Can I talk a minute? Something very strange happened last night.

[Paper Roses]

I have been haunted for the past 2 years since my husband died suddenly. The days are empty and I have no wish to do anything. I think of him all the time.

Last night I had the strangest dream--if that is what it was. It is as clear to me now as it was in my dream.

I was standing in a field, leaning on a fence post, crying. All of a sudden my husband appeared and put his arm around me and he asked me what is wrong. I told him that I cannot go on without him, that life has no joy any more. I told him that I am brokenhearted that I never had a chance to thank him for our 45 years of marriage and for all he meant to me. I told him I loved him and that I can't go on. That I wished this meeting was real and he really was here.

He told me that he was here and that it is real. That I must accept that we will meet again and that he misses me too. We gave each other a light kiss, a long soft hug and he was gone.

I know it was a dream but it was so unlike anything else I have ever experienced. I hold no religious beliefs, neither did he, except to tell me when we meet again, we'll travel all over the world and write travel books to earn a living. Throughout our lives, we often joked about meeting in again in another life.

Today I am trying to put this dream into some kind of meaning. I will try to believe he really did come to me one last time. I know he is gone but maybe he came to tell me to accept it and go one with whatever time I have left in this world.

[ceveritt]

1. Your dream

PR:

Oh, my. Would that I could have such a dream.

You’ve heard my story. I won’t say I know precisely how you feel about the loss of your spouse. But I believe I have a pretty good idea. Tomorrow it will have been precisely two years and five months since my wife died.

Yes, the days are empty and hollow and devoid of meaning. Horrible beyond any rational expression. I would not wish such a thing on my worst enemy. Not this pain.

Yet you had a dream—or experience, whatever one chooses to call it. It was real to you. Who among us would be so cruel as to deny you that? It was real enough to you. At this time of the day, if it happened to me, I’d be guaranteed to believe it, and believe in it. I hope you can.

Like you I hold no religious beliefs. That is neither here nor there.

I might caution against trying overly hard to put the dream into some kind of meaning. Some experiences resist such intellectualizing. I’d suggest only perhaps accepting it, then reveling in it. Hold onto it. Forever.

Again, I wish I could have such a dream about my Kathryn. To have, even in a dream, another kiss and hug, would be worth life itself.

Gotta go. Can’t see the computer monitor for the tears.

All the best,

CE

[livetohike]

3. ceveritt

:hug:

[livetohike]

2. Hugs for a wonderful dream and the message from your husband

:hugs: I've always believed that dreams are a reality - we are conditioned to believe from an early age "It's only a dream." I believe our loved ones are talking with us in our dreams.

If you are open to it, try reading the Seth material. "Seth Speaks" is good for starters and "The Education of Oversoul Seven".

[orleans]

4. what a wonderful dream--to see him, hear him, touch and kiss

i'm so happy for you that you were able to have this

some people would say this was a visitation dream and that he really did come to you (and i'm one of those people who would say that)

and i also believe that you will be together again--that this is a temporary separation we have with our loved ones who have crossed over--and perhaps he wanted to give you hope to lighten your heart because when your heart is lightened you will be able to continue your life with more of a purpose and joy.

(it's a simple assumption i'm making based on the fact that when any of us love someone we never would want to see them sad/bereft/broken.)

i also believe that we make a choice to come into this world and--like you said--he is basically telling you it will be okay; don't short yourself or the choice you made by not truly living--see this life through as you initially intended because you *will* be together again when all is said and done.

i think you're very fortunate to have had this type of dream--it is something to absolutely cherish as i'm sure you will.