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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:04 PM
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Saying goodbye, instead of hello - the scent of a woman, war and peace
Yesterday my wife said her goodbyes to people here in Ohio as today she was flying out to California for good. I will be following shortly when I get the moving van, get things packed up, etc.

I know I am getting old because I have spent the last few years saying goodbye to so many, and saying hello to so very few who have come into my life. I also know I am getting old (ok 41 may not seem old to some....) because when I took the wife and daughter to the airport the lady asked my 6 yr old to move please so grandpa could put the suitcases on the scale - and the she said, it is grandpa right? Uh NO my wife is not my daughter. Curse her for looking young and my early gray!

As I sit here alone tonight and it got me to thinking about the war, and our young folks out there fighting for bush and his oil buddies.

I came home and walked into the bathroom for a shower - and I smelled my wife's perfume. I just wanted to hold her. I wanted her to be safe on her trip. I wanted to touch her again and look into those loving eyes. And it all hit me later after my wife called.

So many of our fine young people who are used to holding someone, feeling them, making love to them, are now out in a hot desert doing the exact opposite - killing people, and feeling unsafe and scared. Their loved ones are not there with them to hold them. And they have no idea if or when they will see them again.

She met a military guy on one of the planes she was on. He talked to her the whole flight. He talked about life, girlfriends, a future with kids. Going to college and making a life. He was 22 and joined up to get out of where he was, to have a chance in life people in his small Texas town did not have.

He just wanted what so many do - to make love and not war. To make dreams come true, not kill other people.

So many of our young folks are thrust into this war, tore away from family and friends who can hold them and comfort them, away from people they trust - and tossed into a hell hole where everyone is a suspect, death is not a hooded skeleton with a scythe but could come in the form of a car with kids in it, and deep down all they want is the scent of a lover to fill them as they lay safely in their arms.

They want to defend those they love, and the country from which they come - but they are not defending, they are in an offensive zone giving up all they have here to enrich the few who would not dare to walk the streets of Iraq as they do.

I am lucky. I may hold the towel she showered with and smell it and know that I will soon be back in her arms - they know only that tomorrow they may die and leave the love of their life shattered, to be replaced by a folded flag that they will sit and hold on to while wanting the person it represents and not their memory.

I can sleep tonight in our bed and know that soon I will see and hold her again, that I can call her anytime - those spouses of military folks will lay there alone tonight wondering if the next knock on the door is the one they dread. Feeling alone tonight I can better grasp what they are going through, and be thankful to the good Lord I am not where they are.

Who really supports the troops? We do - because we see how ugly and terrible war is not just for others, but for our brave young men and women who signed up to defend our country. We want them home to make love again, not war.

Our news is filled with Anna Nicole Smith and Imus, while the real heartache each day is pushed to the back burner. Our young folks are being shredded mentally and physically for a war that should never have begun.

Tonight I will lay alone in bed and hug the pillows she sleeps on - but I will also know she is in a place where she is happy and has dreams of a better life. Our soldiers' spouses will do the same, knowing that at any moment the one they miss might be blown to bits because our asshole in chief is hell bent on carrying out his war of lies and cares only about himself.

We didn't stop Iraq from attacking us - we stopped the dreams of our own kids so that the few might have even more than they have now.

We can't stop Iraq from going into a civil war - but we can stop our people from being target practice during it.

Bring em home. Let em make love. Let others make war. And if ya really think we should be in Iraq, grab your gun and go. But I don't see anyone who thinks we should be there actually going there. Damned shame.




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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:08 PM
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1. Your words touch my heart, as they so often do...
Beautifully written!

Thank you....

I could not have said any of this better than you just did...

K&R

:patriot:
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TomInTib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:09 PM
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2. Wonderful, T S S.
Now take care of business so you can get out here with your wife and daughter.

California is waiting for you.
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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:17 PM
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3. Taking the night off - but won't be here much soon
have a lot of packing, etc to do. But for now I have my evenings I can spend on DU. Soon though, it will be hard to spend any time here with the moving, getting settled in, taking care of the wife, etc and so on.

I might disappear here for a long period of time off and on - just want my friends to know though I ain't fell off the face of the earth :)

The next 8-10 days I will be here a lot I hope, after that - I don't know when I will be back.

