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That someone truly noted my interests in conversation. That's what I try to do in gift giving, listen to what someone expresses an interest in during the year, or would like to have, but considers it a luxury. So I relieve them of the guilt trip and they get the thing they desired.
Of course, at this point of my life, I tell people who actually make a point to ask me what I'd like for Christmas, birthday, etc., is to give me a gift card to a grocery store since that's what I need, LOL. The only thing I hate about being persistently less endowed with cash than I once was, is not being able to treat others as I once did.
I think there is some strange force in the universe (because I'm not going to sell any form of religion on anyone) that makes things equal out at times. When I was more prosperous, had a decent income, etc., I was just as happy to go to the grocery or department store and buy for others. Often strangers.
Like I'd buy a sack of nice goods for myself, twice as much as I needed, and put half in the bin at the end of the counter for the store to give to food pantries. Sometimes I'd take someone who I knew was having a hard time, shopping with me, and ask their advice on products they thought were good. So I'd select those as if they were for me.
Then when we got to the checkout line I'd have the checker put those in separate bags. When I took the person home, and they'd get ready to say goodbye, I'd hand them the groceries. If they started to cry I'd tell 'em Da Nada. It's really better to give than receive, although I know most people like to get things from others, I was not brought up that way. Maybe that's why I'm kinda poor, I guess, didn't do my taking when I could.
But on the deserving thing... Well, maybe I do understand that. The little bank in my neighborhood used to have a new toy and clothing drive. They had these cards with each of three gifts that a child in foster care had requested, hoping to get at least one. I'd take as many cards as they had left, and go and get all three for each card.
This was when I had a good paying job, reasonable health, good prospects, my house and car paid off and before I became a parent. When I brought them in, the staff were amazed at me getting all three for each kid. I asked, is this all that these kids are gonna get? When they said, Yes, I said, why should they get just one present? As if it's not hard enough being in foster care. I thought they deserved more than the minimum. I bought good stuff, the kind of stuff I'd have liked to have growing up.
I never sold what I had if I could give it away and often cleared my home of things I decided I didn't need. No matter how much money they were worth. If that sounds extravagant and stupid, blame it on my brother giving me a copy of 'A Christmas Carol' by Charles Dickens when he was away in the Air Force and I was in my single digits. It really affected me.
I guess a Republican would say I made all the wrong choices, that I should have held onto all I had over the years, etc. True, maybe I would worry less about money now if I'd been that way. But things happen and we can lose all that we have, sometimes there is not enough preparation that can be done for catastrophes. That's when I guess that the universe decides that those who are not wealthy are deserving. I don't think of myself as deserving, but I am grateful for it all.
That's all I can think about on the subject of giving and deserving for you, maybe it'll answer your question.
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