The DU 1st Qtr fundraiser with "hearts" reminds me of unpleasant

[Decruiter]

feelings going back to middle/high school. Who is popular, who is liked the most, why not me? Feeling left out, not appreciated and so on.

I appreciate the sentiment in giving the hearts, but I believe many deserving DU'ers are left out and just might be hurt.

Just a scrambled thought, no offense intended.

[Catherine Vincent]

1. We're grown up, we can take it.

Plus it only lasts a couple of weeks.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

2. I'm not a fan of it either. I think popularity contests are stupid.

I'm pretty sure where one of my hearts came from, but I don't know where the hell my other two came from. I know it's not my GF, because we're not buying hearts for each other.

[The Straight Story]

3. Just donate and give yourself some :)

:rofl:

[Decruiter]

6. Cute. I wish I could donate this time around. There are a least

a hundred or more I'd like to send hearts to.

PS/To whoever sent me hearts, thank you. Truly, thank you. I'm humbled.

I've not been posting near long enough. So thank you, once again.

[The Straight Story]

9. Actually, it was more a joke about myself, ie

indicating it was probably how I got mine :) (it's not, but if it bothered me enough that I didn't have any and others did I just might!)

[Decruiter]

13. Bless you. You are an inspiration always. n/t

[madfloridian]

4. Many of us agree.

It sort of depends on if you are in a "group" here. Like supporters of a candidate, that kind of thing. Those of us who post controversial things know we won't be getting many.

:hi:

I would give you one but I donated last month.

[BlooInBloo]

8. Yup.

[Orangepeel]

5. It's generally harmless and helps raise much needed funds.

so I'm okay with it. It doesn't bother me if somebody has 42 hearts and I only have the one I got for donating.

People form friendships with each other that have nothing to do with me. So what?

[Hardrada]

7. I am too acerbic and aloof. I will never get one.

Though I may give some away.

[seabeyond]

11. so you say.... wink n/t

[Hardrada]

15. Wowzir! Wink duly acknowledged

and returned. :hi:

[Monkeyman]

10. Here's a idea if we can lets give everyone a heart

[Decruiter]

12. That is truly a warm and loving thought. Who could possibly not be

deserving of at least one heart. Even a freeper/troll. Who knows, it might start to warm distant and cold hearts.

[dogday]

32. That is exactly what I am trying to accomplish

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=190387&mesg_id=190387

Post anyone who needs a heart or direct anyone who has heart to give please....

Let's make it happen!!!!

Thanks :hi:

[symbolman]

14. I feel like the last kid picked for softball

I think I got two pity hearts last year :)

And I'm thankful for them, but I think I mentioned the last time that the DU should slap a heart on EACH person along with that tag, so no one looks like a leper, sort of Prime The Pump kind of thing, might even get folks to donate more..

I also wish the hearts had messages in them, like "CHENEY - THE OTHER WHITE MEAT", slogans and such :)

But I DO look forward to it, even though I get, as I said, pity hearts.. hey, I know, my wife and I can donate and give EACH OTHER Hearts for a valentines present, there you go :)

[Hardrada]

16. Sounds like a potential DU name: Pityhearts.

Sad but eloquent.

[Richard Steele]

22. SELF-pity and PhotoShop are a potent combination.

If ya know what I mean...
:rofl:

[Cobalt Violet]

29. Wow.

:spank::spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank: :spank:

One spank for each heart for you!

[Hardrada]

30. Bless your hearts!

[EFerrari]

48. lol

:rofl:

That's so good.

lol

[Decruiter]

18. Hey there Symbolman! No pity hearts for you, but lots of love coming

your way to you and to yours.

I am so glad you responded to this post. I was looking for a flash animation you did prior to the beginning of this long national nightmare just this very evening in the last couple of hours.

You had a flash of Iraqi's living their lives prior to the "Shock and Awe" campaign while "What a Wonderful World" played. I shared it way back then with many, it was incredibly powerful and I've never forgotten it. It replays in my mind all the time.

