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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:02 PM Original message |
My mother refused to put her dog to sleep and it scares the sh*t out of me (please read). |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:10 PM Response to Original message |
1. You need to see a lawyer and get an advanced directive |
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SmileyRose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:32 PM Response to Reply #1 |
10. Seconded. |
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Fire_Medic_Dave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:37 PM Response to Reply #1 |
13. Thirded if there is such a thing. |
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MADem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:57 PM Response to Reply #1 |
15. Fourth'd. |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 03:15 PM Response to Reply #1 |
23. Very good advice. n/t |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:22 PM Response to Reply #1 |
30. Yes, thank you, very good points. I do have a form filed with my doctor and the form indicates |
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Beacool (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 11:24 PM Response to Reply #1 |
45. Fifth'd, is that even a word? |
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Blasphemer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:12 PM Response to Original message |
2. It sounds like she is scared |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 09:00 PM Response to Reply #2 |
39. I have tried. She tends to only "hear" so much and then shuts down completely. |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:13 PM Response to Original message |
3. First of all, let me extend a (belated) welcome to DU and my condolences for your situation |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:52 PM Response to Reply #3 |
36. Thank you for the welcome! I do have a will, mainly because of this situation -- and I am in my 30s. |
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Donnachaidh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
4. get a DNR form - now! |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:19 PM Response to Reply #4 |
29. Thank you so much for your responses. I do have this form filed with my GP and stated in my will. |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:23 PM Response to Original message |
5. One Of Two Things: |
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madrchsod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:25 PM Response to Original message |
6. i had to decide whether or not to continue my mothers treatment |
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LisaL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:26 PM Response to Original message |
7. Maybe she thought of the dog as if the dog were human. |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:28 PM Response to Original message |
8. You're brave to post all this, |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:45 PM Response to Reply #8 |
34. And thank you for such a brilliant and compassionate reply! Really, everyone, thank you so much. |
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Mz Pip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:30 PM Response to Original message |
9. I can only echo some of the above |
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sojourner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:32 PM Response to Original message |
11. one way of dealing with fear is denial...to pretend that the feared situation does not exist... |
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tavalon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 05:36 PM Response to Reply #11 |
28. That is what I did with my feared cancer |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:27 PM Response to Reply #11 |
32. Thank you also for such a thoughtful response. I am a young woman (early 30s). Our grandparents |
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sojourner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 10:53 PM Response to Reply #32 |
43. that sort of supports the "denial" of mortality in general, and that |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-01-09 12:16 AM Response to Reply #43 |
46. Wonderful response and your thoughts on this are very insightful. |
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bemildred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:35 PM Response to Original message |
12. Although nominally illegal, it is pretty easy for a well-informed person to deal with these issues |
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roody (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:51 PM Response to Original message |
14. How old is she? |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:24 PM Response to Reply #14 |
31. In her mid 60s. I worry that she may be developing some form of dementia. She is also terrified of |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:59 PM Response to Original message |
16. Probably need a grief support group |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 12:12 AM Response to Original message |
17. So many here have already given good advice |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 09:15 PM Response to Reply #17 |
40. Thank you, and I admire your decision -- that is tough but I agree with your p.o.v. |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 10:59 PM Response to Reply #40 |
44. Before we had health insurance I worried about all our money going to pay for a terminal illness |
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madeline_con (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 12:17 AM Response to Original message |
18. I agree with Blasphemer. Your mom is scared of losing you, she |
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hay rick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 12:34 AM Response to Original message |
19. Sometimes people change as they age. |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:54 PM Response to Reply #19 |
37. I should have mentioned that my stepfather felt that the dog should be put to sleep (but would not |
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kestrel91316 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 12:46 AM Response to Original message |
20. This is indeed disturbing. Regardless of what the problem is, |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 03:04 PM Response to Original message |
21. Kick |
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distantearlywarning (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
22. Agree with other comments in this thread. |
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BrklynLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
24. I cannot add anything to the good advice you have already gotten in this thread. |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 09:18 PM Response to Reply #24 |
41. Thank you, I will keep everyone updated. Thank you all for your responses! |
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DemBones DemBones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
25. Besides getting the right legal papers, be sure that |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:56 PM Response to Reply #25 |
38. Yes, thank you for your suggestion. I did do this -- my husband and a younger relative. |
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renate (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 05:21 PM Response to Original message |
26. kick |
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tavalon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 05:33 PM Response to Original message |
27. Advanced Directive for you and encourage therapy for her |
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KamaAina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:31 PM Response to Original message |
33. Well, nothing we can do about the dog |
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ThirdWorldJohn (525 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 08:50 PM Response to Original message |
35. I think that women do not want to put an end to the life oa person or dog that they hold so dear. |
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rug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jun-30-09 09:22 PM Response to Original message |
42. www.caringinfo.org |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-01-09 12:17 AM Response to Reply #42 |
47. Thank you, very helpful. |
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dysfunctional press (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-01-09 12:27 AM Response to Original message |
48. my neighbor is going through the same behaviour with one of his dogs... |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-01-09 02:15 PM Response to Original message |
49. Get some joint counseling with your parents RIGHT AWAY - and then - lawyer up |
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