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Edited on Wed Sep-30-09 08:48 AM by lostnfound
You've talked about how your mother taught you English at 5:30 in the morning and read to you about the American civil rights movement in the evening. If the Indonesian schools had an extended school day, would you still have had time to learn English and hear your mother's stories? You lost her at a young age, but at least you were an adult. What about kids who lose a parent when they are still young -- do you know how precious, how irreplaceable that time with family can often be?
Will your extended school year give my son time to learn his grandad's culture? Or his dad's second language?
Didn't you learn anything in the evenings from the kids in the neighborhood? Wasn't it inherently different from the learning experiences you had in the classroom? What about time with brothers and sisters?
What about kids whose parents come from complicated cultural backgrounds, like your own? Might those parents want to have time to teach their children how to prepare their own native food or language or family history?
If my kid's school refuses to play a speech given by the President of the United States AGAIN next year, will I be able to find time to let him sit in my lap and watch it if he has a longer school day?
When "Great-Aunt Josephine" visits our town for what turns out to be the last time in her life, will we regret that he wasn't around to bake cookies with her or hear her stories about his dead grandfather?
If he spends a summer month with his aunt in Florida, will we not have time for a family vacation as well? What about a retreat, or a scout camping trip?
We live in Texas. Who is going to teach him about evolution, or Howard Zinn?
We have 'fuzzy math' -- can I still have time to teach him good old fashioned multiplication and division, or does he have to continue to be bored with busy work and no real sense of advancement?
I teach him quite a bit in the time I have with him. Like tennis (at a public court) and chess. Sure, your schools could teach him that, but they won't give him a memory of playing it with his mom. These are MY gifts to him, not gifts from a stranger. Does that matter?
I like to take him to the woods too..have you ever read "Last Child in the Woods"? It's about "nature deficit disorder" and how the absence of raw nature in children's lives contributes to all sorts of problems. I can't count on the schools to fix that deficit either, can I?
The government says, 'Make sure they get enough sleep.' The government says, 'Take your child on walks or throw a ball around with him -- it's good for your health and your relationship.' A daily walk in the evenings keeps a lot of families together. Parenting experts suggest that kids should all get chores, too. Add in one organized sport or one extracurricular activity and what's left over?
Somebody I know gives her granddaughters piano lessons every week. Sure, the school could take that up -- and should, in my opinion, for those who don't have that luxury -- but don't force those girls to get lessons from a stranger when they are lucky enough to have a living, loving grandmother.
If I had two kids at two different schools and have to pick them up at 5 oclock or so, I likely won't get home until 6:30, and he needs to go to bed at 8 pm at his age. In that 90 minutes, there's dinner, bath, and homework.
My boy doesn't talk to me enough. Young boys are like that. So how do I know how he is behaving when he is away? In order to be a parent to him, I have to actually get to spend time with him. He talks a lot better after a good game of tennis.
The school gets them for about 40 hours a week already, plus homework time which can easily run another 10 hours a week. When they are young they need at least 10 hours of sleep. I The Parent often feel like nothing but a feeding station and a homework drill sergeant. If you extend the school day, it's the limited quality time you'll be taking away, right -- because I'll still need to feed them and they still need to sleep.
There are those of us who believe that EDUCATION -- "educing", or bringing out what is on the inside -- is largely what you obtain outside of school; SCHOOLING -- becoming predictable, swimming in the same direction -- is what you get inside of school. EDUCATION comes in part from the school of hard knocks, and it brings us the unique giants among us. It's no accident that people like Einstein and Thomas Jefferson didn't have years of formal schooling. SCHOOLING can add to your knowledge but not necessarily to one's wisdom or one's courage. Schooling produces a convenient supply of standardized widget-workers for the multi-nationals. EDUCATION is a process of learning to write your own script in life, and produces wise leaders and free thinkers.
Some of us actually LIKE to spend time with our children. I can tell that you do too, from those beautiful pictures of you with the angels in your life. Don't force us all to hand them over for still more hours every week, and expect us to make up for all the things that are broken, in the ever dwindling periods of time that we are allotted.
Besides, whose kids are they, anyway?
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