Dreams of abandonment, not being heard...

[FirstLight]

I had a dream the other morning that started out with my best friend leaving the mainland for Hawaii - going back to her home - without visiting me (this has already happened once, and she just confirmed today that her plane ticket is for monday and she wil be leaving again without coming here) and a distinct feeling of abandonment.
(we have been friends since we were 12, there is no anger(well, a little) at her for the circumstances, just dissapointment and missing her)

than, the dream changed, I was in school I think? it was like the class was trying to solve a mystery, and everyone had a piece of the puzzle. We were all in groups..and I was listening to someone in another group give informationand taking notes. I couldn't understand or make out what they were saying.
- So I asked them to repeat themselves, politely
- everyone in the room stopped and looked at me, even the teacher, noone answered.
- I asked again, nicely
- again, just them looking at me like I was a foreigner
this went back and forthe a few times, each time I got more agitated and was on the verge of just hurting everyone and shaking them to get them to pay attention to my words. I was screaming and just so upset!

so what does it mean that nobody cares what I say or ask for?
aside from the obvoius that I HATE being ignored!
thanks, this has been a rough week, the eclipse energy seems to be making all the emotional pain of the past flare up all at once!
:cry: my eyes hurt from all the tears today, and when I try to ground, I can't get there, I start spinning, the earth is really moving!

[FirstLight]

1. Kick for the morning crew!

weird, talk about not being heard and nobody posts a reply, geez....is the Universe trying to tell me something?


like, Shutup!?

lol

[Celebration]

2. "not being heard"

This is just a guess, but this could be a fifth chakra problem. Do you use a pendulum? If so, touch your throat with one hand, and say. "The throat chakra is clear." If you get a no from the pendulum, try to clear it.

Here is the easiest way, although it is somewhat temporary. Over the throat chakra, "unscrew" (counterclockwise) with your hand, removing all negative energy and send it to the correct plane, away from you. Do that for one minute. Then, for two minutes, screw (clockwise) positive energy into your throat chakra, and various colors, particularly blue greens, blues, lavenders, etc. You can say some affirmations at the same time about being heard--something that resonates with you. Recheck with the pendulum, if you have one.

You could repeat this daily for awhile.

However, better watch your mouth because when people feel like they haven't been heard for awhile, and then get over it, whoa, lots of stuff comes out.

I am sorry about your friend leaving. I think all of us here know what it feels like when friends disappoint.

[Dora]

3. How does the Universe provide?

One idea that's repeating itself to me this summer is that acknowledgement and gratitude for those ways that my goals have been met and my wishes fulfilled is essential to keeping the flow of abundance coming.

It's not easy feeling grateful, sometimes it seems impossible. In those parts of my life where I have felt most emotionally challenged and stonewalled (for me now, those issues are primarily personal relationships and time), it's been HARD to work up gratitude. But gratitude for many little things adds up to a whole lot of gratitude. As an emotional experience, gratitude is expansive and attractive. Feelings of depletion and want are diminishing and repellent. So, I express gratitude for the red light even when I'm feeling rushed and out of time - because those moments of sitting at the light require nothing from me but to sit still, something I wish I could do more of, and lo! the opportunity presents itself in traffic. The more I practice small moments of gratitude, the more frequently and easily and bountifully they come.

I'm sorry that your beloved friend is leaving so quickly and for such a distant place. Friends are indeed a blessing; the beauty of friendships is that they can be sustained over time and long distances with consciousness and caring. Nurture the friendship by expressing gratitude for your friend and all the ways you love her. Don't focus on loss or emptiness - acknowledge these feelings, but nurture them like a baby. If a baby is hungry, you feed it. If you're feeling empty, you fill yourself.

About your dream.... I find it interesting that you were doing group work. You were trying to listen to what was happening "in another group," and that's when your experience became frustrating. I think that's a message that by focusing on work that isn't yours, you're bound to feel stymied and misunderstood. A couple of years ago I came across a quote that said it was up to me to stop wanting what was on everyone else's plate, and start eating what had been dished out to me. In other words, it was time for me to stop wanting/coveting other people's successful experiences and start using the tools I had for acquiring my own. Yikes. I think your dream is telling you that you should move your focus back to your own "group" because if there's no answer forthcoming, it doesn't matter how polite you are in the asking, there's still no answer.

[Fire Walk With Me]

4. "I HATE being ignored!"...

These are the days of our discomforts becoming visible so that we may perceive and release them...pray for ease and grace and I hope that all is well...

[I Have A Dream]

5. I'm not good at interpreting dreams, so I really can't add much.

However, I wanted you to at least know that I was "hearing" you.

The one thing that comes to mind for me is that people who live in poverty aren't really "seen" in our society, and are "supposed" to just remain in the background without calling attention to themselves. There aren't many people who are willing to help them to put the pieces of "the puzzle" together so that they can be in control of their lives. I think that you've just had it with not being heard, and, in your dream, you were not going to take it any more.

I wish that I could help more, but I can give it a kick at least.

I hope that today was better than yesterday. :hug:

[Why Syzygy]

6. I hear you.

I have the same issue. At my last roommate situation, there was actually a woman there who covered her ears and told me she couldn't hear me. That was true. She was incapable. Another of the little issues (which was BOP) was a calm objection I had to something another resident had done.

I brought along a little jar of magnetic words. ex-bf and I used to write silly stuff on the fridge, and with so many people in the house, I thought it might be fun. (I may have written this.) I put up a silly sentence. The other woman came along and took my words down and put up her own. No one could understand the symbolic meaning of that action. I just wanted a bit of recognition that my words are important too, without taking anything away from the words of others! (Free speech liberal I guess.) It was not forthcoming.

I had another former roommate (male) who used to run all over me verbally. He could talk faster with no pauses and I never got to finish a sentence. When I started a new job and was standing around with my coworkers, I was actually surprised when they stopped to listen to what I was saying. Contrast. The issue wasn't with me, as ALL the roommates would have me believe. We may be responsible for "everything", but honestly, I cannot help the way some people act. Surely someone would have halted the destruction of GWB by now if it were so. Some of us wouldn't mind playing puppeteer for a day.

The ground falling and spinning out from under is something I experienced profoundly a few months after the death of my dad. I was an adult in college and going to computer classes when he passed. As soon as I slowed down, the earth fell. It is VERY frightening and disconcerting. In some ways I think I'm still free falling. Have you suffered a recent loss?

Carolyn Myss, on one of her CDs, talks about "living an invisible life". Wow. What a challenge when it seems that I have BEEN invisible for such a very long time. I like the concept, though, and give it a try and meditate on it. I know it would do a world of good for the world if some OTHER people did it! lol ..

Maybe if I spend more time being okay "invisible", then I won't notice if I am.
There are just some people who lack the skills to listen. I think fewer people in our society are willing to "get involved", even to the point of listening, as well.

Don't hold that against yourself.

[Shallah Kali]

7. I can hear you :-) I am sorry I did not respond the first time I read this

Your dreams cover issues that have been rising up for me as well and I shut down. I have had nightmares before going back to elementary school age where now matter what I say or do no one can hear me or notices my existence. I can remember one when I was little where I did everything but kick my parents in the shin tugging on shirts, yanking on hands and no response. In recent years the recurring nightmares is that I am choking on something and now matter how frantically I jump around gesturing no one notices not family or strangers present react.

In my case I know that it represents that I fear not being heard and understood by people I care about and there are plenty of times what I say seems to go in one ear and out the other. A few years ago there was growing odd looking freckle on the back of my Mother's neck. I looked up skin cancers and it looked to me like the photos so I showed them to her and asked her to get her doc to check it out. She said she would but then didn't. This went on for several months as it grew darker, more irregular and even seeped drops of blood. I had to go into hysterics, yell, and have several panic attacks when rational discussion failed before she made an appointment 'just to calm you down'. Guess what - it was a malignant skin cancer. The skin cancer doctor said it was going deep and had to remove quite a chunk from the area leaving a scar over an inch long. Something similar happened recently with my Mom but this time I realized what was happening when I started to freak out when she didn't listen. I realized that since I was a kid I would get upset when I had something important to say that wasn't listened to like anyone would and the only way to get my parents to pay attention to it at times was to throw a fit and eventually go into panic attacks. So to this day most of my relatives consider me the family hysteric mentally ill one no matter what unhealthy behavior others get into. My older sis is a ragaholic but gets respect.

