDARs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 07:56 PM Response to Original message |
86. Well, since you're a monster to those people you can tell them to fuck off with a clear conscience. |
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Obamanaut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:02 PM Response to Original message |
90. My MIL, at age 93, lives in a nursing home. She uses a walker, but |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:09 PM Response to Reply #90 |
95. The Family Councils are extremely extremely important AND a powerful |
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WolverineDG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:04 PM Response to Original message |
91. My cousin cared for my aunt in her home for years longer than she should have |
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goclark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:12 PM Response to Original message |
97. Bless you |
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OnceUponTimeOnTheNet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:39 PM Response to Original message |
104. I'm sorry you lost your Mom at such a young age Kitty. |
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Honeycombe8 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:44 PM Response to Original message |
108. You are wise, Grasshopper. They receive better care there, as long as there are |
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Le Taz Hot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:47 PM Response to Original message |
110. I'm going through EXACTLY this right now |
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EC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 08:53 PM Response to Original message |
111. I learned from my Mom |
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Fire1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:54 PM Response to Reply #111 |
126. It absolutely depends on the person and their condition. |
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Joe Chi Minh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:03 PM Response to Reply #126 |
217. And unfortunately, not all children are as loving and grateful towards their |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:09 PM Response to Original message |
112. After many years of taking care of all ages of people across the spectrum |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:39 PM Response to Reply #112 |
123. +1 |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 03:53 AM Response to Reply #112 |
175. I got a front row seat to that with my ex-girlfriend and her dying mother |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 10:14 AM Response to Reply #112 |
204. Couldn't agree with this more. |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:13 PM Response to Reply #204 |
214. Amen. |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:36 PM Response to Original message |
120. My dad has insisted |
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donheld (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:38 PM Response to Original message |
122. Don't listen to the ninnies |
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bertman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:52 PM Response to Original message |
124. Well said, Hello_Kitty. Been there. Done that. Hated it, but caring for my senile Mom |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:29 PM Response to Reply #124 |
136. Another great point. |
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jennied (547 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 09:54 PM Response to Original message |
125. I'm the caretaker of my mother right now.... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:37 PM Response to Reply #125 |
144. ! |
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Thickasabrick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:15 PM Response to Reply #125 |
218. Bless your heart. I wish there was more access to home health |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:45 PM Response to Reply #125 |
221. --- |
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salib (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:04 PM Response to Original message |
129. You are so right |
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mnhtnbb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 10:24 PM Response to Original message |
135. I had to move my 89 yo father from California to here in North Carolina in 2000 |
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cowcommander (679 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:30 PM Response to Original message |
143. Having worked in a nursing home once, I will never, EVER subject my parents to that |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:40 PM Response to Reply #143 |
145. And do you think no one ever gets bad care from their relatives? |
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cowcommander (679 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:09 AM Response to Reply #145 |
151. Well, considering how I'm studying to be an LVN and maybe an RN after a few years... |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:08 AM Response to Reply #151 |
193. So everyone should train to become a nurse now? |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 10:32 AM Response to Reply #151 |
242. My mother tried to plan ahead, but plans be damned... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-29-09 11:42 PM Response to Reply #143 |
146. I wish you could come visit the home I work in and ask our Residents how they feel about it. |
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OnceUponTimeOnTheNet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:57 PM Response to Reply #143 |
232. You are full of poo. |
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MUAD_DIB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:01 AM Response to Original message |
148. I'm going through the same hell right now. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:05 AM Response to Reply #148 |
150. It's Damned Hard to see a Parent go down. Damned Hard!! |
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MUAD_DIB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:38 AM Response to Reply #150 |
153. It is not how I want to remember my father. Thanks... |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:00 AM Response to Reply #153 |
157. Believe me, I know and you're right, it isn't! |
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1awake (852 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:25 AM Response to Original message |
152. I'd like some advise in this area actually.. |
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AlbertCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:44 AM Response to Reply #152 |
154. You can't make people take care of themselves. |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:51 AM Response to Reply #152 |
156. All SNF/LTC have Social Workers who can advise you on the technicalities |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:04 AM Response to Reply #152 |
159. LTC Social Workers can also work with you specifically to ease her difficulties |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:16 AM Response to Reply #152 |
162. Oh, and ask about staffing schedules! and compare homes on that. |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:44 AM Response to Original message |
155. Damned right, Kitty! |
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Djinn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:02 AM Response to Original message |
158. I hope I never have to BUT |
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BobTheSubgenius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:30 AM Response to Original message |
165. Both of my parents died in care. |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 01:39 AM Response to Original message |
166. Hi, as a person who has talked to my family about putting me |
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AllTooEasy (540 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:29 AM Response to Original message |
167. PUT ME IN A HOME |
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cartach (361 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:39 AM Response to Original message |
170. The assholes are |
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LibDemAlways (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 03:09 AM Response to Original message |
172. Each situation is different, and no one has the right to |
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Road Scholar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 05:45 AM Response to Original message |
177. Well said. nt |
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Chulanowa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 05:59 AM Response to Original message |
178. I work in a nursing care home |
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liberal N proud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 06:05 AM Response to Original message |
179. We had to put my mother in the nursing home in May |
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Wapsie B (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 10:41 AM Response to Reply #179 |
205. We will most likely have to put dad in a care facility if his health deteriorates much more. |
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sandyj999 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 06:30 AM Response to Original message |
