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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:36 AM Original message |
Serious question in ref to the ex |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
1. sounds like you have not had interaction with him for 12 yrs. you dont know who or what he has |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:44 AM Response to Reply #1 |
2. On his page the only information given is |
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Lars39 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:51 AM Response to Original message |
3. So from no interest whatsoever he wants out of state vacations? |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:55 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. Just recently. |
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rug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:21 PM Response to Original message |
5. He's in no position to demand anything. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:24 PM Response to Reply #5 |
7. Thank you. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:22 PM Response to Original message |
6. Call a lawyer, first thing Monday morning. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:26 PM Response to Reply #6 |
8. That's what I thought |
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Tikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:48 PM Response to Reply #8 |
19. There is something you and the District can do if you.. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:53 PM Response to Reply #19 |
20. I'll call. |
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TuxedoKat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 11:45 AM Response to Reply #8 |
74. Ask some of your friends |
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Supply Side Jesus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:31 PM Response to Reply #6 |
10. yup...let him sue for visitation. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:46 PM Response to Reply #10 |
17. He wants to see if he can still scare me, |
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mentalsolstice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:29 PM Response to Original message |
9. I would block him on FaceBook |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:34 PM Response to Reply #9 |
11. I figured that I would |
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betharina (313 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 05:10 PM Response to Reply #11 |
41. you might want to block him if you viewed his profile. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:00 PM Response to Reply #41 |
54. Thank you. |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:36 PM Response to Original message |
12. Have no contact with him, and consult an attorney first thing |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:44 PM Response to Reply #12 |
15. It's always my kid first. |
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RebelOne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:39 PM Response to Original message |
13. If your child does not want to see him, |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:45 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. I think I'll have to speak with an attorney. |
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RebelOne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 05:18 PM Response to Reply #16 |
42. But the child cannot be forced into visitation. n/t |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:02 PM Response to Reply #42 |
55. Is that true? |
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Indi Guy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:42 PM Response to Original message |
14. Does he have alcohol and/or drug issues? |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:47 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. I don't know. |
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Indi Guy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:19 PM Response to Reply #18 |
23. Well, the most important part of this equation is obviously your child... |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:23 PM Response to Reply #23 |
26. I tried this once before |
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Indi Guy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:59 PM Response to Reply #26 |
34. Well, since he's expressed an interest in your daughter's life... |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:03 PM Response to Reply #34 |
56. That is some of the interest. |
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mulsh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 12:53 PM Response to Original message |
21. Serious responce - talk to a lawyer in your state. a family law specialist |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:20 PM Response to Reply #21 |
24. Thank you for remembering me! |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:06 PM Response to Original message |
22. My reply, in song. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:24 PM Response to Reply #22 |
27. If this were facebook I'd click "like". nt |
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hobbit709 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:22 PM Response to Original message |
25. Run away, screaming loudly! |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:25 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. I want to |
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hobbit709 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:28 PM Response to Reply #28 |
30. If you need to ask yourself that question |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:33 PM Response to Reply #30 |
32. My child comes first |
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hobbit709 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:36 PM Response to Reply #32 |
33. You're not protecting the child by letting him near. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:05 PM Response to Reply #33 |
57. That is also true. |
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hobbit709 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:09 PM Response to Reply #57 |
58. Screw that advice |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:24 PM Response to Reply #58 |
59. That's what I tend to think |
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hobbit709 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:28 PM Response to Reply #59 |
62. It's not you. |
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panader0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:26 PM Response to Original message |
29. I'm pretty sure that one year without contact is legal |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 01:30 PM Response to Reply #29 |
31. He was convicted of felony nonsupport. |
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Grey (933 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 02:45 PM Response to Original message |
35. If you do meet him is there any way |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:09 PM Response to Reply #35 |
45. I won't go alone |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
36. Hi xmas74! |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:10 PM Response to Reply #36 |
46. Thank you! |
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struggle4progress (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 03:15 PM Response to Original message |
37. Listen to the folk telling you to discuss it with an attorney |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:14 PM Response to Reply #37 |
47. There have been no visits. |
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struggle4progress (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:37 PM Response to Reply #47 |
64. I really wasn't suggesting anything about your own behavior: I was merely trying to indicate |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 03:48 PM Response to Original message |
38. An abusive father is not better than an absent father, imo. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:15 PM Response to Reply #38 |
48. I'll try that. nt |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
39. He had his shot and blew it. And I don't buy that "since he is her 'father,'" he's entitled. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:21 PM Response to Reply #39 |
49. He hasn't figured out my account on here |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 12:30 AM Response to Reply #49 |
66. Gross. |
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LibertyLover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 04:55 PM Response to Original message |
40. First thing to do is contact a family law attorney |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:54 PM Response to Reply #40 |
51. She'll be eleven in a couple of months. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 05:26 PM Response to Original message |
43. Another voice for seeing an attorney. |
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Demoiselle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 06:36 PM Response to Reply #43 |
44. What noamnety said.... |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:55 PM Response to Reply #43 |
52. Thank you. nt |
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Curmudgeoness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:25 PM Response to Original message |
50. Asking you for all of these things on FB is not exactly a legal demand. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 09:57 PM Response to Reply #50 |
53. I've thought of that too. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:27 PM Response to Reply #53 |
61. No precedent thereby, imo, |
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Curmudgeoness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 11:14 PM Response to Reply #53 |
65. FB should not be the only way to contact you. |
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Lil Missy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:25 PM Response to Original message |
60. Tell him to have his lawyer contact you. Or plan b, just ignore him. |
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Recovered Repug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-12-11 10:34 PM Response to Original message |
63. Did he mention why he wanted to get involved now? |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 12:43 AM Response to Original message |
67. Yes, ignore him. |
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burrfoot (801 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 02:43 AM Response to Original message |
68. Serious answer....please be careful with this. |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 04:29 AM Response to Original message |
69. Lawyer up |
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hayu_lol (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 05:16 AM Response to Reply #69 |
70. Lawyer up immediately... |
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MissHoneychurch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 05:31 AM Response to Original message |
71. Hey xmas |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 07:31 PM Response to Reply #71 |
78. Hey sweetie! |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 06:38 AM Response to Original message |
72. GET A LAWYER!!!!!!! |
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NV Whino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 11:16 AM Response to Original message |
73. First |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 04:55 PM Response to Original message |
75. Your situation is not unique. It happened to me too. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 05:18 PM Response to Reply #75 |
76. What an awful story. I'm terribly sorry your son's "father" is such a monster. |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 10:57 PM Response to Reply #76 |
80. You know...what happened to me with him is what I think finally killed any faith that I had. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Mar-14-11 12:57 PM Response to Reply #75 |
82. Sorry this happened to you and your kid. That dude reminds me of my father. |
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Sky Masterson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 05:49 PM Response to Original message |
77. I remember you. |
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LuckyTheDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Mar-13-11 07:45 PM Response to Original message |
79. Give him the phone number of a lawyer you trust |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Mar-14-11 12:55 PM Response to Original message |
81. I second what some have already suggested: consult a lawyer ASAP. |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Mar-14-11 12:59 PM Response to Original message |
83. This was made for you: |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Mar-14-11 01:18 PM Response to Original message |
84. hey there! |
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OwnedByFerrets (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Mar-14-11 01:41 PM Response to Original message |
85. Ask legal advice. No communications until you get that. |
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