ARGH! I hate it when he pulls these all nighters

[Nuclear Unicorn]

He's been out as long as 36 hours. He comes home covered in grease and dirt. I've actually thrown out clothes rather than wash them. And sometimes he comes home with a few bumps and bruises. He's so exhausted I practically have to pour him from the shower to the bed. Dinner was long ago packed away into the fridge. He'll be too tired to eat. Tomorrow I'll have to practically knead him with a rolling pin to get the knots out of his muscles. The extra hours make his paycheck explode but is it worth it? He says it is so we can have a good life together but don't we need to be together for that to happen?

And of course, here I am, sitting at the table feeling miserable and lonely.

Pity, party of 1.

I miss him.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Nuclear Unicorn...

Of course you miss him...you love him.

And you're newlyweds.

This is entirely natural...

How often does he do this?

He wants to provide for you. Talk to him when he's recovered, of course...

Let him hear you...

Maybe there's a way to negotiate, to compromise...

Take care, sweetie...

:hug:

[Nuclear Unicorn]

2. Thankfully, it isn't too often. Once a month is typical though twice/month isn't unheard of

We also get a decent idea about when he has time off and he spoils me rotten (which, as I've said in the past, I'm totally OK with :P ). Anything I want from a trip to the mountains to a weekend project together.

He knows how I feel. I don't nag; I'm not that way. I absolutely let him know I recognize all he does for us and how grateful I am but it just kills me to see him so beat-up and he knows that too.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. That sounds pretty reasonable...

I hope you can come to terms with it for his sake...

And someday he may decide it isn't worth it...

Or he may not.

A lot of marriage is about accommodating what your partner wants. And this gets easier over time...as long as you both do it...

[Nuclear Unicorn]

6. Wow. I totally zonked out on the couch just after replying to you

Woke up about 4am with him stroking my hair. He would have carried me to bed had I let him but he always reeks of petroleum products. So I shuffled off and waited for him under the covers while he showered. Fell asleep again in his arms. Woke to him snoring softly.

I miss him because I'm proud of him. I'm proud of him because he works so hard for us. He works so hard for us I miss him.

If that makes sense.


Thanks for the late night company, guys.

:hug:

[Orrex]

4. Did he work these shifts before you two were together?

[rug]

5. Happy Labor Day

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTafZRecy2k

[InvisibleTouch]

7. You caught a good one, don't complain. ;) n/t

[seabeyond]

8. it is hard to watch loved one breaking his back to bring home the money

my hubby has a different kind of job but has had the same for a while now. he has worked thru the weekend, again. up late. out of town.

this weekend i made sure he put all his vaccation time down so he doesnt lose any at end of year

always let him know how valued and appreciated

and remind him, when time is slow, take the damn time off.

enjoy and play

and yes... it is hard to watch. a zillion times more because of the physically grueling work your hubby does.

life

he has a job. yea

and you all are doing well. yea

[oneshooter]

9. My Loving Wife knows your pain.

Many times in our 26yr marriage my occupation has caused me to be away, sometimes several months at a time. When I get home she is waiting for me at the door, the dogs are going crazy, and the kids are asleep!
He works hard, gets dirty, and only wants your happiness. Be tolerant loving and supportive. All will be well.

Oneshooter
Armed and Livin in Texas

[madmom]

10. Ah, my ex would stat out 36 hours and more at a time, but

he was with friends partying and whatever else. I was home with a toddler, no phone ( cells weren't around then). Need I say why he is now an ex?

You have a good one honey, cherish him!:applause:

[Generic Brad]

11. That used to be me

After three years of that I learned it was not worth it - at least for our relationship. We moved to a new city, started over, and have made sure we have had time for each other ever since.