Niece's SO's mom went OFF on the social worker at the hospital yesterday.

[bighart]

Niece's fiance is still in a medically induced coma but now at a hospital 130 miles from here. His mom went ballistic on the social worker over something petty yesterday then proceeded to get in the face of the chaplin as well. She has now done this to a doctor, another one of her sons, her grand-daughter, her husband, 2 social workers and a chaplin, all because she wants to be in control.


Hospital is keeping my niece informed and really just doing everything they can to help her. She has had so many people tell her they are sorry for all the crap she has to put up with from her fiance's mother. I hope he wakes up soon.

[JuniperLea]

1. Someone needs grief counseling...

And maybe a prescription. She's out of control! I feel for her... this is her son. But she is clearly making matters worse for all concerned. I hope someone calms her down before the son wakes up! He shouldn't be subjected to that crap.

It's good to hear the hospital is keeping your niece informed now.

[bighart]

3. Different hospital.

I really feel for the rest of her family having to put up with her as well.

I got to wondering if he is kept in a coma for an extended period of time and his mom decides to file for guardianship, could her
behavior be pointed to as a reason not to grant it to her?

[frebrd]

6. She sounds to me like a full-time control freak.......

who needs a rubber room!

[Barack_America]

2. Stress often brings out the worst in people.

Hopefully your niece feels able to stand up for herself, should the mother turn on her. She may be under stress, but verbally abusing others is not acceptable.

[bighart]

4. She has so far not really gone after my niece directly.

She just makes very demeaning remarks about her while she is standing right there. Niece knows she can't get into a confrontation with her right now so she just walks away when it gets really tense.

[Chulanowa]

8. That's the response she should have

As others are saying, the mother is probably an emotional wreck right now. Getting into a fight with her can only make things worse for everyone, guaranteed. Best to just let it slide at the moment.

[SmileyRose]

15. stress merely strips away the facade and shows everyone the real you

If the future Mom in law is a bitch on wheels under stress then she's a bitch on wheels under a facade all the time.

If dear neice is being shut out now then if the fiance gets better and they get married, dearest mother in law will most likely do everything humanly possible to break up the marriage.

[wryter2000]

5. I work at a hospital

This is not at all rare. They'll be trained in how to deal with it and will have lots of resources within the hospital staff to rely on. At some point, the hospital may require her to have a security escort whenever she goes in.

[frebrd]

7. "may require her to have a security escort whenever she goes in."

Which one, the niece or the mother?

[wryter2000]

11. The mother

They could have security with her when she deals with the staff. Not the neice, she's not the problem. :hi:

[nadinbrzezinski]

16. YEP... mom will not be too happy when that happens

[tularetom]

9. It's sad and frightening when a control freak loses control

I watched the same thing happen when my wife and her sisters had to decide whether or not to pull the plug on their mother. The passive aggressive youngest sister did everything she possibly could to put off the actual termination of life support, including feigning a heart attack right in the hospital waiting room. Finally my wife and I took her outside and told her to either participate in the process like an adult or I would take her home and the decision would be made with no input from her.

And even at that I had to tell her spineless husband to keep her away from there or I would kick his ass.

These people can never understand that sometimes it isn't all about them.

[Blue Diadem]

10. It's good to hear that your niece is being informed.

I was hoping his Mom would settle down, sounds like that isn't going to happen.

Keeping him and you all in my prayers bighart.

[bighart]

12. Really appreciate that.

We have seen such an outpouring of love and support it is humbling. His mom is really missing out.

[Hekate]

13. That's terrible. I hope he recovers; you know his mom is going through the agonies of Hell...

... thinking her boy is going to die or be permanently damaged. What's going to be permanently damaged are all the relationships around her. Someone needs to take this woman in hand, and soon. :-(

Hekate

[Liberal_in_LA]

14. sounds like she's having a hard time dealing with her son's illness