Mostly Straight, Most of the Time

[davidinalameda]

Dillon, a college varsity hockey goalie, is an eager volunteer for our interview. In fact, he so loves telling his story that he stays beyond the 90 minutes he believes it will take, and offers to come back for the chance to talk some more. When we reschedule, he’s thrilled, and shakes my hand and thanks me four times in the process of leaving.

Besides being remarkably polite, Dillon is talkative, self-aware, and reflective, with an engaging smile and an at-ease quality. Nothing he says feels rehearsed. It’s as if each topic brings forth another triumph, as if he’s discovering his life as he reflects on the questions.

When eventually asked about his sexuality, Dillon isn’t fazed. Though he wants to “fuck lots of girls” before graduation, he’s not entirely heterosexual. “I’m not sure there’s a name for what I am,” he says. He wants this process, this interview, to help him figure it out.


By his own admission, Dillon says he resides in the “Sexual Netherlands” (his words), a place that exists between heterosexuality and bisexuality. In previous generations, such individuals might have been described as “straight but not narrow,” “bending a little,” and “heteroflexible.”

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/mostly-straight/

very interesting article

[Ratty]

1. Heteroflexible

Love it. I've been surprised at the number of guys I've met who definitely aren't gay but also not totally straight either. There seems to be no handy label to describe them. They would describe themselves as primarily straight emotionally and sexually except for some quirky aspect that crosses over. They love to do this this and this with women but this one thing way over here for some reason they get off doing with men. There are people who hate labels, hate being shoehorned into some societal category - but for many people it's comforting and reassuring, a way to measure themselves against everybody else and find their role in society. I'll have to remember heteroflexible for the next time it comes up.

And for what it's worth I can't recall ever meeting anyone who said they were bisexual. ?? What's up with that?

[closeupready]

2. But we know Charlie Sheen is bi-winning.

You know, winning here, and winning there. :rofl:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5aSa4tmVNM

[King_David]

3. He sounds confused

But hey, I think that it can only help.