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Edited on Fri Apr-22-05 10:37 AM by calimary
"who want married clergy, women priests, or a more charitable view of homosexuality." A LOT farther.
Dear Mike - the molestation issue is HUGE. HUGE. THIS Catholic (a LIFE-LONG Catholic whose next birthday will be her 52nd) is deeply affected by it, even just as a mother - a mother of a young son who's the age of many of the victims when they were being victimized. And I'm not the only mom at my parish who started frowning at the collection plate, wondering how much of my money was going into it - and directly out to some out-of-court settlement involving a molesting priest who was merely moved out of range instead of dealt with directly. I'm also not the only mom at my parish (here in Los Angeles) who balked at donating because I couldn't be sure that money was going directly to the missions or to help others in poverty or sickness. For awhile there, we couldn't help being suspicious that we were all actually funding the "Taj Mahony" downtown - the fancy-schmancy new ultra-extravagant, five-star cathedral and compound for Roger Mahony, to replace earthquake-damaged St. Vibiana's. That money's supposed to be going to support the missions and schools, AND ESPECIALLY THE POOR. Mahony's not exactly starving. Nor are any of his other pals in the fancy red robes. "Selfish," you say?
And it goes a LOT farther than that, even. It goes to the story my late father-in-law (a doctor) told me, about driving a hemmorhaging young girl to the hospital in the 50's when no one else would touch her because of the taboo of an illicit pregnancy and the illegal abortion she'd sought out of desperation. It goes to the swath of death that AIDS is cutting through Africa - both sorry situations with the same link - the Dark Ages attitude toward birth control and a woman's right to determine (and access to) what health care is best for her without judgment and condemnation - especially from those who, because of their celibacy, can NEVER understand what it's like to face such crises. Not to mention the persistent condemnation of poverty and hunger that are the OTHER children - the children of your pre-Cambrian era policies about birth UNcontrol. Our planet is busting at the seams with people for whom there's not enough food, shelter, clothing, warmth, safety, education, or medical care. And insisting birth control OF ANY KIND is still a mortal sin is only contributing to increasing that problem exponentially, NOT in ANY way solving it. There isn't ANYTHING in the Bible about gay marriage, but there's TONS AND TONS about the poor. Is THAT why the church seems hell-bent on making sure there always will be TONS AND TONS of the poor, with more added every day? That was "selfish" you said we were, with our complaints, right?
And it's not just the simplistic notion of "women priests." It's women treated as second-class citizens - good only for producing more Catholics, and blamed for the original sin that condemned man to sweat and suffer and struggle outside the comforts of the Garden of Eden. It's the story my mother once told about going to confession (also during those lovely, innocent, blissful 1950's) and being denied absolution by a cold-hearted, closed-minded priest who condemned her because she had only one child at the time. And how dare he even ask about this, to begin with?!?!?!? He declared her unworthy of forgiveness because she hadn't "done her wifely duty" and popped out a litter of children as though she was some human mimeograph machine. Further, I saw my Aunt Anne deteriorate from a vibrant, vigorous, active woman to an almost complete invalid because she, by contrast, DID do her wifely duty and kept popping out those babies year after year. Six of 'em - whether she was up to it or not. She very literally wrecked her health. The fact that women are barred from full partnership in the priesthood is just one chapter in a very thick book of grievances. We're good enough to dust the pews and scrub the floors and bake the cookies and serve the coffee and wash the vestments and answer the phones and make, wash, feed, tend, teach, and raise the babies, but not good enough to stand at the altar as equals and celebrate the Eucharist. Oh, yeah, that's just plain "selfish," alright.
Sorry, Barnicle, but I have a PROBLEM with that. ALL of that. Every last drop and CRUMB of that. Especially the most measly, piddly crumbs my church still expects me to be satisfied with, when I and my sisters have every bit as much to bring to the Lord's table as ANY man does. We're FIFTY percent of the world's population, Mikey-boy. MORE than that, actually. And if you and the others in the boy's club can't figure out how to make room for us, then we WILL go elsewhere and find others who do. You can take your superiority complex and your judgmentalism and read a little bit of Matthew's Gospel (especially the part about judging not lest ye be judged) and shove it. Or maybe try embracing that celibacy you think is so important to maintain at all costs. I think you're quite worthy of it, myself. Yeah, "selfish," I know.
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