Would you please re - release it. I went to TBTM.com and tried to access it and it would not play for me.

I think it would be very much appreciated around here at DU and other sites on this very sad anniversary coming up in March.

This flash of yours was a celebration of life and would be greatly appreciated now coming up on February 15th, the day people around the world walked the streets (15 to 30 million, give or take a few). We all shook the world that day and your flash was a very moving documentary for us all then and now.

Thanks so much for you, your talent, your passion and your family. If I had the finances you'd be one of the many DU'ers I'd give many hearts to with absolutely no pity involved, just loving gratitude.


And here is a heart to everyone here tonight, tomorrow and for the rest of all our days.


Peace

[symbolman]

40. Here's that link

I finally Found it..

Called "Bagdad Snapshot Action" and is more moving now that I see it than it was BEFORE Bush blew most of these people all to Hell.

http://www.tbtmradio.com/geeklog/public_html/staticpages/index.php?page=20040606202455535

Pass it around, post it if you like :)

Thanks for thinking of me..

[Decruiter]

47. Thanks symbolman. I will share it. Why don't you post it here at DU again.

I'm sure that it would be greatly appreciated by all and there a lots and lots of new DU'ers since you first put it out.

Someday I hope the world forgives us for what the US military, industrial congressional complex has done around the world, spreading democracy.

[incapsulated]

20. Pity hearts, lol

Yeah, I agree, everyone should get at least one heart from DU so no one is left out.

We will know the popular kids by the the line of extra hearts at the bottom of their posts, heh.

[demobabe]

17. You can be as popular and loved as you want to be...

You can always buy the hearts and give them to yourself... ;)

[Decruiter]

21. Somehow that just doesn't seem quite right, actually rather sad.

I should just buy myself a few hearts so I look to be well liked, loved, respected. hmmmm.........

I guess that may be what I was addressing in my OP.


Lots of folks around here would probably like to give hearts, they just can't afford to even donate (which is the rather sad position we find ourselves in). Which is what I spoke of in my op, Valentine's Day and the giving of "Valentine hearts". the receiving of or lack thereof can bring not so nice feelings about for a multitude of different reasons.

Peace

[incapsulated]

19. We went through this the first time, actually

I kinda agreed. Then someone started a thread where all the "heartless" gathered and just about every single person wound up being given a heart, even against their will.

I must say mine came as a pleasant surprise since I have barely posted for over 6 months. :)

[windbreeze]

23. I'd settle for a prayer or two...

if someone could find the time..
wb

[Decruiter]

24. Every day, windbreeze, there are angels all over DU. n/t

[Cerridwen]

28. Done.

and a :hug: because they go together. :D

[windbreeze]

38. humble thank yous and the heart brought tears...

been a rough, rough week end...
Thanks so much...
windbreeze

[Cerridwen]

50. Hi, windbreeze....I'm baaaack. :D

I just wanted to let you know, I didn't just post 'done' and move on. You're still in my prayers and thoughts.

And now we each have an additional heart to add to our 'original equipment.'

Please know, that for whatever it is worth, someone, 'over here', is sitting here thinking of you and hoping for you that things will get better in your life.



:hug:

[TorchTheWitch]

25. I remember saying the same thing last year

It just seems too much of a popularity contest that has big potential for hurt feelings.

[phylny]

26. I agree with you.

That's why, when I donated this morning, I donated to one person who I have seen on the New York Forum and one person who I just saw this morning, but had a nice post.

[seabeyond]

27. and each heart you gave how did you feel. forget about receiving

the joy and good feel for me has been holding my hearts to come upon a person that feels the want of a heart and to give.

last year doing this as the week progressed and hearts became more evenly distributed left the whole board aglow i love. it was a thing to behold. and it wasnt in the receiving....

i think it is a fun little thing to do for our fellow duers

[Midlodemocrat]

31. I LOVE it. I love giving out hearts.

And, Skinner et al, gets way more money from me when they do this.

