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MessiahRp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:06 PM
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Chain Letter I received.. RE: Gay Marriage
I thought this was pretty good. I wish I knew the source. I hate chain letters but this is one I plan to pass around.

Rp
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"Many letters have been sent to the Valley News concerning the homosexual menace in Vermont. I am the mother of a gay son and I've taken enough from you good people. I'm tired of your foolish rhetoric about the "homosexual agenda" and your allegations that accepting homosexuality is the same thing as advocating sex with children. You are cruel and ignorant. You have been robbing me of the joys of motherhood ever since my children were tiny.

My firstborn son started suffering at the hands of the moral little thugs from your moral, upright families from the time he was in the first grade. He was physically and verbally abused from first grade straight through high school because he was perceived to be gay.

He never professed to be gay or had any association with anything gay, but he had the misfortune not to walk or have gestures like the other boys. He was called "fag" incessantly, starting when he was 6.

In high school, while your children were doing what kids that age should be doing, mine labored over a suicide note, drafting and redrafting it to be sure his family knew how much he loved them. My sobbing 17-year-old tore the heart out of me as he choked out that he just couldn't bear to continue living any longer, that he didn't want to be gay and that he couldn't face a life without dignity.

You have the audacity to talk about protecting families and children from the homosexual menace, while you yourselves tear apart families and drive children to despair. I don't know why my son is gay, but I do know that God didn't put him, and millions like him, on this Earth to give you someone to abuse. God gave you brains so that you could think, and it's about time you started doing that.

At the core of all your misguided beliefs is the belief that this could never happen to you, that there is some kind of subculture out there that people have chosen to join. The fact is that if it can happen to my family, it can happen to yours, and you won't get to choose. Whether it is genetic or whether something occurs during a critical time of fetal development, I don't know. I can only tell you with an absolute certainty that it is inborn.

If you want to tout your own morality, you'd best come up with something more substantive than your heterosexuality. You did nothing to earn it; it was given to you. If you disagree, I would be interested in hearing your story, because my own heterosexuality was a blessing I received with no effort whatsoever on my part. It is so woven into the very soul of me that nothing could ever change it. For those of you who reduce sexual orientation to a simple choice, a character issue, a bad habit or something that can be changed by a 10-step program, I'm puzzled. Are you saying that your own sexual orientation is nothing more than something you have chosen, that you could change it at will? If that's not the case, then why would you suggest that someone else can?

A popular theme in your letters is that Vermont has been infiltrated by outsiders. Both sides of my family have lived in Vermont for generations. I am heart and soul a Vermonter, so I'll thank you to stop saying that you are speaking for "true Vermonters."

You invoke the memory of the brave people who have fought on the battlefield for this great country, saying that they didn't give their lives so that the "homosexual agenda" could tear down the principles they died defending. My 83-year-old father fought in some of the most horrific battles of World War II, was wounded and awarded the Purple Heart.

He shakes his head in sadness at the life his grandson has had to live. He says he fought alongside homosexuals in those battles, that they did their part and bothered no one. One of his best friends in the service was gay, and he never knew it until the end, and when he did find out, it mattered not at all. That wasn't the measure of the man.

You religious folk just can't bear the thought that as my son emerges from the hell that was his childhood he might like to find a lifelong companion and have a measure of happiness. It offends your sensibilities
that he should request the right to visit that companion in the hospital, to make medical decisions for him or to benefit from tax laws governing inheritance.

How dare he? you say. These outrageous requests would threaten the very existence of your family, would undermine the sanctity of marriage. You use religion to abdicate your responsibility to be thinking human beings. There are vast numbers of religious people who find your attitudes repugnant. God is not for the privileged majority, and God knows my son has committed no sin.

The deep-thinking author of a letter to the April 12 Valley News who lectures about homosexual sin and tells us about "those of us who have been blessed with the benefits of a religious upbringing" asks: "What ever happened to the idea of striving . . . to be better human beings than we are?"

Indeed, sir, what ever happened to that?

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darkmaestro019 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:16 PM
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1. Seen this before but surely many have not. Thanks for posting.
I don't know who wrote it either, I thought the one I saw came with an attribution (shrug)
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Horseradish Donating Member (98 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:19 PM
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2. Wow
That's the best thing I've ever read concerning the issue. Wow. No more words ...
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padia Donating Member (355 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:35 PM
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7. welcome Horseradish
n/t
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 05:20 PM
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26. Welcome to DU.
:hi:
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Zookeeper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:21 PM
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3. That's an excellent letter.
It would be better to have the writer's name on it, though.

