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Personally I think 17 is way too young to have a baby... however if Jamie Lynn Spears can do it and now the VP nominee's daughter can, then maybe I am old-fashioned.
I am not going to discuss whether or not Bristol should have decided abortion (obviously not now... but earlier in the pregnancy) - I am pretty sure that decision was made for her.
But so many republicans and fundies are praising Sarah and her daughter for keeping the baby and for Bristol marrying the father.
I know nothing about the father Levi... the self-proclamed f'ing redneck, salmon poacher, and now famous for his little swimmers. But really... 18 and 17 - is that really a good age to get married? How much of a decision was Bristol and Levi's versus parental pressure? Why is this seen as "doing the right thing".
Now I know that there are plenty of people who married young or married their high school sweethearts and have wonderful marriages. And I know 17 is young but not unusual to have a baby... but to me it seems like less of a choice these young people made than a choice that was made for them... and that is not fair to them or their unborn child. So I guess my concern is less about their young age and more about how much say they have... I would probably feel the same if Bristol was 20.
My mom was a single mother most of my life (she divorced my dad when I was 3.. then "for the sake of" me remarried him and then divorced him again by the time I was 5). I always find it insulting this idea that a child "needs" 2 parents (and of course those parents "must" be a heterosexual father and mother rather than 2 moms or 2 dads :sarcasm: ). Yes it was financially and emotionally harder on my mom, but she was happier (and safer because my dad was abusive) without him in our lives. The difference in my life was that my mom had the love and support of her 5 brothers and her parents. I was (and am) loved and cherished by my family which more than made up for not having a father around. Parents who stay together for the sake of their kids are not doing the kids any favors, IMO, because that underlying tension and unhappiness can be felt by kids. And that is such an awful feeling - when your parents aren't happy and it shows.
I am 36 and I have been married to a wonderful man for close to 10yrs. We have no human kids.. just furry ones, and our marriage has had a lot of ups and downs, and we don't have public scrutiny (other than our respective in-laws) focused on us. Bristol's marriage will be media fodder for as long as it lasts... a strain I would not wish on anyone. Marriage is a huge life event, so is the birth of a child, and obviously so is having your parent a vice-presidential nominee. To be an observer rather than a particpant in these events is unfair.
So rather than fundies praising this young marriage... I would rather see counseling (be it spiritual or not) to help ready these 2 to be parents first, spouses later.
Sorry if I inadvertently offended anyone
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