A little help?

[hedgehog]

I had a very beloved cousin who upon graduating college moved to Milwaukee. It seemed a little strange at the time since he could have gotten a similar job closer to home. Later on, I found out that he came out to his immediate family at my brother's wedding. A few years later, he was dead from AIDS.

When my daughter came out, I told here the one thing I wanted to make sure was that she didn't "move to Milwaukee", that is, I wanted her to be with us rather than hiding in another city.

So, my daughter has asked me about his life in Milwaukee and about his partner there. I know only fragments about my cousin's life there. His sister knows more. I haven't seen her in several years.How do I bring this up with her? What questions should I ask? Has anyone out there tried to climb up the family tree to learn about GLBT relatives?

[closeupready]

1. This conversation is probably more awkward in your mind than it will be once you just

actually bring this up to her, similar to how you have here. I see nothing offensive or improper about any of your questions, and if he had problems or pain dealing with others with regard to being openly gay, I imagine his sister would be more than happy to open up, if for no other reason than to honor his memory in light of the fact that he's gone now.

Best of luck. :hi: