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I mean, what the crap. A little research on the posting history of a person speaks volumes to the possibility of an agendum.
Something funny... ven·det·ta ( P ) Pronunciation Key (vn-dt) n. A feud between two families or clans that arises out of a slaying and is perpetuated by retaliatory acts of revenge; a blood feud. A bitter, destructive feud.
I am in the process of preparing to confront my main abuser, and I think that's why the discussion with this certain poster has me so upset. I know my abuser's reaction will not be pretty and this person will slip into "i'm the victim, poor me, look what I'm being made to go through." Being told I have a vendetta just cuts to the core, as I have deliberated for so long on whether or not to do this and HOW to do this and making sure that my motives are good in the process because acting out of spite or out of hatred is not ok in my book. This is someone I love who has created untold amounts of destruction in my life.
I also dealt with sexual harassment from a professor in undergrad, a professor that I would have considered a "friend." I turned the dude in a year later when I began to understand that no, I wasn't being ridiculous for feeling horribly uncomfortable with what the man said and did. I was not the first one (by FAR) to whom he had done crap, and really my harassment was MILD compared to other girls, but I realized last week how much I am still silenced even after having turned him in to the administration b/c I feel I can't openly talk about what happened. The dude is a very popular professor. I have to be very selective in who I talk to because talking to the wrong person would be social suicide for me (I'm a grad student in the same university now). Hopefully his behavior has stopped since his dealings with the administration...I hope at least something good came from all of this.
The ignorance of some people on the effects of sexual abuse or harassment is just astounding...and quite frightening.
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