Catching up w/lildreamer316..any feelings/insights welcome.

[lildreamer316]

Ok, so this is my usual 'what's happening in my world' post..and any insights you all may have would be welcome.

First, I am much better from my illness. I finished my antibiotics early Sunday morning, and am bouncing around just fine now. Sorry to have worried you all, but I have not been that sick in over ten years, including my pregnancy!! I feel that it was a bit of a spiritual push to center myself, so I tried to do just that. More on that later if I can recall what I was thinking..to be honest, my thinking was very fogged at the time.

During all this, we ended up kicking our roommate out. This is the girl that called my husband in September of last year, complaining that she had nowhere to live. We've been a sort of half-way house for several of our friends over the last five years, but none have stayed as long as this one. I did grow closer to her, but she did not pay us any rent; just helped us out (food a bit; $60 here; $40 there; etc.) from time to time. She had had a bad breakup and etc.; and lately had been bringing a string of men back to the house..the last week she was here; it was three different men in one week. S and I are done with it, and he told her so..I was too sick to talk. She had also been overdoing her sleeping/anti-psychotic pills and drinking on top of that every night. Fun times. Fortunately, we are still on speaking terms; but I feel that her heavy energy was holding us down a bit in the last few months; and to be honest she just seems to bring 'bad luck' with her. I smudged her room and the whole house the night after she left. Feels much better now. Unfortunatley; she seems to be embodying the worst aspects of her sign at the moment - Scorpio. I always end up on the wrong side of Scorpios; I dunno how I do that. Requires further study.

With that out of the way, we are still having problems with the job situation and husband. The new club that he was supposedly hired for (interviewed in Jan.) is STILL not open; and now has an opening date for JUNE. On the good side,the guy that has been given the GM position likes Shawn a lot; and in the process of tourning the other clubs the owner has fired the guy that works for the corporation that did not like husband. So we think any impediment to him getting the actual job is probably out of the way.

I stop here to reference this:
"For good news about career progress, watch the several days circling May 16 when Saturn, the ruler of your tenth house of professional fame and honors, will turn direct. You can give this date a plus or minus one week. Saturn's been lounging since December 31, 2009. Because a strong Saturn is always critical to your career progress, this planet's turn to speedier orbit will be a blessing.
Indeed, if you have felt that your career has been stagnating over past months and wondered why you were not able to make substantial progress, you can blame a weak Saturn. If you feel you've made some nice progress (possibly in January) but found it hard to keep the momentum going, you are looking at a whole new picture. From now on, the universe will be working with you, not against you! Saturn will not retrograde again in 2009.
If you've been feeling frustrated because you've come close to a new job but can't quite crystallize it, you'll see a whole new picture once Saturn moves direct on May 16. It is never wise to take a new job with a weak Saturn, for your aura of authority or earning potential would be limited in that job. After May 16, that problem disappears, and 2009 will gain a much brighter outlook. Even so, wait until June to move forward on any career offer. "

That is from the Aries forecast(husband) at AstrologyZone.com; thanks MorningGlow for turning us on to that!

On the 16th (Sat.) husband got a call from a club chain in WV that wanted him; so he took of yesterday and has been up there working and will work tommorrow night; then come home. It is more money than he is making here; and they are supposed to have a club open near DC (least recession-hit area of the country at the moment); but we don't see this as being a long-term thing; and it's five hour drive one-way (train costs too much).

When he's home; he has a semi-full schedule of the small club on Wed.; Fri.; and Sat.; and a dance club on Thurs.; but it is very light pay and we are just getting by.

The club that husband quit last year in Charlotte (that I got very angry about; he should never have left; made tons of money and only hour and a half away!) is hiring again for the third time in three months; but every time he tries to call down there to talk to the GM; the guy ignores him. He has not called this time yet. This is where we need some insight and help..he is so frustrated. Does he try to smooth things over with the club in Charlotte? Does he hold out for the one in June here? Does he try for something else? He's banging his head against a wall; I'm fairly calm about it. I personally am getting the message from the Astrology forecast and Karen's postings to wait it out; but I can't seem to get him to relax about it. He has a history of making bad judgement calls; and we're working on it; but I don't know how to calm him down to my level.

Personally, I stopped working again. It was going to cost us more money to get a babysitter than I was making; and to be honest that club was draining the life out of me. I became someone I didn't want to be when I went in there. I need a different environment to work in; that one is small and not run well. My alter-ego took over and she was making some close-to-dangerous decisons. I think I need some more work on myself and a different opportunity before I can venture into that again. I'm working on the website that I want to open and am close to my goal for that.

So, that's about the sum of it. I personally feel a bit adrift, but I'm ok with that - I'm releasing the need to be in control of it. Husband is ..ok, but I am frustrated that *he* is frustrated and I can't seem to help at all,or offer any guidance. Any 'hits' or insights that you have would be welcomed; as I can't seem to read for him on the cards and I hesitate to interpret my readings for myself as news for him. All of my readings have been pretty positive for the upcoming month or two; so I'm happy about that. I really didn't want to appear to be relying on all of this for guidance; but he is just so frustrated that I wanted to ask. Again; I'm ok with whatever is going on..I feel I must wait and see. I appreciate anything my friends have to say, for better or worse.


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[Why Syzygy]

1. From this side of the page..

it all sounds okay. I'm rather puzzled if you're asking for ideas? Seems you two have it all under control. If he wants to call the guy in Charlotte again, the worst thing is a "no" or be ignored again. I would wonder why they can't keep anyone if they are hiring three times in three months. That might spell trouble. Haven't you said before that you are willing to relocate? So if WVa or DC opens up, you could go that way? It could be the guy with the job in June is just dog paddling and keeping Shawn on the stringer to see if someone better comes along .. can't really know that until June it sounds like. If it is postponed again, perhaps he really should look for something else. If a manager can't handle the hiring process, I would worry they can't handle much else.

If it's just that you want him as calm as you, PLEASE. Aries! I love 'em, but don't even try to keep up, just follow along when I'm not lazing. Did he gain any benefit from the astro read?

[lildreamer316]

2. Well..

The WV gig is now shown to only be paying $100 a night; and tips are not required. As of last night he had not made any tips. So that's really not worth a five hour drive, yanno? And the club I thought they had in DC is not open, so that's a wash. There is another club in the chain that would pay $175 a night, but they just told him today that they couldn't place him there. So I think this gig is over atm.

The guy who interviewed him in Jan. for the club that opens in June was the owner,not the manager. The manager we know was hired after that, and has not been told by the owner what to do about djs. He says he can't find out anything; that the owner is being very close-lipped. Shawn's already put resumes in all over; but we can't just pick up and move quickly (the house I live in is in trust for me, so I technically don't own it so I can't sell it; therefore no money for a move or another house)and the places that have expressed interest in him want him down there NOW. We don't have money to fly him to New Orleans or Houston and these people don't seem to want to fly him down there on their dime. This is why I've been pushing for him to try and smooth it over with the people in Charlotte. I think the reason that club can't keep djs is because the djs are bad, not the club. Trust me, the lack of talent in this area is appalling.

Yes, he did get a bit from the astro read, and I am going to pass along Karen's latest when he gets home. I think maybe he will understand after this last little experience. I know he won't be as calm as me per se, but he's so damned high-strung that his emotions often get the better of him. I have to remind him to relax so he dosen't swing into mania.

Anyway, thanks....
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[Why Syzygy]

3. Maybe he is

trying to live in the future instead of Now. That will frustrate someone for sure.