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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:15 PM
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Some bad news today for me.
Went in for my 50th b-day colonoscopy and they found a mass. I have a CAT scan scheduled for next week and surgery soon after.

I'm kinda still numb. I had lymphoma about 12 years ago. Damn cancer seems determined to get me.
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LaydeeBug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:16 PM
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1. The only thing worse than knowing you have a mass is NOT knowing you have a mass. Thank God you
found it. Keep your spirits up. You're going to be ok. :)
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:24 PM
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8. That's pretty much what the doctor said.
He sounded hopeful that it was caught early. We'll see after the CAT scan on Wednesday.
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live love laugh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 06:12 PM
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31. Ditto that. You are WAY ahead knowing and taking action now. That's good news. nt
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Darth_Kitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:17 PM
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2. I'm sorry.
You'll beat this. :hug:
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LiberalLoner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:18 PM
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3. ((((HUGS)))) healing wishes sent your way. rop
I'm always here if you want to PM. I've been told I'm a good listener. I know you don't know me, or anything, but I wish I could help.
I'm hoping for the best for you.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:20 PM
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5. Thank you.
Having been through this once, I think I have a better idea about what I can expect and what I might need. People offering nice words is sometimes all it takes. So I appreciate it.
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Raster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 08:08 PM
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18. Then you shall have the kindest words possible. You can and will beat this.
Please let us know how the CAT scan goes. All the best to you.
:hug:
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foxfeet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:19 PM
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4. Hang in there, kid, (At my age I can say that!)
Hope all goes well and that you have someone close to give you support.
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katandmoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:22 PM
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6. I am so sorry. I am visualizing healing for you.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:23 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate it. n/t
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:23 PM
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7. keep fighting, donco6
you beat it before and you can beat it again
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peacebird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:27 PM
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9.  healing thoughts heading your way!
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RKP5637 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:30 PM
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10. I hope you do OK. There are a lot of people here wishing you well, always
keep that in mind!
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Hawkeye-X Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:35 PM
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11. Good luck. PM me if you need help.
I'm nearby - and we met two years ago @ Racine's.

Hawkeye-X
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emilyg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:35 PM
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12. Best wishes and prayers.
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poverlay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:38 PM
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13. Hang in there Donco.. I'm sure that you're just so very stressed out right now. I'm really sorry
about that.
Stay hopeful and diverted.
You are cared about by people you've never met.

We're on your side.
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MindandSoul Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 06:45 PM
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14. At least, now that you know, you can do something about it! Keep your spirit!
You'll beat this! I know it's a shock, but you're an old pro and you will beat this! The odds are on YOUR side because you found out about it!
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barbtries Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 07:09 PM
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15. i'm so sorry to hear about your situation
hopefully it's benign.
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The Backlash Cometh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 07:12 PM
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16. I'm praying for you donco6.
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cate94 Donating Member (573 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 07:54 PM
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17. Good luck.
Hopefully this was caught early enough that it won't be as difficult as the lymphoma was for you. I know it is frightening and I am sorry you are going through it.

Healing thoughts to you.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 09:51 PM
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19. Thanks everybody, it means a lot.
Just woke up from resting after the colonoscopy. I appreciate the thoughts and wishes.
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queerart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 09:53 PM
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20. Sending You Much Positive Energy.....
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 10:30 PM
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21. You'll beat this, donco
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cloudythescribbler Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-23-10 11:37 PM
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22. yes, may fortune smile on the future of your health
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WillParkinson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 01:01 AM
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23. Sending all the positives I can muster!
Stay healthy, man. We need you. :-)
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Duppers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 02:46 AM
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24. my step-dad had a mass removed
Five months ago. He was pretreated with radiation and chemo to shrink the mass, which was bigger than his fist!

He's now doing great. Hang in there!

Best of wishes to you.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 06:47 AM
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25. That's good news! Thanks.
Info like that is really encouraging.
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Smarmie Doofus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 08:00 AM
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26. Scarey stuff.... no question. But non-symptomatic plus....
... early detection sounds pretty hopeful.

Top-flight, state-of-the-art vibes headed your way.(That's my highest version , BTW)

Keep us posted.
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Not Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 08:06 AM
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27. I hope all goes well for you.
And I am glad that you were proactive and sought out the exploratory colonoscopy. Many people, even with health coverage, won't go there for stupid reasons.

In the mean time, try not to worry overly.

