Need your good thoughts and prayers

[no name no slogan]

Hi fellow MN DUers, I'm glad to see you are all doing so well!

Some of you may have noticed that i've been gone for the last month or so. Long story short, my depression flared up again and I landed in the hospital for a week. Unfortunately, this has also led to the break-up of my 8-year marriage and the probable loss of my house, too.

I've been out of the hospital for a week, and have temporarily moved to Rochester (MN) to live with my mother. I'm working 1/2-time at my job with the MN Dept of Human Services and going to intensive outpatient therapy.

Anyway, for those of you who are inclined to believe in a power greater than us, I would really appreciate your prayers and good wishes. Sometimes I find that when all hope is lost the only thing that works is prayer and good karma. I could sure use some right now.

Hope all stays well with you and I hope to make the next meet-up!!!!

Dan
(nnns)

[villager]

1. thoughts! prayers! wishes!

May the road back into the sun begin right now, continue through the three-day weekend, and beyond...!

cheers,
Mark

[Payback Time]

4. May healing white light surround, penetrate & uplift you

There is much in the spiritual world to help and support you. Just surrender to love instead of struggling to find a solution. Do not strive, worry, think anything negative. Surrender to the Universe, ,the higher powers, the flow. Know that things WILL get better and are getting better already.

I have been there. I don't know your experience with medication but the right anti-depressant helps SO much.

Whatever happens with your marriage, may it be for the highest good of both of you. Sometimes reconcilliation eventually happens, sometimes it is better to leave a marriage, unfortunately. I do know this -- life does get better and better, with medication, trust, the right support, the right path.

Listen to your inner self.

I am also an amateur astrologer so if you want to list you birth info, date, and place & time if available, I can take a look at that.

Mark is right, look up towards the sun. You CAN be happy. In a way, you already area. You ARE loved. Love yourself first. Hope this wasn't too pedantic and that it helped.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

2. So sorry to hear that, Dan!

Prayers coming right up! O8)

[Zookeeper]

3. Sounds like you are healing....

I send my best wishes for a speedy recovery and I hope your marriage and home can be saved. :hug:

[man4allcats]

5. If it's any consolation,

not all of us are doing that well. Seven weeks ago I was laid off from my job of eight years. It seems there's not much money available these days for the funding of biomedical research. A lot of scientists' grants are not getting funded, and that means lab rats like myself are ever more frequently finding themselves out of work. It all apparently has something to do with an estimated trillion dollar war started by the American president. You may have heard about it. Anyway, I am painfully familiar with the depression of which you speak. I only mention it here in the hope of giving you some encouragement. I know how difficult and frightening it can be, but don't give up. In time things will get better. For now, you at least have a place you can go (Thank God for moms!), and you still have your job even if it is only 1/2 time. And, while I don't mean in any way to make light of your situation, I say with all sincerity that you still have DU. Keep logging in and keep posting. It will help you to remember that there is a world and life beyond the troubles you presently face. Good luck and best wishes, my friend. I'm sure I speak for all in saying that our thoughts are with you.

O8)

Edited for spelling

[Mnemosyne]

6. Hi Dan!

You have my prayers, though I'm not from MN. I know how you suffer. Hang in there and try to remember that it's only the chemicals in your brain making you feel so horrible. It helps me just enough to keep from doing anything permanent when it hits.

Great luck to you!

[dflprincess]

7. Lots of prayers and good thoughts for you Dan

n/t

[goodhue]

8. Hi Dan

Very sorry to learn about flare up and break-up.
Please know that my thoughts are with you.
I missed your presence last weekend in St. Cloud.
Best wishes for full recovery!

:hi:

[katinmn]

9. Good to hear from you, Dan!

Sending hugs and warm thoughts for continued healing.
Hope to see you next month.


:hug:

[MsAnthropy]

10. Hang in there, you're not alone

Just hold on till this storm passes.

[Love Bug]

11. Sorry to hear you're having a tough time

Sending prayers and good vibes for your healing!

[indigo32]

12. Hang in there

I'm sorry to here your having a difficult time.

[dpbrown]

13. I'm glad you posted, Dan

My strongest wishes for good health are with you.

You are an incredible force in the progressive community.

Courage, DB.

Dan Brown
Saint Paul, Minnesota

[SupormomFreeAtLast]

14. Peaceful thoughts and prayers to you.

Let me know when you're back in the cities. We can commiserate together.

[question everything]

15. Hope the hospital did not just sent you home

that you are under some care - medical and therapy.

Take care, and come visit here often. Just surfing all the message boards can take your mind off your problems - unless you really get mad at Bush and Pawlenty..

[fudge stripe cookays]

16. Aw Dan. So sorry.

Hadn't seen you around for a bit, and was wondering how you were.

We can commiserate at the meetup, as things haven't been rosy here either.

Hope you can make the meetup. At this point, it's looking like the Liffey on the 17th.

:hi: FSC

[no name no slogan]

17. Thank you everybody -- you people are THE BEST

I wanted to give all of you a great big hug for the warm thoughts and prayers you've given me. I truly believe they've helped me out in the last couple weeks.

Since I got out of the hospital two weeks ago, I've made good progress: I'm back to work part-time (commuting to St. Paul from my mom's place in Rochester 3x week, and telecommuting the other two days). I've started writing music, again. I had my first conversation w/ the soon-to-be-ex last night, and it didn't completely ruin my day (I stood my ground and didn't give in to her demands). I've lost 10-15 lbs, and am physically feeling better, too.

Plus, I'm really looking forward to the next MN DU meet-up in a couple weeks!!!! It'll be my first one in almost a year! Hope to see you all there!!!!

:toast:

:D

[Debliberal]

18. Get better.. I have been there 2x.

Sorry to hear about your depression but it seems that you are on a speedy recovery. Depression is more common than you think.

However, you may expect it again to flare up through your divorce. I have been divorced 2x...one with little depression and the other with sever depression.

The first time it started off rough in the beginning but luckily I was spared much of the financial burden that comes along with a lengthy divorce case by going through mediation with my first ex. Luckily we were still barely talking too each other and thus mediation was an option. It cost less than $5K and I had little depression because it was fairly civil not to mention that I had money to spare.

In my second divorce my depression nearly ended me. We went through the courts and the lawyers can be very nasty not to mention that it cost me $32,000 in legal bills. The combination of the legal posturing as well as a large legal tab left in a total wreck emotionally and financially.

I hope that you can work things out with your spouse....you will both be better off by doing so. However, if divorce is the only option, look at the mediation program.

God Bless.