I think society allows conduct leading to Foley's

[RB TexLa]

Today at the grocery store check-out line the woman in front of me turned after paying for her groceries looks at me, smiles and gives a somewhat suggestive "hello." I just said "what are you looking at," and the clerk butts in saying "hey you aren't going to talk like that in here."

Amazing, I was waiting for her to tell me that if someone wants to ogle people and make suggestive remarks that I should just "shut up and take it."


Granted I'm not underage but human beings of any age should not be treated like that.

[undergroundpanther]

1. Agreed!

And it had gone on too long,and frankly it's good to condemn it.
Being Ogled IS threatening aggressive,and often well mean.

People need to reinforce healthy social boundaries,really respect each other and each others sacred person hood,because abuse it hurts people,taking advantage hurts,intimidation hurts,verbal abuse isn't"funny".. and we got to stop this crap and and become intolerant of it around us..and stand up and speak out..,if enough people GET IT that that type of behavior its wrong and hurts people the only ones who will still be doing it will be the ones that do not care whom they hurt.And these callous ass-wipes deserve to feel the rage and social rejection for their lack of respect of another persons human dignity.We have shifted our boundaries and let the assholes dictate our social interaction patterns too long.

[CoffeeCat]

2. I bet this was Mrs. Dean Wormer...

...she usually hangs out in the produce aisle though.

;)

[RB TexLa]

3. This one was around the same age as I am

[TorchTheWitch]

4. Welcome to what women have put up with since time began

All you got was a suggestive "Hello?" Geez, no whistles and "Hey Baby, nice ass!" thrown out at you? Maybe I should say welcome to a very tiny glimpse of our world.

I think you were unnecessarily harsh in your response if all the woman said was "Hello" whether it was perceived to be suggestively said or not. A simple "Hello" is NOTHING compared to what women have had to endure for what society thinks passes for a simple mating ritual from men since the beginning of time.

Well, now you know how it feels... and she didn't even try to grab-ass you, insist how good she is at performing oral sex and declare you were coming home with her - ALL things us women have had to put up with all the time and get called a "bitch" when we tell them to bugger off.

[RB TexLa]

37. And it seems from replies the answer from DU to both men and women

who stand up against it is "just shut up and enjoy the attention"

[BuyingThyme]

5. Whahuh?

[Common Sense Party]

6. Human beings shouldn't say "hello"? Flirting should be outlawed?

Lighten up, Francis.

[RB TexLa]

7. maybe you should try to get those pages e-mails and give that

message to them, if that's how you feel.

[Common Sense Party]

8. Apples and oranges. Some lady smiled at you. What the hell is

the big deal. You don't have to reciprocate. Maybe she was being nice.

Contrary to your delusions, this has nothing to do with sexual predators in positions of power taking advantage of teenagers.

[RB TexLa]

9. There are no delusions

It's about how you treat people. If you can't understand that.

[Common Sense Party]

17. Okay, Meursault.

It's actually about how YOU treat people, I'm afraid.

You don't work for the post office, do you?

[RB TexLa]

24. no I do not

and I treat people in an honest and decent manner.

[cool user name]

27. So another human says "hello."

And you reply, "What are you looking at?"

Mighty decent of you. :shrug:

[Common Sense Party]

47. You definitely need a refresher course:

[RB TexLa]

48. I was buying groceries, not waiting to be looked over and spoken to

in an impolite manner, the book would be better used by the woman in the check out line.

[cool user name]

26. I was thinking the same thing ...

:wtf:

[Warren DeMontague]

10. You were ogled? Eeeek! You should have beaned her with an eggplant.

Good Grief.

Are you an underage minor? Did she fondle you? Harass you? Stalk you? Call you on the phone? Camp out in your hedgerow? Do anything beyond give you a "somewhat suggestive Hello?"

Most importantly, is this thread for real?

:popcorn:

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

12. The track record speaks for itself:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5330132

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=364&topic_id=529387

[Warren DeMontague]

14. Is it a full moon tonight?

Must be close.

[RB TexLa]

15. So I choose who I do and do not drink with and as I found out do not

have to report a crime committed against me?

What of it?