I've always loved giving presents and this is tres fun, IMHO.

[More Than A Feeling]

33. I appreciate my heart, but one response to a post of mine means more to me

than fifty hearts.

[incapsulated]

34. K....

Here is a response:

That is an interesting perspective.

Happy Valentines Day! :)

[seabeyond]

35. ok... me me i am responding to your post. do you feel 50 hearts

bombarding you. you got it. and fun it was for me too..... twinklin

[dogday]

37. Then I want you to have more than

fifty hearts... Here's to you, may you have a great day.....

[GoneOffShore]

36. I gave my hearts randomly

Except for one.

As I was going through GD earlier today, if I saw a post I liked, I'd give a star.

I've got one, self inflicted, but wouldn't care if there were none there.

[Quixote1818]

42. Those who don't have a heart yet may be feeling a little hurt

and knowing everyone is making an effort to give everyone a heart won't help them much. If I thought I got a heart because everyone was just trying to give one to everyone I would think, gee thanks.:eyes:
Everyone gets a trophy just for participating. Inevitably there are going to be people who don't get a heart because DU has 100,000 members.

[seabeyond]

52. well i have followed two threads of people receiving hearts and every response

in receiving a heart were people feeling good, a joy, a smile. so.... respectfully you may be the only one that may have rolled your eyes with that. i was giving hearts to people before the threads, and the excitement of receiving without asking was their. and i felt good giving. and each person on those two threads felt good giving their hearts

you really want to make those good feelings less, or bask in the glow?

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

39. First Of All, This Is Spreading A TON Of Good Will Around. Its Only Been One Day, And Already I'm

finding it hard to see those without one.

Second of all, If someone on an anonymous online message board is actually going to have hurt feelings from not receiving a heart; well, then, I don't know what to say other than that they probably should do some serious self inflection.

[Radical Activist]

41. I didn't like it the first time for that reason.

My feelings haven't changed.

[Texasgal]

43. As long as it helps DU

I don't care...

I'm okay with it!

[laundry_queen]

46. Same here.

It doesn't bother me. The quicker we can get that ugly mug off the top of this page the better. B-)

Edited to add thanks to whoever gave me my heart that I didn't know was there until I made this post. :)

[tabasco]

44. Everybody gets a charity heart! See mine!

Plus you get a solicitation to go along with it!

[bobbolink]

45. I think a lot of us feel the same way, yet we are told it doesn't matter.

:( We're supposed to pretend it doesn't bother us, just because it's fine with others.

As an offset to that, I'd like to point out this very beautiful post... I think it says so much about how we could actually conduct ourselves, rather than putting some above others, and telling those who are hurt to "get over it".

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x188393#188480

Here are some hearts for ya!

:loveya:

[nonconformist]

49. I had the same concerns as you... I don't like anything that encourages cliquey behavior

But it really seems that people are trying really hard to make sure that most everyone gets one - which frankly, makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. :)

I don't know who gave me my hearts, but it really truly made my day. I have some to give away as well.... I'm looking around for a few overlooked deserving souls. I think many others are doing the same.

[fishnfla]

51. deserving DUers will get their hearts

and it dont bother those who dont, take it from me

Edit: you guys, desrving DUers!, deserving DUers!

<blushes>

[Grandrose]

53. Truly appreciate your sentiments.

It is always better to include everyone and I feel a little uneasy about those
left out. Give all one heart to start and then proceed from there?:think:

[Rainscents]

54. It's always lot more fun to give then to receive!!!

[seabeyond]

55. i agree but then it is equally fun to receive too.... lol lol. i think it is all

fun.

but i sure did have a blast giving too. i feel a let down i have no more to give.

[Rainscents]

56. Of course... Receiving is fun too!

I really love giving! Warm my heart!!! :loveya:

[foreigncorrespondent]

57. I hate it too!

But what is the point is saying as much? They don't listen, and they don't care who gets hurt.