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Edited on Thu Nov-20-08 12:17 AM by Kurt_and_Hunter
(This has little to do with the presidency but I like the folks in GDP, and it certainly bears on American politics.)
Many have noted that there is no philosophical bright line differentiating expansion of the marriage franchise to any two adults versus expanding it to whatever family arrangements consenting adults can envision.
It's true. There is no overwhelming abstract logical sense to drawing the line at one woman and one woman. But the fact that one woman and one woman is an arbitrary expansion of the institution of marriage points up that one man and one woman is only a little less arbitrary.
"One man, one woman" is not the obvious natural state of human beings. What's "natural" is polygamy with a fairly direct correlation between a man's number of wives and his wealth and/or political power, with the side-result that many or most poor men are un-marriageable by definition. ("One man, one woman" is not a boon for women. It is an egalitarian concession won by ordinary men from powerful men. In a polygamous society most women can still married and have children while the bulk of men cannot. The mathematical convenience of constant war in such a society becomes obvious.)
Anyway... the point I'm leading up to is that there is a PROFOUND practical reason why we should have same-sex marriage without necessarily requiring the state to sanction more exotic arrangements.
Our society is constructed around the idea of unions of two people. For instance, how many people does it take to buy a house? Optimally, two. Houses are located, built, priced and financed in a society where two adults joining forces is considered normal. So of course housing markets evolve toward two-person solutions. (That doesn't mean that single people can't buy houses or that all couples are two-income or anything like that. It is about the NORM. The average which markets naturally evolve to serve. Example: If you are seven feet tall you can buy jeans, but in fewer places and for more money. An average sized person has a much easier time buying clothes.)
Everything in our society has evolved in a marketplace full of couples. And no one should be denied an opportunity to participate in normality. The state doesn't have to sanction exotic arrangements, though it should certainly tolerate such. But since two adults with an emotional bond joining forces against the cruel world is our social norm then anyone denied participation in that most basic arrangement is, indeed, being denied the option basic participation in our society.
Not every heterosexual who wants to marry can and many who can chose not to, but at least every heterosexual adult has the legal right to pursue normality if they so chose. (I am unmarried and it's a real pain sometimes. A lot of things seem set-up with the assumption I have a better half.)
It's as if Italian-Americans were not allowed to drive. That's formally unfair, of course, but consider the practical also. Our entire society is built around automobiles! Not only would such a rule be unfair, it would all but preclude Italian-Americans living in Los Angeles. The whole infrastructure there evolved with the expectation that almost everyone could drive and life is thus particularly slanted against non-drivers.
"Not being able to drive isn't such a hard-ship... why not ride a bike?" That's callous in any instance, but when all the main arteries are highways that forbid bikes it moves from callous to actively cruel.
I cannot enumerate the ways two person units are favored as th norm. Having lived my whole life in a nuclear-family culture I know I probably take most of them for granted. But they're there. It would be impossible for them not to be there! All aspects of a society are informed by social norms.
And when "normal" is marriage then civil-unions are an affront because they are intrinsically abnormal. Marriage is not about the state sanctioning your love. It is about the state sanctioning you majority status as a married couple. The word matters when it serves as a de facto definition of full social participation.
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