Sanford is still "in love" with the Argentine woman.

[dixiegrrrrl]

I am watching/listneing closely to the replay of the conference.
The way he talks about how he got involved, the look on his face, the tone in his voice...this guy is seriously hooked on her.
News conference replay here:
http://www.thestate.com/newsextra/story/838992.html

[Bicoastal]

1. Ya think?

Just read some of this prose:

"Lastly I also suspect I feel a little vulnerable because this is ground I have never certainly never covered before - so if you have pearls of wisdom on how we figure all this out please let me know... In the meantime please sleep soundly knowing that despite the best efforts of my head my heart cries out for you, your voice, your body, the touch of your lips, the touch of your finger tips and an even deeper connection to your soul.”

A guy doesn't write stuff like that for just ANYONE.

[KeepItReal]

3. Roger that. That's some good stuff!

Oh wait - he's an adulterer...that's some bad stuff.

[malaise]

2. And he mentioned hurting her first

That was strange.

[Happyhippychick]

5. Wasn't that disgusting? That really made me angry, he's more worried about hurting her than his

wife and kids.

What an asshole.

[LostInAnomie]

7. That's what I noticed.

I have a feeling she is of utmost importance to him. I wouldn't doubt that he was planning on divorcing his wife after his term was over and getting with her.

[Kahuna]

12. I noticed that too. nt

[madaboutharry]

4. I agree.

While I was watching the press conference, I had the same reaction. I do not believe he broke it off while he was in Buenos Aires.

The emails confirm his attachment to her. He is deeply in love with this woman. There is no good outcome here. I do not believe that he will be able to reconcile with his wife. How can that happen if he is can't let go of the feelings he has for his lover. And that is what she is to him.

Mrs. Sanford, if she does choose to try it again with him, will only suffer more humiliation.

Frankly, I don't see how his wife could ever want to be intimate with him again. Not after reading about the breasts, the curve of the hips, the tan lines, and the depth of Maria's soul. Nope, I couldn't go back.

[Tansy_Gold]

6. been there, done it

you don't go back. not ever.


not

ever

[monmouth]

8. True. I've often wished I had never gone there in the first place...n/t

[Tansy_Gold]

13. my experience was not quite the same as Mrs. Sanford's, nor

for that matter not quite the same as Mr. Sanford's. So I don't want to give the impression that I know "exactly" what they're going through.

But if indeed Mr. Sanford has a strong emotional attachment to his lover, strong enough that it's caused him to throw a whole lot of caution to the winds, he's not likely to get over it any time soon. And the fact that so much of it is playing out in the most excruciatingly public detail is going to engrave the pain that much more deeply into all of their memories: his, hers, and Maria's.

It's one thing to experience a grand passion; it's quite another to have that grand passion exposed and ridiculed. When that exposure is confined to those immediately concerned, there's a possibilty for healing. When the humiliation is public, I don't think so.

IMHO, and I do not claim to be anything approaching an expert, I think the reason Bill and Hillary Clinton were able to reconcile (as much as they did, and I don't think we will ever know how far any reconciliation went) was that he had no grand passion for Monica. "I did it because I could" is probably as emotionally involved as it got on his part. That's apparently not true of Sanford.


Tansy Gold

[monmouth]

15. I just posted below prior to reading your great post. This is not over by

a long shot. His worst fears have come to be, there is nothing to lose. The thing is his father-in-law is the money man, his daughter wanted to be in the Governor's mansion. I believe I read somewhere that Sanford and father-in-law had a big pow-wow prior to the separation. I also think there's more to this and it hasn't come out yet. I think he's madly in love with Maria and now that his political career is pretty well shot, well, who knows.

[malaise]

9. Didn't you hear the man

He cried for five days :cry: :cry: :popcorn:

[Dappleganger]

14. Agreed.

Once trust is broken in a certain way, you just can't ever go back. There is someone very close to me who cheated on her husband in a 6-month long affair (until the guy's wife found out and left a nasty message on my friend's answering machine for everyone in her family to hear). It devastated her husband and of course my friend was very sorry and guilty. Her husband was a stand-up guy and agreed to go through counseling to put things back together, and they are together now and seem ok. But there's no doubt in my mind that he could never fully trust her again as before. I don't think that I could be that forgiving if someone really was in love with someone else, as opposed to someone who went after a little strange without the emotional ties involved.

[dixiegrrrrl]

10. Ear worm of the day. The sound of bowling pins going down.

edit=spell.

[Kahuna]

11. She put the triple-whammy on him. That's for sure. nt