I am sorry to hyjack your thread like this :( As for the situation with your friend leave takings can bring up old stored sadness from other times loved ones left whether by moving away or leaving body. All those lost, lonely, and mournful feels are still in there and can be reactivated in full by another loss small as well as big. Be kind to yourself and know you are probably getting emotional flashbacks so to speak that are triggered by current events or even tv shows or ads.

Something is in the air that seems to be excavating tons of unfinished emotional yuk in so many people lately. Hang in there and know you aren't alone in this sort of mess and that people here are listening even if we don't always know what to say.

:grouphug:

[FirstLight]

8. thanks, shallah...

Yes, this eclipse has been trigering some very deep issues, either generional ones or past lives, etc...so we get to move the yuk out and honor it for what it meant tous "then" but that NOLW we no longer need to function from the pain body.

I appreciate your reply, and yes, I have a tendency to shut down whenI am challenged too. That just means we need to ground & center all the more, so the garbage can be "moved out" I give 10% back to the Earth via the grounding cord, and 90% back to the universe by breathing it out the crown... been running lot of energy lately. We will all get through this togehter, holding our hearts open and being willing to grow :hugs:

I heard the other day that gfor us to trancend the planet we only need 1% of the world holding Light... it's so easy in theory, and so hard when the energy is this THICK!

keep on truckin' !!!

[Shallah Kali]

9. I do my best to go with the flow but I had to ask my guides to tone things down

if they could cuz I don't know how things look from their perspective but from mine I can't take as much as was being thrown at me. I know I asked for it asking them to help me change and clear out the psychic basement but I can only take so much so fast. My teacher always reminds me that guides forget how difficult being in body can be and some never have been in body so to go a head and tell them to bring things down to a dull roar when I am overwhelmed.

One thing I have been doing to help cope is the first consistent exercise I have done in years. I use a tape with simple moves so I don't trip over my own two feet and I imagine that every move is shaking off old stuff. I push, exhale, stomp, and kick away everything that doesn't serve my highest good and grab on to my highest future self and earth. I thank the Universe for all the good things in my life and ask for more good things to replace the old stuff I am throwing away.

I hope I am shaping myself up enough to be part of that 1%.

[Stevepol]

10. I've had a similar dream recently, can only say what I thought my dream meant for me.

In my dream I asked somebody a question and the person didn't react. I repeated the question, and again no response. I then tried to yell the question and said it very loudly and my statement became my real waking voice as I woke up.

I interpreted it as meanning I need to speak w/ more authority, with more energy, but this comes from a kind of unity, getting things together so that one can express something with real energy, with the whole force.

The same day as my dream I went to an interesting talk about Purposeful Aerobic Laughter. The presenter told how laughter is a way to get a whole slew of health benefits, even if there's nothing funny, even if you're just doing it as an exercise. She gave her methods, explained that you need to do it for 21 days, etc. The link I believe is www.laughterlinks.com

It seems to me that this is one way of getting in tune with yourself and perhaps when the time comes of speaking forcefully, more forcefully and more as ONE force with focus and intensity. There are I'm sure a hundred ways of achieving the same thing.

Whether this speaks to your issues I don't know, but I do think the interpretation I gave my own dream is probably the most common and accurate one for not being heard by others, tho as always with dreams there are probably alternative meanings. As for what to do about it, that's up to each person to decide.

[FirstLight]

11. Here's another take on the idea...

I spent 3 hours woith my therapist/shaman on thursday and the very first thing she said when I explained this to her was that the guides are NOT backing up and repeating themselves for us... if we can't get it the first time, we will miss the info. there's no more time for us to learn & re-learn...it's time for us to just "fasttrack" as much as we can handle.
And with that, I have to remark that Shallah is right in lots of ways...we can ask for things to be gentler and easier too.

The guides are really eager to help, as eager as we are to just 'power up'...but we can ease off the gas and take a day here & there for play & prayer too!

:hug: we are doing SUCH great work! even if it feels cruddy at times! lol