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except for check ups and my 10 year old has ADHD. now, since the check ups are no emergency, of course I expect to not get in like the same day or even the same week, and am surprised if they say they have space available earlier than a couple of weeks. it's a CHECK UP... I would rather plan ahead for things if I can anyway. And we haven't usually had to sit in the waiting room long... it's in the room itself it seems to be a long wait... especially with kids who get bored fast. If I have ever had a real concern of illness or anything we have gotten an appointment the same day.... though usually with a physician's assistant... hard to see the actual doctor these days.
An interesting side note on the ADHD. when we first brought Emily in to the doctor regarding our suspicion she had ADHD, the doctor just wanted to put her on meds. I did not want to do that but wanted to get her tested to see if that was indeed what the issue was. Emily had great grades, but had a lot of trouble with listening and concentrating and honestly, she was having trouble with hitting other kids and stuff like that. I hesitated in even going to the doctor because I didn't want to just put her on medicine.... I wanted to know if she HAD the adhd and then we could deal with it if indeed that was what it was.
I was not good at standing up to the doctor and walked out with a prescription for ritalin. I was not very happy about it either.. and my husband called the doctor and yelled at her about it. So we set up a meeting with the school. They did an initial observation or whatever it was. At the meeting we could tell they were trying to avoid having to actually pay to have her tested.... they don't like to label kids and her grades were good.... she didn't fit into their criteria or something... yes...let's wait til she is failing to get this taken care of. We ended up telling them, look.... we have insurance... we will get her tested just point us in the right direction. So they gave us a list of places.
I called Children's hospital in buffalo. Their response.... there was a year wait to get in, and they didn't take kids over eight... (emily was eight). huh??? we'd been dealing with this since kindergarten and no one wanted to diagnose a child before third grade or whatever and they won't see kids over 8?? oooookkkkkkkkkk.....
So we ended up going to a place that got her in in three weeks and I took her once a week for a month. it was an hour drive up there every week for a month, but in the end they determined she had ADHD and told us that she would probably be a good candidate for medicine... not all kids benefit from the medicines, but they thought she seemed a good candidate. And getting her diagnosed gives us more options with the school. We can have special conditions for her schooling... like more time for tests and specific outlines for making sure she has structure... getting reports from teachers etc. And that is helpful, because while most teachers were willing to work with me in trying to get her to behave in school, there was one teacher who wasn't very helpful.
I had set up a system in kindergarten where the teacher would send me home something to let me know how Emily was in school that day. If she was good, she got a half an hour of tv. if she wasn't, then she didn't. This seemed to work pretty well when the teachers were working with me. My goal was to ensure that emily wasn't disruptive in class and got an education too. And I am confident that had we not done something, eventually her grades would have suffered.
Our system seems to be more into shortcuts rather than the best interest of people. I wonder how many kids are on ritalin who don't even have ADD. It was like night and day with Emily with the ritalin. It helps her brain slow down enough to think before she acts. And when I look at her report card I don't look so much at her reading and math to tell me it is working... I look at her listening, working with others and those things to tell me it's working. It hasn't fixed everything... but it has helped her be able to think before she acts... though she still has the genetic incessant talking issue. LOL!
Another thing with the meds is that the time release is what has worked best for her. When we had independent health the time release would have been $40/mo copay that we couldn't afford. so we were on a generic that she had to take twice a day. She was only getting it in the morning because of the hassle of having to fill out forms to have the nurse give her meds in school. I know... but it wasn't as effective anyway. When we switched the girls to child health plus, we put her on the time release and there was no copay.... and it doesn't just help emily do better in school as far as being able to concentrate and listen.... it helps everyone else in her class too because instead of the teacher having to deal with Emily all the time, she can teach her class.
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