I will print this and share it.
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WestSeattle2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:22 PM
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4. Very well stated. Thx for the post! n/t
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Catch22Dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:24 PM
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5. One line stands out to me!
"You use religion to abdicate your responsibility to be thinking human beings" To me, that is POWERFUL, but the whole letter is simply incredible.
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MuseRider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:46 PM
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9. That one got me too.
The entire letter is wonderful but that line is one I will remember and use. It states what I have tried to say in a far better way than I ever have said it.
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moobu2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:35 PM
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6. Damn, very powerful whoever wrote it
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Oversea Visitor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 11:45 PM
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8. Sad
Just to show how we human can be sometimes so cruel.
Hiding all this behind a wall of so call goodness
Our silence on this issue becomes our shame
Religion hijack to promote hatred
Unkindly and without no thoughts
The taint will spread through our souls and that of our children
Evil grows, are we all tainted by letting this all go uncheck
Do we resist such thoughts with the utmost of our abilities.

UNFAIR PROSECUTION will one day result in us being the victim too.
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Lindsey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:12 AM
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10. Incredible letter n/t
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northofdenali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:16 AM
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11. May I copy and save this for retaliation
toward future emails I may receive? Most on my email list would agree with this letter - but I still get some fundy mail that I love to "zing".

"How dare you?" should be a rallying cry for us all.
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MessiahRp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:17 AM
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12. It's not mine
But I am sure whomever wrote it would be proud to have their letter make a difference whereever it can.

Rp
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kevinbgoode Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:23 AM
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13. I love it!!
And these are the kinds of things that need to be sent and published in every single newspaper that these christo-fascists flood with their faux religious bigotry.
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Hamlette Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 12:37 AM
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14. I've never seen it, thanks for posting, great stuff. n/t
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Hekate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 03:31 AM
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15. This is a terrific letter
I'll tuck it away in my "spam-reply" file, just in case my so-called religious friend forgets that I insisted she remove me from her list (my blood pressure was about to pop from the christo-fascist-patriotic crap she sends).

Despite lacking the author's name, this is a wonderful letter to pass along.

Hekate

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MessiahRp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 05:06 AM
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17. LOL
I used to get stuff like that all the time from some of the most surprising people. It shocks me when you find someone you think seems caring and sweet and then you learn their politics and they are vile and hateful of everyone and everything not rich, white pseudo-christian and greedy.

Rp
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Hekate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 04:48 PM
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What really shocked me about her economic views is she's ...
...on poverty's edge herself. She's in terrible health, so is her husband, he's in his mid-70s and can't retire because he has no pension. They are intelligent and have worked hard all their lives, but through forces they cannot control, they are one paycheck away -- right? And yet I got this vile thing about lazy people who can't take care of themselves and don't plan for the future, and expect the rest of us to take care of them.

I regret to say I let her have it with both barrels. I asked her if she and her husband were such people, and if we should expect her daughter (divorced, single mom, working) to take care of them when Mel can't work any more. It just boggled my mind.

She phoned to say she was insulted. I emailed an apology, with demand that I not be included in such mailings in the future.

Ye gods and little catfishes.

Hekate

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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 04:27 AM
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16. Beautiful letter
K&R!
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 06:12 AM
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18. The letter had been submitted to Burrlington's newspaper
but hadn't been published. It was later included in a book about the fight for civil unions in Vermont. The book is called Civil Wars.
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MessiahRp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 07:05 AM
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19. Hmmm...
Probably too long for LTTE consideration. I hate that all LTTE's have to be a certain format. Here in Oshkosh they limit them to 300 words and there are times where that really cuts down the context of the original letter.

Rp
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 05:25 PM
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27. Actually it was a purposeful decision
the editor was trying to let things cool down after the law was passed. I was wrong on the paper it was the Rutland paper.
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Rockholm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 07:09 AM
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20. This is a great story.
It could be MY story. I was called a fag all thoughout school, starting in 1st grade.

This story made my day.
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MessiahRp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 10:33 AM
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22. :(
I'm really sorry to hear that. I only hope that society will wake up as a whole and stop itself before we go all the way down the road we did with the civil rights struggles African Americans faced. We're already on the path...

Rp
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wicket Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 07:11 AM
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21. The Valley News is my hometown paper back in Vermont!
Woo hoo! :D
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GardeningGal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 10:54 AM
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23. Excellent letter.
I'm going to bookmark in case anyone ever dares send me some homophobic garbage in e-mail. I don't think any of my aquaintances would try it, but one never knows!
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Jokinomx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 04:43 PM
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24. Thank you so much for posting this....
Edited on Thu Mar-30-06 04:44 PM by Jokinomx
I have not seen this one before... and I agree a very worthwhile post.

I never had to suffer like this...but this letter brought back my own eye witness memories of physical abuse inflicted on a very effeminate boy in school. I felt so sorry for him..yet I was afraid to try to defend him for fear of the same. Looking back I regret not trying to do something....

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yellowcanine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-30-06 04:48 PM
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25. Whoa, I want that person on my side if a rumble starts.
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