Do not let your life turn into just a long menu of resentments

[Bucky]

Seek the joy available and embrace whatever you find.

That is all.

[NewHampshireDem]

1. Ahmen Brother!

Hehe ... for the first time on DU, I posted back to back replies with the same subject line!

Lots of firsts this cycle. :crazy:

[CottonBear]

2. Very good advice my friend.

One never knows what tomorrow will bring.
Live, love and be kind and let the people in your life know that you love them.

:hug:

:hi:

[AlCzervik]

3. Jeez Bucky.

that was lovely, and you're so right.

[NCarolinawoman]

4. I hear ya, Bucky!

And a big recommend! :thumbsup: :P

[mdmc]

5. not another prostitution OP

:)
:kick:R
Good advice my friend

[ScreamingMeemie]

6. It's regrets, Bucky...

regrets and should have could haves...

[Bucky]

7. So do you regret having regrets?

Regrets are feelings. I tip my hat to 'em and walk on by.

Also, later, I can console myself by eating too much food.

[ScreamingMeemie]

8. Right now, I regret a lot, at different times...

Hard to say.

[Bucky]

9. The master says regrets are like a conversation in a forest.

If you don't like them, the master says, allow them to chatter away, but walk to a different clearing in the forest.

The master, of course, charges like $200 for advice like that. And here I am online giving it away for free.

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. and it's all too late.

When one just wants him back. Nothing ventured nothing gained I guess. Thanks Bucky.

[zorahopkins]

10. Joy? What Joy?

I am an old woman who was born outside the USA and who speak English with an accent.

I am discriminated against wherever I go.

I am poor, and I find it impossible to get a job because I am old, a woman, born outside the US, and because I speak English with an accent.

I live in a patriarchial country.

I find no joy.

Only discrimination, judgment, and condemnation.

[Bucky]

12. I'd say do a skills assessment. It's the first step in a job search.

I don't know what part of the country you're in. Accents see to be no problem getting employment in Houston, but then we're an international citiy. If you have another language besides English, you already have a pretty marketable skill. But obviously your mileage my vary.

[zorahopkins]

13. I'm an OLD WOMAN

It's not just that I speak English with an accent -- that identifies me as being "different" in a country that does not really value diversity.

It's also that I am old in a country that values youth.

It's also that I am a woman in a country that is a patriarchy.

When you are like me -- an old woman who was born outside the US, and who speaks English with an accent -- everyone always find some reason to discriminate against you.

And the process to prove discrimination is just a joke.

There is no joy.

Only discrimination, judgment, exclusion, and condemnation.

[Bucky]

14. Zora, I'm sorry that you're getting dumped on.

I didn't mean to make it sound like I was ignoring your difficulties. I was only trying to offer a useful suggestion based on your saying you couldn't find a job. I know there are jerks out there who discriminate. I'm sorry that they're too easy for you to run into right now.

It sounds like you're hurting, in part, from a lack of a community---and sadly, many places in this country do make it extremely tough to create community and bond with those who you can share your life and time and company with. But a social network, a village of people who are connected to you, will be the place that can help you find what opportunities there are out there. Until I found my path, relatively late in life, I know my church turned out to be a good place to find out about jobs. If your accent comes from learning English late in life, I think there should be some places that might need help in the translation business with your native tongue.

Obviously I can't help you assess your skills over the internet, but if you're seriously looking for work, there are employment and even state agencies that may have people who can help.

I offer you my prayers and best wishes.

[Lex Talionis]

16. I hear ya zorahopkins. I speak with an accent, too

Born and raised in the South and it shows. I'm Up here working in Ohio right now. Talk about being people being judgmental, exclusive and condemning someone for they way they talk. Never say 'fixin' here.

"You a hillbilly?" "How old were you before you got shoes?" "You can marry your sister in Tennessee, right?" On and on and on. Don't even ask me how I get treated on the West Coast. Their brutal out there. Guess cause I'm just different, too.

But, life goes on and you can't let others dictate how you'll live. Going right now to the local bar to stir things up and make new friends. Hope you find some happiness in this life. Something you have to seek yourself and not depend on others to give you. peace to you.

[blues90]

17. If you want to feel better

Look at all the politicians talking out of their ass , talk about an accent .

Add age to that and you get the picture .

[blues90]

15. I am standing here with a bucket of ice water

ready to toss it in many faces , this is what I am left with when looking for moments of joy . Or I could spend my time watching the price wheel at the gas pump jump a quarter and not have a long wait , or play with the pump trying to hault the flow right on the $7 mark , that is impossible now , it's a slight squeeze per dollar .

[EFerrari]

18. That's right.

:toast: