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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 03:54 PM Original message |
How praising your kids screws them up |
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ananda (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:03 PM Response to Original message |
1. bs and wrong! |
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greenman3610 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:59 PM Response to Reply #1 |
29. didn't work for George Bush. |
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all.of.me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:24 AM Response to Reply #1 |
46. kids live up to what we tell them. |
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Dorian Gray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:39 PM Response to Reply #1 |
53. Praise is good, |
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Fresh_Start (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
2. wow and ow |
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Marie26 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:06 PM Response to Original message |
3. The article doesn't say "don't praise" |
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Divernan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:00 PM Response to Reply #3 |
18. Right. Kids don't have to have exceptional IQs to be praised. |
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Hav (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:07 PM Response to Original message |
4. . |
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Mandate My Ass (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:08 PM Response to Original message |
5. My parents always praised us for being smart |
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Jackpine Radical (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:11 PM Response to Original message |
6. On the other hand, there are lots of people whose parents |
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DemBones DemBones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:31 PM Response to Reply #6 |
13. So true. nt |
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MountainLaurel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 06:04 PM Response to Reply #6 |
31. Ah, so you've met my brother? |
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SharonAnn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 06:54 PM Response to Reply #6 |
32. Maybe but psychopaths are "I'm OK, you're not OK" types. They may have had |
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Jackpine Radical (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 11:55 PM Response to Reply #32 |
36. Beggin' yer pardon, but it has been my humble and ignorant opinion |
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Ron Green (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:15 PM Response to Original message |
7. When praising your kids, it's a good idea to keep in mind the difference between |
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WindRavenX (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:17 PM Response to Reply #7 |
8. excellent post |
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Double T (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:23 PM Response to Original message |
9. So, parents should stop praising and start kicking their kids butts............ |
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speedoo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:25 PM Response to Original message |
10. Thanks for posting this. I listened to a discussion this morning about it. |
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Vinca (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:28 PM Response to Original message |
11. How many adults to you know who are screwed up because |
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all.of.me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:26 AM Response to Reply #11 |
48. that was me in my father's eyes - never good enough. |
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dysfunctional press (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:30 PM Response to Original message |
12. welll...being verbally abusive and never praising them screws them up even worse. |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
14. Know your kid |
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Divernan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:52 PM Response to Reply #14 |
15. Kids may each be unique, but they do ALL NEED love, encouragement and praise |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:43 PM Response to Reply #15 |
27. The kind is unique to the child |
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devilgrrl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 04:57 PM Response to Original message |
16. What a pile of bullshit. Written by a former Bond salesman???? |
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gravity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
17. Misleading title |
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Divernan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:03 PM Response to Reply #17 |
19. Did they just praise your intelligence, or was it your academic performance? |
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gravity (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:17 PM Response to Reply #19 |
23. Both |
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Dorian Gray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:43 PM Response to Reply #17 |
54. Exactly |
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SoCalDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:07 PM Response to Original message |
20. Education is its own reward. |
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KitSileya (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
21. One of the disturbing trends I have seen in my students, |
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SheWhoMustBeObeyed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:35 PM Response to Reply #21 |
26. I heard this from one company's head of HR |
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KitSileya (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:12 AM Response to Reply #26 |
44. Oh, poor man. |
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Dorian Gray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:45 PM Response to Reply #26 |
56. His MOTHER called? |
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BluePatriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 06:02 PM Response to Reply #21 |
30. My supervisor is this way |
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KitSileya (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:25 AM Response to Reply #30 |
47. That is the sad thing about it. |
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Divernan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
22. Your heading should be "The WRONG kind of praise screws kids up." |
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SharonAnn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 07:05 PM Response to Reply #22 |
33. Praise for accomplishing something is the right kind of praise. Phony praise is not. |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:04 AM Response to Reply #33 |
37. It's been known for a long, long time that (for BOTH children and adults) ... |
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Beetwasher (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:47 PM Response to Reply #37 |
57. Insightful And Lucid Post |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:23 PM Response to Original message |
24. how about if the kid is smart. do we pretend they are not |
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CJCRANE (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:29 PM Response to Original message |
25. I think high expectations can be a burden. |
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BluePatriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 05:46 PM Response to Original message |
28. Hm. |
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brentspeak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 07:07 PM Response to Original message |
34. As opposed to having a parent do nothing but tell the kid they're going to be a "failure"? |
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gollygee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-16-07 07:09 PM Response to Original message |
35. Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" by Alfie Kohn |
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marions ghost (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 06:18 AM Response to Reply #35 |
42. good article, thanks |
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JCMach1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:27 AM Response to Original message |
38. Praise should be given with a dose of realism! |
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clyrc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 01:14 AM Response to Reply #38 |
39. Which can be more difficult than it sounds |
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JCMach1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 05:15 AM Response to Reply #39 |
41. Not saying that you don't praise someone |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:16 AM Response to Reply #38 |
45. I agree. Kids need to have their ability confirmed, but expectations set as well. NT |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 01:30 AM Response to Original message |
40. It's HOW you give praise that counts. |
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mainer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 07:18 AM Response to Original message |
43. Asian parents always say: "You can do better" |
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kineneb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:11 PM Response to Reply #43 |
52. gee, sounds almost like my grandparents |
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dorkulon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 11:47 AM Response to Original message |
49. Hits close to home. |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:05 PM Response to Original message |
50. Praise, like anything else, |
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lonestarnot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:11 PM Response to Original message |
51. Giving a child the knowledge that brain cells regenerate and that |
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B Calm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:44 PM Response to Original message |
55. Hell even dog trainers know better than this. |
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Clark2008 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 12:49 PM Response to Original message |
58. What utter bullshit. |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Feb-17-07 01:46 PM Response to Original message |
59. Sometimes, telling someone how smart or talented they are can sound like a threat |
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