So I will enjoy it while I can :) You folks keep me company these lonely nights.
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salin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:22 PM
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4. How beautiful - it is so easy to view the war and the individual lives
torn apart by it - as seperate from our own. We can get outraged in principle. We can get angry at the story. But how often do we think about our own lives and events that make us feel joy or pain or loss or loneliness and link it mentally and compare it to those whose lives are so inextricably tied to this war? THis is a beautiful post and very provocative. Not just in the post's sentiments - but inviting readers to begin to do the same with the events and emotions tied to those events with our own lives. Powerful.

Thank you for posting this.

K & R
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peacebird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:25 PM
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5. "if ya really think we should be in Iraq, grab your gun and go" - Perfect.
Beautiful post! Thank you!
:toast:

Travel safe and join your loved ones soon!
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NanceGreggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-10-07 08:34 PM
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6. The poetry of a lover ...
... quietly whispered in the midst of gunfire and explosions, can still be heard above the din by those who listen with their heart.

Beautifully written, my friend. Beautifully said.



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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 12:20 AM
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7. I love the way you worded that
And thank you my friend.
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Hekate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 02:55 AM
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8. {{{Straight Story}}} Thanks as always for the post
Be well. :hug:

Hekate

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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 03:02 AM
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9. Oh, dear sweet Straight Story.
Your post brought me to tears. What you say is so true. I weep for the men and women who will not be coming home. I weep for the families who have lost loved ones forever. Thank you for your post. May your wife and daughter be safe on their journey; may you be safe on yours; and may as many of our military as possible come home safe and sound to those who love them.

:hug:
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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 03:30 AM
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10. Thank you my friend
I spoke to my wife a short while ago (She could not sleep either) and she is happy as can be about the move.

I have a good friend in the war right now, though he is in Afghanistan. His dad is in Iraq as is his brother, all have left behind families while fighting in the bush wars. They should be home - all were just weekend warriors in the guard.

Our military did their mission - they kicked out the taliban and in Iraq they took out their army and saddam. Go in, get the job done, leave - that is what so many thought their job was. Now it has become baby sitting while people shoot at you and try to blow you up daily (Last time I talked to my friend he had to go as people were lobbing bombs at the camp, he said they always miss but they still have to scramble. Fascinating to me that he has internet access out there in the middle of nowhere).

I am away from my wife and daughter for maybe 14 days, and it hurts us both. I can't imagine being ripped from home and sent to a war zone knowing that it is for oil and not to defend the people we love. All the while the people wanting the war sit in luxury with their families making money off the sacrifice of our people. And when they come home they are screwed over in so many ways.

I got it easy, and it sucks :) I cannot imagine the hell some of our military families are suffering through. Makes my concerns seem trite, but hey - I still feel what I feel ;)
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 03:41 AM
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11. You have every right to feel what you are feeling.
I do understand what you're saying, though. I have my own peccadillo's to deal with, and I know that in light of what others are dealing with, they can be seen as minute. But still, they are personal, and do affect me, as your's affect you.

Having said that, I do acknowledge, as best I can, that those dealing with being in the middle of the hell hole that is Iraq, or dealing with having someone over there, is something I can only imagine.

I'm so glad your wife is feeling good about the move. May it continue to have a positive affect on her, you, and your child. :hug:
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IChing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 03:50 AM
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12. good god, another welcome to the hotel california
welcome to my state
you will fit it in.

You are one of the other new kid in town
no matter what age you are.


4 dead in O-h-i-O
tin soldiers

come visit me.
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watercolors Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 04:32 AM
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13. What a beautiful message!
There is not a day goes by that I tear up thinking about all the loved ones in danger, my grandson included. Somedays I find myself holding my breath and don't know why. Our family just wants this nightmare over, I'm sure my grandson' wife feels the same. We all do our best to keep her and Charles close to our hearts. I am now in tears.
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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 03:51 PM
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16. I can't imagine that 'waiting' feeling
prayers and hugs for you and your family.
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 05:02 AM
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14. Dude that was beautiful.
:thumbsup:
Bring um home for fuck sakes
I can see how you miss your wife.
She is a beautiful person.
Soon all will be as it was
(I'm about 2 months away from 41..And I feel old)
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-11-07 05:20 AM
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15. May those empty arms be holding love again very soon
Yours, your wife's, these remarkably brave young men and women, and those they hold dear.

That was a beautiful, touching post The Straight Story. Thank you my friend :pals:
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