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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:12 AM
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Diagnosed with testicular cancer : (
Edited on Sat Sep-17-11 10:13 AM by Ninjaneer
Hi all,

so I don't really post here in the lounge much but I'm really hoping for some words of encouragement and support. You already know the punchline to the story but...

Yesterday, I got home from work and was taking a shower when I noticed my left testicle was super swollen. I freaked out and went to the emergency room in my city (I live in Tooele, Utah). Only a PA was on staff and he referred me to the Utah University of Medicine emergency room. They asked me how long its been like this, I told them a few hours. They did a sonogram and said the growth had to have been growing for months or weeks.

The sonogram didn't show that its spread to my stomach or anything. They did an xray of my chest too. They're going to do a CT scan this upcoming week and I have to make an appointment with an Urologist and go from there. Surgery is for sure and I guess if it works out I can still have kids and stuff someday. They told me its a VERY small chance of it not being cancer (10%) but the doc also told me that based on his 20 years of experience, it was cancer. If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and all that. They said they're treating it like cancer.

I literally don't know a single person out here in Utah. Actually I met this girl and we've been dating for a short while. When I told her last night she broke down and told me that her last bf died of cancer (surprised the hell out of me) and that she hated herself for it but she couldn't walk down this road again. She's a doctor in training so she was around the area. Funny thing is the whole time they were telling me that I have cancer, all I could think was that I wouldn't be able to take her out this weekend like I planned. I asked her for a raincheck on our relationship as I am head over heels for this girl (apparently).

Ah, but thats neither here nor there.

I'm 22 by the way, super healthy. I'm just in shock. I just started work out here 2 weeks ago. I'm so worried about how all that is going to work out. I'm really terrified. I haven't told my mom or anyone other than 3 close friends who live back in Michigan. I hope I can keep working through this as my health insurance is through my work...although since I've been there for 2 weeks only I don't know what their time off policy will be : (

Any advice regarding how to handle this or how long this sort of thing usually takes to get over or what my chances or just words of encouragement or anything would be really helpful and appreciated. I found out less than 12 hours ago and I'm still feeling really lost.

Thanks in advance
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hobbit709 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:16 AM
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1. My little brother had testicular cancer back about 82
He's still around and doing fine.
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:18 AM
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3. Do you know how long it took him from diagnosis to being "okay"? n/t
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hobbit709 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:21 AM
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5. He went to the doctor one morning and by that afternoon he was prepped for surgery.
I don't remember how much chemo he went through but it wasn't more than a couple of months and not too intensive.
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:29 AM
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7. I find your nonchalant attitude about this very heartening, thank you : ) n/t
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:18 AM
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2. Oh my goodness, I am so sorry! *hugs* I'm sending vibes that everything will turn out
ok and quickly.

I'm very sorry about the young lady. :( As a mom myself, I would want to know if my boys were going through something like this. Are you sure your mom doesn't feel the same way? :hug:
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:21 AM
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4. Thanks so much, really means the world to me.
My mother is the type to flip out over a fever. I know if I tell her she's gonna want to come down to Utah. She has a job that would fire her for that. She can't help me out here anyway and she's barely making ends meet as it is. I'll tell her but once I have a lot more information and I figure out how to tell her gently...
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:25 AM
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6. I figured it would be that you are trying to protect her somehow. I know the last thing you need is
to be stressing out over her too. Maybe when you do tell her, you can make sure there is a friend there with her at the same time? Just so she has someone to hug and a shoulder to cry on. (Don't be surprised if she gets upset that she didn't know sooner. She might hear your perfectly logical argument, but it probably won't make her feel better, and she might still try to come and see you anyway.) :hug:
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:29 AM
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8. That is solid advice, ty. n/t
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:33 AM
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9. I expect updates of how things are going. Good luck! :^)
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:41 AM
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10. Sorry to hear that...
but testicular cancer when caught early is also very survivable, as far as I know; it has the highest cure rates of any cancer, in excess of 85% and sustained response to treatment for over 90% of cases regardless of stage. It's a terrifying thing, I know, but with proper treatment? you should be okay. (Although a bit of advice, I'd be making arrangements if possible for freezing of semen; one of the common side effects of chemotherapy is sterility, and if you have aby future plans of fathering children then that's something that's advisable...I'm sure your doctor has mentioned this to you, or will do, though.)
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FloridaJudy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:16 PM
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31. +1000 this
Cancer sucks, but if you gotta have it, testicular cancer is one of the most treatable ones. It's not going to be a picnic, but the odds are you're going to be around for a long, long time.

And quite possibly have a passel of grandkids to spoil, though I would take the precaution of freezing your semen first, if you want them around. Or even if you don't: that would leave you the option of changing your mind later.

Good luck!
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Akoto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:49 AM
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11. "Testicular cancer is almost always completely curable."
http://video.answers.com/how-curable-is-testicular-cancer-290787918

For what it's worth, I can sort of sympathize; I am on lifetime disability due to Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome. Groin issues are lousy to have, eh? :) You will pull through. Try not to panic or worry too much, as it will really do nothing for you. Trust the doctors. I get my pain management at a university, and the folks there are no slouches.
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nolabear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:57 AM
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12. Oh honey, hang in there. My son had a scare (unfounded) and we learned a lot.
It is pretty much THE most curable cancer out there. I'm sorry about the girlfriend too, but if she really did have that traumatic experience it might be PTSD talking. You'll have to judge.

Talk to people. I'm confident you'll be fine but you need people. If your family's going to be helpful talk to them. Scaring them isn't wrong if they don't make it harder for you. Counseling isn't a bad idea just to get some of the scared thoughts out and get a reality check.

And you know the Lounge isn't a bad place to come for a little support.

Consider this a virtual hand holding.
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 10:57 AM
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13. *hugs*
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GoCubsGo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 11:00 AM
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14. Sending a hug and best wishes.
That's awful young to have to be going through such a thing. I'm sorry that I can't give you any advice, as I have never been through anything like this, except to remember that Lance Armstrong and Scott Hamilton, the figure skater, also went down this road, and they are both still alive and kicking many years later. Keeping my fingers crossed that you beat the odds and wind up in that 10% group.
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:06 PM
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18. 10%?! = O I thought my odds were a lot better! hahaha n/t
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:56 PM
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27. Sorry, I misunderstood. Thanks for your well wishes n/t
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hedgehog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 11:17 AM
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15. Oh, I am so sorry you're facing this so far away from home.
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Aristus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 11:19 AM
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16. It sounds as if they may have caught it early.
Hang in there. We're with you. :grouphug:

And as a Physician Assistant myself, I have to say, bravo to your PA! Sounds like he did everything right referring you to the ED. I imagine that his first thought was not testicular cancer, but testicular torsion, which is actually a much more immediately dangerous condition. Untreated, testicular torsion can cost you one of your family jewels within 6 hours or less. I like to think that we're not 'just P.A.s'. ;-)
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:01 PM
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17. Yes, I mean't no insult by "only" a PA. Thanks for your kind words. nt
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Aristus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 03:04 PM
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36. I know you didn't.
I'm just giving you a hard time... :P
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Amaril Donating Member (447 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:06 PM
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19. First of all, take a deep breath
You're not alone - we may not physically be there with you, but posting here netted you the biggest virtual group hug you could imagine. :grouphug:

Second - you've received a lot of heartening responses from some pretty knowledgeable people regarding the nature of this disease IF it is in fact cancer. Allow yourself to focus on that versus the fear.

Last, I have a 22 year old son who is living in Mountain Home, Utah (he's in the Air Force) -- is that anywhere near you? So, you know, you're kinda hurting my heart........:cry: Mom's are just like that. :)
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Amaril Donating Member (447 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:30 PM
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25. Ummmmm............ yeah............
Mountain Home is in Idaho. Forgive my moment of blondness in trying to make Utah & Idaho the same state. :eyes:
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:32 PM
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32. Reading this thread over has by far
been the most helpful thing this morning. No worries about the mix up : ) to be honest, a small part of me (very small) is pulling for the 10%. The other part of me is just dealing with having cancer. I'm not gonna wait for a miracle and then be disappointed again. Thanks for your kind words.
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Shagbark Hickory Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:10 PM
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20. You're very brave.
Stay strong. We'll be thinking about you.
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:59 PM
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28. Thanks a lot. I don't feel very brave but still means a lot to me. : ) nt
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tblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:13 PM
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21. Oh sweetie...
I'm your CyberMama since you're not ready to talk to RealMama.

First of all, you'll be okay. Really. I just know it. Breathe now. Just breathe deep. It will calm you.

Now, a few questions:

Are you in pain?
Do you have a good doctor?
Do you have a close friend you can call? Reach out to someone who makes you feel good.
Do you need another one? Tell me and I'll get you my number.
Are you eating right? Good nutrition will support your mood and help you recover. Eat your fruit and veggies. Don't drink.

You were very wise not to delay seeking treatment. Too many men put it off.

Your gf, whatever happens with her, is letting you know if she's a keeper. You will be fine either way. If she's supportive, she's good as gold. Mama's happy. If she's not, I didn't like that witch anyway. You can do better.

Let me know answers to those questions when you get a chance. Mama's got your back, baby.

xox,
CM
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:41 PM
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33. No pain, there was never really any to begin with.
I haven't met my urologist yet so I don't know how good a doc he is yet. As for reaching out, yeah I have. Some of it has made me feel better. Most of it just makes me feel like I'm in a bad movie and everyone else is just standing on the outside watching hah...

I haven't cried a single time about the cancer but every time I think about the girl I just break down. She is one in a billion as far as what I'm looking for. I just want to get well and be able to date her again. I don't blame her for not wanting to do this all over again, we've been on so few dates. She was never really my gf actually.

Like I said, I haven't really had too hard a time accepting cancer (has to happen to somebody =P) but the kindness in this thread also had me shedding a few tears.

I'm okay for now as far as getting your number but I really can't get across what that means to me. I couldn't even begin to tell you.

Thank you.
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tblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 01:23 PM
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58. I'm here
if you need me.

Do something you enjoy today. Really.

You ARE NOT cancer!!!! It does not define you or change who you are. You're still the same adorable guy you always were.

I want you to do 2 things, whenever you feel like it, but fairly soon:

1) Start visualizing being beyond this. Just get the picture in your mind that you have defeated this thing and are feeling great and relieved. Focus on that. It works. Trust me. If you're not familiar with visualization, google it and read up on it just a bit. It's fascinating. It's about the power of the subconscious mind. Good stuff.

2) Check out books/audiobooks by Louise Hay. She healed herself of cancer and she is powerfully insightful and uplifting and empowering. . I listen to her all the time. It helps my depression and other stuff I won't bore you with here.

My offer stands and always will. I am here for you 24/7. Now, go have fun today!!!

xox......

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tblue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 01:28 PM
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59. Also...
are you in a position to get professional counseling? And no, I don't think you're crazy, you silly muffinhead!

But just to help you deal with the emotions. I hope if you can do it, you make an appointment soon.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 12:51 PM
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22. I'm sorry.
You'll be okay, though! You're young and healthy otherwise and have a very curable form of cancer. This too shall pass (after some months of unpleasantness). However, I urge you to find a cancer support group. You are going to need at least one friend to help you out now and then.
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:13 PM
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23. Oh dear!
I have no advice but plenty of prayers for a quick recovery. Please keep us posted. We care. :hug:
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:22 PM
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24. You'll be okay. Tom Green had the same thing and he's doing fine.
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Ohio Joe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 01:37 PM
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26. oh man, that sucks
Sorry, no real advice for you but hang in there, we are all here for you!
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:42 PM
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35. Thanks Joe,
btw sorry about dropping off the radar with the gaming thing. Hope you're still having a blast with that. I just got super busy with life and then now the big C happened hahaha : ) thanks a ton for your well wishes.
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Ohio Joe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 03:13 PM
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38. No worries
I am mostly doing golf right now anyway. Besides... If I got a girlfriend, I would have spent time with her then gaming as well :P
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:00 PM
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29. I worked at a major teaching hospital years ago, and even then, testicular cancer
was treatable. Consider the fact that Scott Hamilton, figure skate,r and Tom Green, comedian, both were treated for testicular cancer and are doing fine today. Plus, I think your age is a huge advantage. Take deep breaths and try to relax (yeah, right). Find a support group at your hospital.

You'll be fine.
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hunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:04 PM
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30. My brother had it at your age.
The cancer is gone and he's still here, more than a quarter century later.

He didn't see the doctor until it had spread, but surgery and chemotherapy knocked it out.

Good luck!
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 02:41 PM
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34. I'm really hoping it hasn't spread but hearing about your brother makes me feel much better. ty n/t
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 03:13 PM
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37. Rough road ahead, but you'll beat it.
Sorry for your diagnosis, but you will win.

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Manifestor_of_Light Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 03:34 PM
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39. Scott Hamilton is still doing backflips on skates!!
:D You should be just fine with proper treatment! Hang in there!!
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 03:48 PM
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40. I'm sorry, Ninjaneer. You've gotten some great suggestions on this thread.
Keep us updated, okay? :grouphug:
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 06:17 PM
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41. Will do, tyvm : ) nt
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TK421 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 06:30 PM
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42. That's the thing..cancer doesn't care how healthy you are or how healthy you eat, it just
does what it does I suppose...having lost my father to it, I'm convinced it is evil itself.I'm very sorry to hear about this. Stay strong, and having read up on this particular type of cancer it is amongst the most treatable forms so I wouldn't quite freak out about this just yet. Going by your post, it sounds to me like they caught it in the early stages, and that is the best time to do so. You have plenty of options ahead of you..don't sweat a thing.:thumbsup:
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dixiegrrrrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 07:12 PM
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43. 10 % chance it is not cancer...something to focus on, yes?
Right now it is the not knowing that is so tough.

Sit down and make a bunch of lists about what you need to do for yourself in the coming days/weeks.
Another list of all the questions your doc needs to answer ( you know how easy it is to get caught up in their schedule and agenda and forget to ask things)
esp. about the sperm provision, if that is important to you.

My son had a similar issue, and it was NOT cancer, thank god.

But he chose to tell me about it AFTER everything came out ok, and I am still not happy to have been
"left behind" on the other side of the country, not knowing what was going on, sensing his pre-occupation, but not being able to be supportive.
So if you are close to your Mom, try to think about how she would view this issue.

And let us know, when you feel up to it, how you are doing.

:hug:
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rurallib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 07:23 PM
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44. our best wishes.
Please be sure to tell us what happens. We do care.
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pacalo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 07:47 PM
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45. ...
:grouphug:

I wish you the very best, Ninjaneer.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 09:44 PM
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46. Here's hoping your treatment is completely successful. nt
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iris27 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-17-11 11:57 PM
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47. Sorry to hear, but at least if it is cancer, it's the most easily beaten.
Edited on Sat Sep-17-11 11:58 PM by iris27
A high school friend of mine went through the same thing at age 20; he had surgery and two rounds of chemo, but he has perfectly fine ever since and that was 9 years ago. Well, except for some "uni-ball" jokes from some of our classier friends...sigh... :)
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emilyg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 01:51 AM
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48. Your prognosis should be
quite good. Hugs.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 02:58 AM
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49. I've known two guys who had it
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 02:58 AM by Skittles
ages 24 and 27 - long time ago and both are fine and YOU WILL BE TOO!
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Enthusiast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 06:01 AM
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50. You have my
sincere sympathy. I hope they can correct this very soon.
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WinkyDink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 08:22 AM
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51. {{Ninjaneer}} Next year, the Tour de France! :-)
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 08:22 AM by WinkyDink
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barbtries Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 08:51 AM
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52. omigawd what a nightmare for you.
are you close with your parents? speaking as the mother of 3 sons oldest 35, youngest 19, if it was one of my kids i would be there. that's my advice. get your mother out to Utah with you asap - you need someone. someone to be with you and someone who can also interact with your medical team. if you are presented with options you need someone else to help you weigh those options. you need to write down all your questions and don't let the doctor go until you have the answer to each one. you need to research all you can, consider a second opinion. make sure your doctors are good doctors.

be proactive. and the very best to your long and healthy life Ninjaneer! it sounds as if you have every chance to accomplish that from what you've written here.

last but not least please keep us posted.
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TuxedoKat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 10:04 AM
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54. Everyone
else already posted what I was going to say so I will just be sending good, healing thoughts and prayers for your quick recovery. Sounds like you are on top of things and in good hands. (((HUGS))) :)
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blueamy66 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 09:49 AM
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53. sending hugs and good wishes
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 09:50 AM by blueamy66
and prayers.....
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 12:22 PM
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55. An update
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 12:23 PM by Ninjaneer
They called me last night and told me the chest xrays were clean. I thought that was the case already but I guess the jury was still out or something.

The bad news is the girl contacted me this morning and told me she didn't want to hear from me ever again. When it rains it pours I guess. Would be easier if I could tell myself she's a bad person and move on, but the fact is just that the cancer ruined everything.

I will keep you guys posted. What I feel for everyone here with their kind words and encouragement is nothing short of love.
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JohnnyLib2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 12:40 PM
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56. Well, rats!

I hope there is a support group available. Anyone who goes will be "in the know" of what you are going through. The man in front of me at church today is a long time survivor and was there with his new lady. Onward....
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LisaL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 01:34 PM
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60. Do tell your mother.
You need to have support and your mother will be very hurt if she finds out you didn't tell her.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 08:19 PM
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61. Firstly, yay for (some) good news re: the x-rays. Second--screw that girl.
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 08:19 PM by BlueIris
Emphasis on girl. What an immature asshole. Maybe you can't tell yourself she's a bad person, but I can. :mad:

Continued best of luck with treatment, Ninjaneer.
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Frank Cannon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 06:41 AM
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68. I want the 10% chance to work out so badly, not only for his sake...
but so he can call that girl, give her the great news, and then tell her to take a long walk off a short pier.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 12:14 PM
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72. No kidding.
Edited on Mon Sep-19-11 12:15 PM by BlueIris
Here's hoping.
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 08:23 PM
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62. I'm sure you'll be fine,
and it's good that you found out now instead of later that your girlfriend is shallow and heartless. Or maybe she's just a coward. Either way, while I'm sorry for the way she treated you, you're better off without her. You'll recover from all of this and find someone who deserves you.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 08:25 PM
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63. HER LOSS, NINJANEER
don't mope about that gal for too long - she is NOT worth it
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 09:14 PM
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64. If only there were someone around to kick some Ninjaneer selfish ex-girlfriend ass...
:think:
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 09:45 PM
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66. people like her aren't even worthy of my time
Ninjaneer is better off! :D
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 06:45 AM
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69. The chest x-rays are great news! I'm so sorry about the girl. I know there is nothing I can
say that will take that pain away. :( :hug:
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siligut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:34 AM
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70. You need to focus on yourself
Get that girl out of your mind, cutting and running? Really? You certainly don't need her in your life. Take care of yourself. I echo what everyone else is saying, you are going to be fine.
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Dystopian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 01:20 PM
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57. {{{{Ninjaneer}}}}
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 01:34 PM by Dystopian
Many years ago, after going through much trauma, my friend told me that I needed to go out.... A blind date with her brother-in-law. It was just supposed to be fun...escape from the strife of life. I was forty-two ....he was thirty-two. He was going through a divorce, no children. We became very close. One afternoon he asked me to go for a drive to the reservoir....He set a blanket on the grass as we settled atop the hill looking down....talking. It was a beautiful summer afternoon. He became quiet for a moment...then turned to me and said, "I only have one testicle. I had cancer when I was seventeen. I'm okay. I can have children. I just wanted to tell you. It was hard, I couldn't go back to school so a tutor came in so I could graduate."

I was shocked. I simply put my arm around him and told him that I was sorry that he had to go through such a thing....and thankful that we had such a beautiful day together... He later told me that it was the psychological damage and trauma that kept him away from school.

I didn't know that he was preparing me for another level to our relationship.
Of course he knew that I had already ensured that I wouldn't have more children.

We were together for three years....we lived together for over two years. I had to let him go, things were not working out....I also felt that he craved a family...and I couldn't give him a child....He really needed to be with a younger woman.

I was initially saddened when he told me....entering manhood and losing a testicle.....It must have been horrific. But he was a man in every respect.
To me...nothing mattered but us. Our relationship was entirely normal in every respect....well...it was awesome while it lasted.

Forty years ago I knew a young girl going through nursing school. Her boyfriend was diagnosed with testicular cancer. They had been in a relationship for over a year. They married and had children.

It's all about love.

I am relating this to you.... because women who care for you will not turn away. The girl in your heart has gone through the trauma of a cancer death. Please try to keep your focus on you. You are going to be fine. The same man you have always been.

I have two sons. My youngest (twenty-nine) recently told me about a similar lump. (About a month ago) I was dying inside. Thankfully, it was nothing. As a mother....I would have been crushed had he not told me. Please find comfort and strength from your mother. Her heart will be broken if you don't tell her.

Remember.....you will come out of this...you are young and strong.
When you learn that you are cancer-free....Life will go on as it should.

I am keeping you in my thoughts......please let your mother into the life that you are now living.
You know that she'll want to be with you. Let her. It's all about love.

You shared your life with us. I am sharing my life with you.

Much peace and love to you~


edit: I only posted what I lived through and knew. That was so very long ago. I'm not a medical person. I'm sorry if I implied that you might lose a testicle. I don't know what the treatment is in these times. I am clueless. But I care......
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 09:38 PM
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65. OMG, at 22?
:hug: :scared:
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-18-11 09:50 PM
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67. This cancer is more common in younger men.
Edited on Sun Sep-18-11 09:50 PM by The Velveteen Ocelot
The incidence decreases significantly in men over about 40. Fortunately, it is very curable.
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 11:58 AM
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71. Hi, Ninjaneer
You're in my thoughts.
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Ramsey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 12:30 PM
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73. Testicular cancer is very favorable
Hi there! I am an oncologist. I know the word cancer is always really frightening, but some cancers are extremely favorable. With some rare exceptions, testicular cancer, especially in someone your age, is highly curable. Fertility can be preserved as well in most cases.
It is important to see a knowledgeable oncologist or specialist in urological oncology, not just a generalist urologist, in my opinion.
Best of luck!
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:03 PM
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74. Hi Doc, thanks so much for your encouraging words.
Edited on Mon Sep-19-11 07:07 PM by Ninjaneer
Would it be possible for you to shed some light on what the number means? my cancer marker is at 21 instead of the normal 0-9 (please see my update post).

Also any words of encouragement regarding the chances of it spreading from one to another? they're so close together so I worry..
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:06 PM
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76. dupe n/t
Edited on Mon Sep-19-11 07:07 PM by Ninjaneer
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:04 PM
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75. An update [9/19/2011]
I called this morning to schedule an appointment with the Urologist. I got scheduled in for Thursday at 2:00 pm. While I was on the phone with her, I asked her about my blood work and apparently my cancer marker came out to 21 where normal range is 0-9. They're going to schedule my surgery on Thursday as well.

I finally have my head on right and I'm not really worried anymore. I'm not worried about dying, nor am I worried about losing a testicle. I just want to get this done with and get on with my life.

The one thing that still REALLY scares me is what if I lose both : ( during the ultrasound, my right one seemed fine but now I'm getting really paranoid. One thing at a time, I know but seriously I don't know if I would want to go on living without even one...

You have all been so helpful and as I've said a bunch of times already (but it bears repeating) this thread is doing wonders to keep my mind in the right place. Can't thank you all enough.

Oh, and I did tell my mother. She hasn't been much help as she's suuuper panicked. Now that I'm not freaking out about it, she thinks I'm not taking it seriously, because how can anyone be so calm about cancer!?!?!!111 hahaha go figure =P
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:07 PM
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77. Find out if you can have your sperm stored prior to the surgery, just in case. And I am
glad you have told your mom. I hope she soon feels as calm as you do. :hug:
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:10 PM
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78. Yeah, I'll be looking into sperm banking.
To be honest though, my worries are much more shallow. I just don't know of anyone who would want a guy without at least one.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:22 PM
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79. I'm PMing you
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Beacool Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 07:38 PM
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80. Wow, what news to get and while so far away from home.
Edited on Mon Sep-19-11 07:38 PM by Beacool
First word of advice is to not get bogged down by the "C" word. I know that it's scary, but I just went online and read that 95% of cases are curable. That's pretty good odds.

"Although the incidence of testicular cancer has risen in recent years, more than 95 percent of cases can be cured. Treatment is more likely to be successful when testicular cancer is found early. In addition, treatment can often be less aggressive and may cause fewer side effects.

Most men with testicular cancer can be cured with surgery, radiation therapy, and/or chemotherapy. The side effects depend on the type of treatment and may be different for each person."

http://www.medicinenet.com/testicular_cancer/article.htm

Here are some other links to help you research this illness and treatment.

http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/types/testicular

http://tcrc.acor.org/

http://www.mskcc.org/mskcc/html/445.cfm

When you feel more calm call your family. I'm sure that they would want to be there for you.

I'm sending you good vibes and a hug.

:hug:
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Liberal_in_LA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Sep-19-11 08:21 PM
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81. Good vibes
Someone I know was recently given high odds it was cancer... it wasn't. And if it is cancer, lots of new treatments.

:grouphug:
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SoCalDemGrrl Donating Member (786 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-20-11 01:10 AM
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82. Sending good vibes your way, but also a word about your Mom
I'm a Mom of a 20 something son and even tho your Mom may "freak out", it's important to include her.

We Moms may appear to be vulnerable, but we all have that inner strength that comes through in these situations

and she will be a valuable asset in your journey.....

That said I'm confident this "journey" will be short and successful since you are so young and healthy.

Prayers and love coming your way..... :)
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-23-11 05:46 PM
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83. An update [9/23/2011]
Hey all : )

So my surgery got scheduled for this upcoming Monday (26th) at 6:30 AM in the morning. I just got back from banking sperm. I have to say that was one of (if not THE) most demeaning and negative experiences on my life. I hope I never need to use it. I'm staying very positive and hoping that once the biopsy report comes back, I find out I need little to no chemo and that I can have kids the old fashioned way someday. That would be really nice : )
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-23-11 06:14 PM
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84. Stay strong, Ninjaneer.
I think things are looking good for you, considering your status.

(((( Ninjaneer ))))
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pacalo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-23-11 06:15 PM
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85. Good luck, Ninjaneer!!!
It sounds like you caught it early, so stay positive.

:hug:
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JohnnyLib2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-23-11 07:29 PM
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86. Thanks for the update.

Best wishes for a really good outcome.
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Ninjaneer Donating Member (577 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 08:39 PM
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87. Well, surgery tomorrow morning.
A little bit nervous :blush: can't believe I'm losing lefty, we've had so many great memories together... *cue montage* :rofl:

Hoping for good and quick biopsy results. Send good vibes!

I will see you all on the other side. :D
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valerief Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 08:47 PM
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88. It's gonna be great. You're gonna beat it. The odds are in your favor. That said, good luck anyway!
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LuckyLib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 09:06 PM
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89.  As a Mom of a 20-something, I'm sending you warm good wishes and great
positive thoughts. It will all be fine. You'll be telling this story years from now, to your own children, about the time you had surgery AND were dumped in the same fell swoop. You'll all be laughing at how strange life can be. Tomorrow morning you'll be waking up to the next chapter, and you'll be back to yourself in no time.
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WildEyedLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 09:08 PM
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90. Good luck and godspeed Ninjaneer
I am sending prayers and good vibes your way. You're a smart, strong, and funny guy, and you'll get through this just fine :)
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JohnnyLib2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 10:03 PM
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92. Great attitude!

Adieu to lefty.
Best wishes for a great future for you, Ninjaneer.
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Catlover827 Donating Member (65 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-25-11 09:14 PM
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91. How terrible - wishing the very best for you!
Hugs to you.
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