Prayer/positive energy request

[mrgorth]

I've been dating since I moved out of my house in Oct and I'm doing the Match.com thing which is fine. I met someone from match the other night who lives just down the street from me and seems great. She hung out at my place for a while the other night when we realized where we lived. We have a date scheduled for Thursday at 8 but I'm a wreck thinking that she is going to cancel it. I have no reason to believe she will other than that I called her after she left the other night to thank her for stopping by and she didn't call yesterday. I should mention that I battle depression and anxiety and I'm irish so am naturally pessimistic. In my belief system the more positive I feel the more likely positive things are going to happen to me but I don't think I'm strong enough to feel that way today until I find out we're still on. I can use all the positive energy you can help me with.

Namaste,

Mark

[stellanoir]

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You cannot manipulate someone into love. Although some succeed in that for a while, it doesn't last very long. However conversely, your fears can essentially push this woman away. If she didn't cancel as yet why are you so convinced she will based solely on a lack of response to a courtesy thank you call? She may just not want to appear too needy.

Now that you've introduced all this fear into the dynamic maybe try visualizing the two of you having a really good time together to counteract it.

No news can indeed be good news ya know?

I and did I forget to mention. . .a leap of faith might be in order at this juncture. . .?

[mrgorth]

2. Well

I don't think I'm trying to manipulate anyone. Maybe I don't understand your meaning. I thought praying for things to work would be OK. Can I ask what you mean by "leap of faith"?:(

[stellanoir]

3. No I don't think you're trying to manipulate anyone.

Quite to the contrary, your fears running wild could ultimately sabotage the potential here. The antidote may be to let go and allow this to unfold as it will and hope for the best.

"leap of faith"= trusting that if you are indeed compatible with this person and it is truly appropriate, nothing in the world could prevent you from being together.

Prayer never hurts just as long as it's not interfering with the growth
of another.

[I Have A Dream]

4. Mark, something that stella said resonated with me.

If my date called me after being together just to say that he enjoyed the time together, I wouldn't think that I needed to call back unless he asked me to do so. This wouldn't mean that I didn't like him, but rather that's the way the dynamic works for me. I'd have felt really good that he called me, but I wouldn't want to seem too eager by calling back. However, in my opinion, you did exactly the right thing to let her know that you really enjoyed it so that she wasn't thinking the same thing that you're currently thinking.

Bottom line, I wouldn't assume anything from her not calling you back, and kudos to you for calling her as you did.

I think that you should relax at this point, breath deeply, and look forward to a good time on Thursday! :)

:hug:

[I Have A Dream]

5. Oh, and I'm also sending you positive energy and light!

:)

[mrgorth]

6. Thank you very much.

[Metta]

7. You can do this for yourself.

First of all, I suspect you're not grounded which, by itself will leave you open for all the vaguries of cognitive confict. Grounding will help you hold the space you want and be more solid in the face of uncertanty. Let me know if you need a good grounding technique.

Also, another way of staying out of your head is to see her and you surrounded by neon blue light for awhile. After some time and alternately in sessions, see, instead, the light as neon green or pink. The blue is a clearing color which you both need. Green is a heart and balance color and pink is love. You don't have to get into any of the emotions. The colors do that although you can send the emotions, too, though best without attachments to results (another set up for sabotage). (When you send with expectations, you very well may miss/interfere with what's better for you.)