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I'm in a small town these days, about 7,000 people and although I grew up in a fairly small town I am no good at the gossip thing.
A neighbor is doing construction, I ask how long to expect the noise. She says 'none of your business' (which I expected her to say bc her attitude is pretty selfish usually). But then she goes on: "You know somebody sent me a letter about your dogs and I wrote back.." I cut her off bc I hate this stuff, it was bad enough in 5th grade, but as adults (?!)
Me: what do my dogs have to do with your construction noise? Her: well I wrote them back to say that you love your dogs.
So at that point I'm thinking 'did she just threaten to gossip about how I treat my dogs ?' And I'm like a deer in headlights. I don't know what to say to that. But I press it:
Me: Who wrote to you? Her: I can't tell you. Me: Barbara ? Her: I don't know who that is. Me: the Landlord's sister.
This goes for a while and then she say the construction will last about 3 weeks.
I really don't care what she says about me bc it reflects more on her (and people in this town try in vain to be 2 faced but the cliques are obvious to any newcomer). But I have to deal with her occasionally because she is my downstairs neighbor.
Any strategies or thoughts on how to stay out of gossip wars?
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