{{{HUGS}}}
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Starry Messenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 11:15 AM
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28. ((((vibes)))) donco
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 12:00 PM
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29. all best thoughts to you donco
think positive , keep fighting, build a good support network, you will prevail.
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closeupready Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-24-10 03:46 PM
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30. I'm sure it's going to be okay. Over that 12 years, they've made incredible advances
in treating cancer. I'm glad they found it, and you're going to get treatment. :)
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 07:30 PM
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32. UPDATE: Met with surgeon yesterday.
I'm scheduled for a Sigmoid colectomy this coming Friday. The doc thinks he can do it laparoscopically, which is great. He thinks the CT scan shows some lymph nodes involved, but the liver looks fine, so that's good, too. He's thinking they'll recommend chemo afterwards, but it's a different kind than I had with my lymphoma, not as rough. So THAT'S good, too. Overall, he thinks my prognosis is very good. Good news!
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WillParkinson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 08:23 PM
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33. Excellent!
Glad to hear.
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 09:19 PM
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34. wow donco , all the best
you will prevail
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foxfeet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-08-10 09:33 PM
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35. Good news!
I wish you a successful surgery and chemo with complete, comfortable and speedy healing.
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Smarmie Doofus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-09-10 09:13 AM
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36. The gods be praised. And Science!!
Seriously.... those routine cancer checks... I'm tellin' ya.

Well, I really wasn't all that worried, donco. You're practically *immortal*!

That's great news.


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HillWilliam Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-09-10 09:39 AM
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37. While the initial news is scary
one thing I'm reasonably sure of is if the doctor says you'll beat it, you'll beat it -- thanks to catching it early enough.

About 15 years ago, my mom didn't catch it early and went through some very rough surgery and a very rough recovery. You'll be going through lapyroscopy, something a lot less invasive. It's still going to hurt and won't be fun, but you will live and your buds here are grateful. We're sending you strength, love, and good energy.

If you need to PM, please do. We've got your back.

A funny story to bring a giggle in what otherwise seems scary at the moment. After mom had a couple of surgeries, chemo, and was starting on radiation, the technician didn't have the dosage set right. She received a pretty bad burn. When she was recovering from THAT, she was over at my great-aunt's house with her first cousins. Great-auntie was a fierce old steel-magnolia dragon woman, the matriarch of the family, in her early 90s at the time. None of the cousins was under the age of 65.

So one of mom's cousins pops up and asks, "So, how was the last round of radiation? Are you OK?" Mom muttered, "they burnt me a brand-new asshole!".

About 3 nanoseconds passed and great-auntie bellowed out from her deathbed in the far reaches of the house, "CHILDREN!! CHILDREN!! Who SAID THAT?!?!? I will NOT have that kind of language in my HOUSE!"

There was a moment of embarrassed silence (children?? all those grey and balding heads and they're still children??), then everyone started snickering. They all wished mom well, gave her hugs for sticking with it, and rolled their eyes at still-fierce steel-magnolia auntie.

Sending you hugs.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-09-10 11:30 AM
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38. Hahaha! Great story!
And I really appreciate the well-wishes. I feel a lot more confident now than a week ago. Everyone's been so great.
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Toasterlad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-09-10 06:13 PM
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39. Good Luck!
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ZombieHorde Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-10-10 01:51 AM
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40. ...
:hug:
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RetiredTrotskyite Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon May-10-10 08:05 AM
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41. ((((((Hugs)))))) And Good Wishes....
sent to you.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-10 09:49 AM
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42. UPDATE: Back home and so far, so good.
I'm back home. I had surgery Friday to remove 1 foot of large intestine. It was done laparoscopically, which is relatively new. I recovered so quickly, the doctors were surprised and impressed! Maybe it's all that yoga. Anyway, by Monday afternoon, I'm back home and able to finally get some real rest. Dwaine's here helping me. My sister's coming this afternoon to give him some time off. I'm able to walk around the courtyard and do all the bathroom stuff OK. I'll find out the pathology sometime this week and see what else they want me to do. I think I'm really lucky so far.

If I hadn't had health care (and I have Kaiser, and they've been super-great, I have to say), I don't know what I'd do. Die, I guess.

Thanks for all your well-wishes. I'll let you know when I learn anything else.
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HillWilliam Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-20-10 12:47 PM
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48. Good to hear you're up and about
so quickly. We've been thinking about you. Keep us up to date with your progress. Big C can be a bastid to beat, recovery can be not-so-fun, but you've got folks here sending you love and energy.
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joeybee12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-10 09:58 AM
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43. Good vibes coming your way!
:grouphug:
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Divine Discontent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-18-10 11:43 AM
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44. prayers for you Donco, hang in there, please!
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-19-10 10:14 AM
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45. Sending out my best vibes.
Hope everything turns out ok. :hug:
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closeupready Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed May-19-10 01:54 PM
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46. Get better, donco6!
:hug:
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readmoreoften Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-20-10 12:12 AM
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47. :........(
That's a tear. :( :hug:
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-04-10 03:57 PM
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49. UPDATE: Good News!
My 4.5 cm cancer was rated IIA, with very minor incursion. 18 lymph nodes tested and ALL NEGATIVE! I may not even need chemo! Seeing oncologist next week.

