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I feel your angst. A parent's perspective is certainly different than that of a 18 - 28 or so year old man... the "It" demographic... the one the world is trying so hard to please that they are turning our young girls into the pleaser wannabe for that same demographic... even at age 3! It's really sick when you think about it. Perceptions and perspectives are getting really whacked these days.
I had a conversation with a couple of men about several news stories regarding teachers becoming sexually involved with their students. My stance was that, as a parent, I must put my trust in these people and I surrender my children to them daily. The thought of a teacher, male or female, having sex with my child, male or female, under the age of 16, could easily cause me enough anger to be able to kill that person with my bare hands! To which the men replied, I dunno... seems to me if I were a kid and my hot teacher came after me, that would be a good thing! They were serious, really serious. I was agast... shocked and appalled! I countered that not everything a child wants is good for them; that's why they have parents. They countered by saying, it's a natural urge; a lot of kids have crushes on their teachers... it's a natural progression of that and the world makes too big a deal of it all. To which I countered, then the world should forgive me when I kill that person with my bare hands, because that, after all, would be my natural reaction and the reaction of thousands of mothers just like me! Honestly. I can't figure out what has happened to people!
Now we are expected to sexy up our kids from birth! No one learned a damn thing from the whole JonBenet debacle... and I bet none of that caused even a pause in those stupid baby beauty contests!
What to do? I'm perplexed and saddened.
My daughter is 22, and some would call her a prude. I think she is loaded with self-respect. She did her share of dressing up in high heels and such, but she was always very modest when it came to showing too much skin. I wish I could take credit for it, but I honestly can't put my finger on any turning points or moments of enlightenment that led to her being this way. Maybe it was having older brothers?
There was a Simpson's episode in which little Lisa Simpson is having trouble finding clothes for exactly the reasons you state. I'm sure there are plenty of viewers who laughed at her for being a prude.
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