Joint Checking Accounts -- augh!

[Qanisqineq]

Ok, I am not going through a divorce or separated but it is heading that way. I think we are just waiting until we are back in the US so it is easier.

Anyway... I just need some advice. We have a joint checking account and then I have my old checking account. He has a separate savings account. The joint account -- I am not allowed to see. I am not allowed to see the money deposited, the money spent, the bank statements, nothing. I have no bank card for this account but my name is on it. He has the only key to our mail box and he intercepts everything coming from the bank. I cannot look at the account online. If I call the bank and ask for a password to check it online, they send out the paperwork in the mail and he intercepts it.

What the hell do I do? I don't need the money in that account but if my name is on it, I should think that I can see the damn thing!

[Sweet Freedom]

1. Not sure if any of this helps

If it were me, I think I'd talk to the bank (in person) and tell them what is happening. Your name is on that account and you should be able to walk into the bank a get a printout of your statement and a bank card. You should also be able to request future statements be sent via e-mail or fax.

If you do separate, I think there is a way to freeze the bank accounts, so he can't spend all the money.

Finally, don't deposit any of your money into that account.

Good luck.

[Qanisqineq]

2. I wish it were that easy

We are living overseas and the bank is in the US. That is what really makes things complicated. But thanks for the advice!

[mrgorth]

3. You need a lawyer now

Do not fuck with money and credit. He could ruin you with this. He is divorcable for this alone.