180. Unless You Have Lived This You Should Never Criticize |
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Firstzar (72 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 06:45 AM Response to Original message |
181. No argument here! |
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niyad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 01:25 AM Response to Reply #181 |
240. welcome to DU--home and sanctuary for many of us. |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:10 AM Response to Original message |
184. I would rather be dead than live in a nursing home |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:01 AM Response to Reply #184 |
191. I understand how you feel |
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Chemisse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 05:54 PM Response to Reply #191 |
230. That is wonderful that you allowed her to be home and have a 'good' death |
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GinaMaria (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
185. you have my support 100% |
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WVRICK13 (930 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 07:28 AM Response to Original message |
186. I Agree |
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southernyankeebelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 08:00 AM Response to Original message |
189. Totally agree with you. Three years ago my mother-in-law who I cared for allot |
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get the red out (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:00 AM Response to Original message |
190. Too easy to judge |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:04 AM Response to Original message |
192. ITA, and anyone who says/implies they are probably hasn't been faced with this--YET. rec'd nt |
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Love Bug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:18 AM Response to Original message |
195. I agree with you, Kitty |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:28 AM Response to Original message |
197. I haven't read all of the posts in this thread, but.... |
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Yes We Did (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:31 AM Response to Original message |
199. What's with all the immigrant slams? |
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patrice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 10:13 AM Response to Reply #199 |
203. Okay, so what shall be done with those whose "own" can't take care of them? |
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Yes We Did (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 12:19 AM Response to Reply #203 |
250. I didn't mean it like that, so don't misrepresent what I said. |
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OnceUponTimeOnTheNet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 08:35 PM Response to Reply #199 |
234. Second poster full of poo. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 08:51 PM Response to Reply #199 |
236. Examples: |
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OnceUponTimeOnTheNet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:10 PM Response to Reply #236 |
237. This online back and forth is easy behind a keyboard. Time to change a adult diaper..... |
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Yes We Did (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 12:20 AM Response to Reply #236 |
251. Yes... poor white people. Got their feelings hurt. please. n/t |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 09:19 AM Response to Reply #251 |
253. Um, great reading comprehension ya got there, sport. |
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sinkingfeeling (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:58 AM Response to Original message |
201. I didn't read the other thread, but anybody that doesn't realize the need for nursing home care, |
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onlyadream (821 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 10:06 AM Response to Original message |
202. When I'm old and need care I only hope that I could be in a nursing home |
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joeybee12 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:03 AM Response to Original message |
206. Happy to recommend... |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:13 AM Response to Original message |
209. Thank you, Hello Kitty. |
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Arugula Latte (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:56 AM Response to Original message |
210. It's often expected that the women of the family should take on the care |
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mstinamotorcity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 11:56 AM Response to Original message |
211. Nursing Homes |
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Alameda (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 03:49 PM Response to Reply #211 |
222. excellent answer......been spending a lot of time in nursing homes |
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AngryOldDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
213. Some things are just nobody's business. |
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madamesilverspurs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:41 PM Response to Original message |
215. We were blessed |
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soarsboard2 (37 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 12:52 PM Response to Original message |
216. In Agreement |
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butterfly77 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 02:35 PM Response to Original message |
220. Same age and sounds like the same situation .. |
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greengestalt (126 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
223. I disagree, and I've walked the walk |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:08 PM Response to Original message |
224. You are right, of course. |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 11:41 AM Response to Reply #224 |
244. Oh, yes indeed... |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 08:22 PM Response to Reply #244 |
249. Thanks for explaining your difficulties, pipi, so other can understand. |
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pipoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
225. I work in a retirement community |
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Peanutcat (492 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
226. People who attack you for this issue are idiots . . . |
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DonCoquixote (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
227. I know I lock horns with you a lot Kitty |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 08:41 PM Response to Reply #227 |
235. Thanks. And please don't misunderstand me re immigrants. |
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DonCoquixote (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 02:39 AM Response to Reply #235 |
241. Oh, I get it |
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KamaAina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 05:04 PM Response to Original message |
228. We as a society lack the political will to support home- and community-based services |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 08:10 PM Response to Reply #228 |
233. +1 |
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joshcryer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:20 PM Response to Reply #228 |
239. Excellent post. |
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Geek_Girl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 05:04 PM Response to Original message |
229. I agree I wish my dad would put his mom in a home |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 06:31 PM Response to Reply #229 |
231. Same kind of stuff that happened with my mother's FIL |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-30-09 09:15 PM Response to Original message |
238. I agree |
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Renew Deal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 10:38 AM Response to Original message |
243. I can understand why you'd be public enemy number 1. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 09:17 AM Response to Reply #243 |
252. Which makes me different from the average DUer, how, exactly? |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
245. It is not just the elderly - my oldest sister had to go to a nursing home |
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dusmcj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Dec-01-09 12:09 PM Response to Original message |
246. a lot of people here demonstrate via their own persons why we lose elections |
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demodonkey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
254. Buyer Beware: Most Nursing Homes are money-driven HELL HOLES... |
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TicketyBoo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Dec-02-09 01:54 PM Response to Original message |
255. Nobody knows another's circumstances. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Dec-03-09 07:10 AM Response to Original message |
256. Nice spin, but that's not what happened. |
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