If you haven't gotten a colonoscopy and you're nearing 50, be sure to get one. I got this JUST IN TIME.
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-04-10 04:12 PM
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50. Dynamite! Excellent news.....
What a wonderful way to start a weekend!
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-04-10 04:21 PM
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51. Yay!
Going to the mountains this weekend to relax and celebrate!
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Divine Discontent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-06-10 12:27 AM
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52. wonderful fantastic, and I say an AMEN! that is great to hear. continued good health.
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Smarmie Doofus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-06-10 06:56 AM
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54. The last time I saw the word "incursion" in a sentence.....
... Nixon was invading Cambodia.

He didn't get far either.

:thumbsup:
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HillWilliam Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jun-07-10 10:49 AM
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56. Still sending energy and strength, buddy
This is a great turn-up, indeed! Mom was Stage IV and had a really rough recovery, but she's still going 15 years later. I'm thrilled to hear your news was much better!!

And, oh-yes-indeedy-do, I get those colonoscopies. The prep is nasty (run, run, run! and SO HUNGRY all day the day of) but it's only one day out of your life TO SAVE YOUR LIFE. It's the easiest thing you can do.

If anyone is hesitant about getting your colonoscopy or your upper GI stop being silly and DO IT -- please, for love of Pete, G'd, Donco6, me, mom, or apple pie, just PLEASE do it. It's painless (they give you good sleepymeds), you won't know a thing, and, hey guys, it's the only time we get to fart loudly in public and get away with it. You don't get many chances like that.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jun-07-10 09:07 PM
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57. Ha! Yes. They make you fart before you can leave.
It's funny, because it's kinda an assembly line process (at least, here in Denver). So you've got, like, 6 beds in one room and everyone working to squeeze out a fart. Hilarious.

But the process itself is a piece of cake and well worth it.
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shrike Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-16-10 10:03 AM
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63. Hello, Don. I'd seen your post on the Cancer Support group
and wondered how you were. I hope I'm not intruding; I'm not GLBT myself. I'm so glad everything worked out for you.

I didn't want to mention this to you at the time, but a relative of mine recently died, very young, a year after she was diagnosed with Stage IV colorectal. So treatment during early stage -- and Stage IIA is early stage -- is very important.

BTW, my cancer, breast, was Stage IIA as well.

Don't worry, I'm not a stalker; I'm just wondering how you're doing. :)
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donheld Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-06-10 01:49 AM
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53. The best to you
:hug:
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dickthegrouch Donating Member (838 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jun-06-10 10:22 AM
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55. All our love Donco /nt
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MarshalltheIrish Donating Member (112 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jun-07-10 09:09 PM
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58. You'll be in my thoughts
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tomm2thumbs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jun-07-10 11:06 PM
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59. this the age of being able to address these things more than ever Donco

not that you need to hear from a random DU stranger, but my mom had a mass on her lung - and they took out her lobe, without even going through her ribcage, and she was out in 2 days - even her hospital roommate had a complete lung out and she was up and out in a day -- not trying to give too much a sense of 'better outlook' but things have come a long away since 25 years ago with my dad's situation, and I know you are going to be in good hands.

My only advice is try to have someone always go with you when you can - just to 'listen' for things, dates, follow-up, schedules... stuff you tend to miss when you are caught up with it personally. Plus they can be proactive with the folks at the front desk to be your advocate.

I am sending all my best energies your direction! And best-BEST of my thoughts!


ps: you are brave to post here and hopefully folks chatting back is helpful & not overwhelming!
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-10-10 11:04 AM
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60. Kicking so people can see this good advice.
My partner comes with me to all meetings, and it's ESSENTIAL. I miss stuff, or forget to ask questions, or my head is to foggy with drugs to remember what was said. Having someone else there REALLY helps to keep track of your own care.

And for those facing anything themselves - I have to say my care at Kaiser was really very good. I call; they call back. They say they're going to call, and they do. I have questions, I call and they answer. I can contact them through email. They send test results to me on email. The doctors take time and answer my questions and give me options. I've been very confident with their treatment so far.

Overall, I'm feeling almost back to normal - little "discomfort" around the incisions, but not bad at all. My energy is still low and hard to make it through a full workday, but they're very good about letting me leave early if I have to.

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foxfeet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jun-10-10 05:13 PM
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61. Well, damn! I'm WAY late to the party, but very glad for the good news.
I wish you a complete, rapid and comfortable recovery!
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Mimosa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-12-10 02:39 AM
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62. Whatever happens, trust in goodness and try to enjoy your life. n/t
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