[Common Sense Party]

18. Yegads. Meursault lives.

The drinking-at-the-party thread had me in stitches. Thanks for sharing.

[smalll]

19. That was a great thread -

I want someone to make a T-shirt like this:

Front:

Hey *

We Don't Drink With YOU!

Back:

... wouldn't be appropriate.

www.democraticunderground.com

[cool user name]

36. Good grief!

Me thinks this guy has a problem with women.

Of course, that's just my opinion from what I have read so far.

[RB TexLa]

44. no, I have no problems with women

[cool user name]

32. Amazing, isn't it?

Crying wolf only exacerbates the real problem.

[ConsAreLiars]

11. Poor lamer. I'm sure all sensitive souls feel your pain!

LOL

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

13. Somehow the story seems a bit implausible, for a NUMBER of reasons...

But that's just the whiskey talking... :silly:

[RB TexLa]

16. OK, what is a "lamer"?

[Catherine Vincent]

20. I don't understand your post.

Just because a woman said hello (flirtingly), you get an attitude? All you had to do was say hello back and leave it at that.

[boston bean]

21. me neither.....what did you say???

[RB TexLa]

23. "attitude"?

Should I have been thankful that she chose to look me up an down and speak suggestively? Maybe I taught her a lesson and next time she thinks it's a good idea to open her filthy mouth and treat someone like that she won't.

[notadmblnd]

25. So women should keep their filthy mouths shut and not look at you?

ok, got it. But how did saying hello (even suggestively) give her a filthy mouth? Was it more likea a "Well Hello mother f-r?"

[RB TexLa]

28. so you think it's proper behavior for people to look up and down strangers

in a grocery store and speak with a suggestive tone? You honestly think that is how people should behave? And if one is the recipient they should just shut up take it and not say anything?

[notadmblnd]

42. I look people up and down all the time. I think we all do

Sometimes I even hold my head up, look them in the eye and say hello. Occasionally, when I've looked at someone who's been especially appealing to me, I've even been known to do a double take or smile.

If she was hooting and cat calling, touching you or pursuing you out the door, well, that's one thing. But if she just said hello and flirted with you a little and you deemed her filthy, repulsive or beneath you, well, thats another, and I think it says more about you than her.

[Catherine Vincent]

30. you're weird.

<click>

[RB TexLa]

34. if you think someone standing up for themselves and how they are

treated is "weird" then I feel sorry for you.

[Catherine Vincent]

38. Okay, you say you were taking up for yourself

I would have to be there, I guess, to see how this woman was looking at you up and down because apparently you thought it was rude. Did she zero in on your crotch or something? Maybe she thought you were attractive and didn't know how to let you know.

[cool user name]

40. This thread is hilarious ...

The guy is obviously seeking attention.

Well, Mr. RGBolen, you got it.

You're so misunderstood and all those women throwing themselves at you is too much for you to take.

:sarcasm:

[cool user name]

39. You're such a tough guy ...

Send her and her "filthy mouth" (for saying hello?) my way next time, will ya?

[notadmblnd]

22. why did it bother you that she looked at you and said hello?

was it the way she said it? Did she look at you in a way that made you think that she thought maybe you had just landed on the planet? Was she repulsive? I'm just wondering cause saying "what are you looking at" when someone says hello isn't exactly polite. There are more polite ways to fend off unwanted advances.

[DemocratSinceBirth]

29. I Hope I'm Not Being Sexist But I Like When Women Look At Me

eom

[cool user name]

41. Me too ... and even if I didn't, I wouldn't be rude about it.

[mondo joe]

31. How does someone saying hello lead to a 54 yr old man asking a

16 year old to measure his penis?

[Withywindle]

35. "Hello" is a gateway drug!

Maybe he thinks that would have been the next thing she said.

[Chomp]

33. This is a joke, right?

If not, you need to get back to Planet Earth fast.

[LoZoccolo]

43. This is better than any Oasis thread in the world. n/t

[kestrel91316]

45. Oh for pete's sake. SOMEBODY needs to work on their

interpersonal skills just a tad!!

And I most certainly do NOT mean the woman or the clerk.

[ComerPerro]

46. nobody EVER treats me like that in a supermarket

Oh, how I wish they would.


:cry: