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Modern School Donating Member (558 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-16-11 10:01 PM
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Privileged Moms Enabling Corporate Child Abusers
A recent piece by Jenny Anderson, in the NY Times, tells the story of a Manhattan mom who sued her daughter’s $19,000-a-year preschool for failing to adequately prepare her daughter for the test to get into New York City’s hypercompetitive private schools. The mom was Nicole Imprescia, the school was York Avenue Preschool, and the test is known as the E.R.B.

Imprescia accused the school of not being “a school at all, but just one big playroom.” Without visiting the school I wouldn’t be able to speak directly to that claim. However, as a father who has been touring potential preschools in San Francisco, I have noticed a general trend toward “learning through play,” where schools set up various play areas, equipped with toys and games, and allow children to migrate to the activity that most interests them. Every preschool I have visited appeared like a big playroom. Furthermore, I have no problem with this. We’re talking about 3-5 year-olds. At this age, children are learning phenomenal amounts of skills and knowledge through exploration and experimentation, through emulation and through play-acting. If this mom is expecting homework, rote test-prep and teacher-centered Dick and Jane, she is not only barking up the wrong tree, her obsession with getting her precious daughter into the “right” school may end up harming her daughter’s social and cognitive development.

Anderson says that preschools like York Avenue Preschool are part of a mini-industry that includes consultants and vendors of test preparation materials. These corporate sharks exploit privileged parents’ fears that their children will get stuck in an inner city public school and corrupted by the nasty habits of poor black and Latino kids and their lazy, incompetent teachers. This fear and the sharks’ greed translate into child abuse for thousands of toddlers, whose art explorations and play-learning are replaced with lessons on bubbling-in and sitting still. Ultimately, for these high-powered toddlers, preschool becomes the new third grade, forcing them to grow up much more quickly and robbing them of their innocence and natural curiosity.

It seems that dragon moms like Imprescia do indeed expect their preschool aged children to be doing high level academic work. Her lawsuit said things like, “It is no secret that getting a child into the Ivy League starts in nursery school,” and “Studies have shown entry into a good nursery school guarantees more income than entry into an average school.” I’m not sure which studies she is quoting, but it is important to point out that correlation does not equal causation. If a “good” preschool is defined as expensive and elite, then a more logical explanation for the correlation between preschool and later success is that social privilege causes both. After all, privileged parents are the ones most likely to send their kids to these elite schools, and they are also more able to provide good diets and healthcare, supplemental enrichment activities during the summer and a lower stress lifestyle, factors that play a significant role in children’s academic success.

York Avenue Preschool may indeed be a lousy school. However, that is not really the point here. All children deserve good schools and all children deserve to be adequately housed, fed and cared for. Those who are financially well-off generally get all these things. Their children start kindergarten (and even preschool) with a substantial academic head start as a result of their economic privilege and this achievement gap grows over time, even if they wind up at a mediocre school with mediocre teachers. Forcing toddlers to learn competitively and to succumb to tedious and controlling regiments of homework and test preparation will simply stifle their curiosity and make them prematurely obsessive-compulsive or depressed.

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madmax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-16-11 10:17 PM
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1. Sounds like a bad Lifetime movie.
I feel sorry for the child.
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SheilaT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-16-11 10:26 PM
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2. Another unaddressed issue is that some kids
just aren't very good at taking tests. Not to mention some kids are smarter than others, or some kids are ready to do academic work at an earlier age than others.

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mopinko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-17-11 05:42 PM
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3. i find this just a disgusting slant vilifying parents.
this is a warmed over slap at working moms.
teachers complain about being vilified and judge by snapshots that mean nothing. parents feel the same way.
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proud2BlibKansan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 06:25 PM
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4. Yet parents are rarely targeted
Where teachers get it every day.
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mopinko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 12:58 PM
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7. i have never had a conversation with a teacher about
school reform or school issues where the parents weren't brought up, usually in the sort of disparaging terms that this article displays. there was a proposal in chicago, which gets revived frequently, where they proposed giving report cards for parents. and pretty much every thread here on du that discusses these issues has at least one subthread about irresponsible parents.
parents are rarely discussed in any kind of good faith, as people who do their best, which the vast majority do, even tho they sometimes come up short. the idea that it is the function of the school to level that playing field for the students, which is really the whole basis of the idea of a public school, seems to get just flat out dismissed in defense of teachers.
since the taxpayers pay the teachers, and nobody pays the parents, i would say there is a reason why we talk more about teachers.
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proud2BlibKansan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 01:11 PM
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8. So are we talking about conversations in RL or the internet?
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mopinko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 02:59 PM
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12. both. i know a lot of teachers, and have had a lot of
involvement over the course of educating 5 kids.
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Modern School Donating Member (558 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-11 11:33 PM
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5. I'm a Parent too
Sorry to disappoint, but some parents are self-entitled brats. (And this includes dads, too)
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mopinko Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 12:47 PM
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6. some are. if your head had said mom, instead of moms
it might be a little different.
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proud2BlibKansan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 01:12 PM
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9. Key word 'some'
I have worked with far more wonderful parents than self-entitled ones. But the bad ones do stand out. They make far more noise.
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tortoise1956 Donating Member (403 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 01:54 PM
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10. Hear hear!
I have seen quite a few of the parents you talk about, P2BLK. My wife helps run a junior bowling league here in Las Vegas, and I used to help as a volunteer youth bowling coach. We would see parents who stopped by long enough to drop off their kids, then run back out the door. they didn't cheer their kids on, and didn't even seem to care one way or the other. They basically looked on us as unpaid babysitters.

Besides, preschool SHOULD be fun. A 3 year old has an average attention span of about 2 minutes. Let them play and enjoy themselves now while they can. They'll grow up all too soon.
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tortoise1956 Donating Member (403 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-11 01:57 PM
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11. Addendum...
I should have made it clear that the parents I spoke of are a minority. There are many more of the good ones, those who actively encourage their children while helping instill a sense of fair play and respect for others.

Sorry.
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