Why is it always that guy?

[brettdale]

I blogged about this about a week ago.

There is a scene on the programme Boston
Legal where Alan Shore bursts into a Partner's
meeting as they are about to vote whether Brad
Chase should be become partner.

Alan Shore was incensed that his friend Jerry
Espenson wasn't put up for the position, he
looked up to the podium and saw a
cut out of Brad's smiling face, looked at the
partners and says something along the
lines of "Does it always have to be that guy?"

That got me thinking, Why is it always that guy?
In every aspect of life, it's always that guy.

It is always that guy who goes to a restaurant,
and gets the best table, and gets the best
service, and the best piece of steak.

It is always that guy who goes to a store in the mall, he
gets served first, he wont get a smart alec
shop assistant, he will get the best customer
service possible.

Coming back from an overseas trip, that guy will fly
thru customs and not get picked for a routine bag
search.

Buying Panadol from the chemist,that guy wont get asked for
ID, or the name of his G.P

Getting picked first for a team, whether it be as a
kid on the sports field, a class room assignment,
a project at work, or on some lame reality
show, it is always that guy.

A group of friends having a discussion,
people will listen to that guy first.

If different advice is handed out to
someone in trouble, it's that guys
advice they will take.

Your on a social media site, or at a dinner
party, it's always that guy's jokes that people
will laugh the hardest at.

If that guy's got the slightest problem in his life
he will almost have a army of people, giving him
sympathy and telling him he's special, and every
issue in his life is blown into a war and peace novel.

Heaven help you, if you don't like that guy, because I'm
afraid in life it's all about him.

That guy doesn't even have any negative syndrome
name after him, if your short you have short guy syndrome,
if your fat you have fat guy syndrome, if your ugly you
have ugly guy syndrome, if you write a negative blog you
have bitter guy syndrome, if you complain about that guy
you have jealous guy syndrome, according to
another blogger there is a "privilege denying guy", and
of course there is nice guy syndrome, they are the
worst guys of the lot apparently, but that Guy doesn't
have a negative syndrome because he is that guy.

Can someone please please tell me, why does it always have
to be that guy, or about that guy? Why is it always him?, he does
nothing special, others do better, but its always him, isn't it?

Like I said this post was written from seeing an old Boston
Legal clip, and a couple of incidents that went thru my
head after seeing that Boston legal clip. I have never figured
it out, that it always have to be about that guy, like I said in
a previous post, this post is not earth shattering, its not
powerful and has no overbearing message, I just need to
know, why is it always about that guy, and why is it always
that guy?

Can someone tell me?

[RandomThoughts]

1. Thinking on that.

I would guess.

He was due beer and travel money, and nobody saw fit to correct that.

[brettdale]

2. oh

Okay then?

[Chan790]

3. Confession:

I used to be a schlub but now I'm "that guy". Anybody can be, that's the dirty secret. These guys were that guy too:



It's not looks or smarts or birth (okay, my parents are rich but they made it after I was an adult and never gave me a dime.) It's all about presence and comportment. I worked at it. I read lots of books, traveled and chased life-experiences until I became worldly. I worked on my conversational skills and my natural inclination towards introversion and shyness. (The laughing at his crappy jokes thing, it's really about presentation, not content.) I made an effort at being interesting in order to command being the center of attention. Most importantly, I make sure other people feel the same way in my presence...that's about being gracious and generous and genuinely humble. "Me? Brett's far more interesting than I, did you know he does his own auto-repairs? I've always said that is the true measure of a man, whether he does for himself or has others do for him." People want to do for me because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Note the irony, if you will.) Best of all, that level of confidence and presence is sexy and attractive. I'm not a good looking man...I look like a fatter Dwight Schrute with crooked teeth. I get hit on a fair deal.

My friends all admit I'm the most interesting person they know. Oddly, I'm not that interesting in my own opinion, I find most other people more interesting than I'll ever be.

[brettdale]

4. Man

That was deep.

[brettdale]

5. The Other Guy

It is never about him, it will never
be about him, it will never get better for him.

Unlike that guy, he doesn't get the best service in a
restaurant, he doesn't get the promotion, he doesnt fly
thru customs, he will get the smart alec shop assistant,
because he anit that guy. He wont be listen to in a
group discussion, his opinion will be brush off, because
he anit that guy.

He may have a neurological disorder, he may have asperger's
or autism, he may be socially awkward or suffer from various
social anxiety issues, if something goes wrong, he will get the
blame and say nothing.

He will rarely venture out, he may never get married or even
have a girlfriend, yet he will go through life trying his best, he
will work, he will make his employers and that guy's employer's
a lot of money, yet he won't get credit.

So take a thought for the other guy, he may have
quirks, he may not look like that guy, but he does
deserve your respect.

Too bad that guy and society disagrees.