I just joined Facebook - can somebody give me some protocol tips?

[NewJeffCT]

I put in my HS & college graduation years and it gave me some people from my high school class - is it appropriate for me to try to add them as friends, even if I haven't heard from some of them this century? (My HS graduation was 1985)

Thanks

[Lex]

1. I added friends from high school that I hadn't seen in 25 years, but

we were friends in high school. I haven't added anyone from high school just because they were in the same graduating class.

Best thing to do first is familiarize yourself with the privacy settings. It will make your FB experience MUCH more enjoyable.

Oops, editing to add link: http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/the-complete-guide-to-facebook-privacy/

[NewJeffCT]

7. excellent tip

that was very helpful

[Beer Snob-50]

2. i added as friends people i hadn't seen since high school

and we have started communicating again.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

3. yeah. friend me. aside from that add the friends you want to get back in touch with

not the people you knew, who you disliked in HS

[NewJeffCT]

4. How do I 'friend' you?

you can PM me your email address - I don't have it.

Woo-Hoo - I'm up to 3 friends already!

[grace0418]

5. My advice: add friends slowly and deliberately. People add friends in a big flurry

when they first join and suddenly realize that there are a lot of people they didn't really want to keep in touch with after all. And those always seem to be the people who update their status every two seconds with the most obnoxious stuff.

[NewJeffCT]

6. good tip

I realize that there was probably a reason I didn't stay in touch with a lot of the people I went to high school with...

[Lex]

8. you can easily hide the status updates of people

it's no big deal

[AllenVanAllen]

40. If you friend someone who posts too much

and it's stuff you really don't care to see you can always hide all of their posts. I have a close friend who is always posting right wing drivel so I just hide his posts. I can check his wall for any news about him. I hide pretty much all of the apps for the FB games. As mentioned before, take some time and familiarize yourself with the security settings. Have fun! :hi:

[grace0418]

44. I yeah, I can do that with some people. But there are some people you want to dial back

a little bit (and you used to be able to on FB) but not completely hide them, and those are the ones that are tricky. Yeah, I hid all those games too. They drive me nuts!

[shanti]

9. be careful of the "polls"

they impinge on your privacy, imo.

[NewJeffCT]

13. haven't seen any polls yet

but, thanks for the warning.

[conscious evolution]

19. Same with all of the apps.

[krabigirl]

58. yes..and don't be shocked at the results..they trend EXTREMELY right wing on facebook.

[NewJeffCT]

61. Interesting

and, i thought myspace was the RW one, as it was owned by Murdoch, no?

[Justyce]

10. When I signed up, nearly everyone I graduated with added me.

They all add everyone in our class, so I guess it's different for everyone.

[NewJeffCT]

17. Interesting

I was voted "Shyest" in my class in both 8th grade(middle school) & 12th grade (high school). So, I might be a bit different.

[Blue-Jay]

11. Post drunken naked photos and then "friend" your boss.

[Lex]

12. Put your boss on limited status then post naked photos.

No big deal if the boss wants to be friended.

[XemaSab]

28. Post rants about how your boss is a nasty old pervert who is always making you do

the most boring crap.

:popcorn:

[Blue-Jay]

29. And post a picture of you copying your ass on the company's Xerox.

[tigereye]

48. I should have known that was you...

:hi:

[Louisiana1976]

14. If you're depressed and want insurance coverage for it, don't post pictures

of yourself smiling on the beach.

[NewJeffCT]

16. Don't worry - not depressed today

thanks for the tip, though.

[supernova]

15. I'll friend you

PM me.

:D

Don't feel compelled to participate on the myriad games. It's a good way to waste time and take away from DU time. ;-)

[Richardo]

18. Yes - close your account as quickly as humanly possible

And let us never speak of this again.

[Capn Sunshine]

25. +1

[KamaAina]

20. See if you can get my friend who has a Master's in sexuality studies to friend you

on average, she's good for about one drop-through-the-floor "Oh no you di'int!" moment a week. :evilgrin:

[Blue_Tires]

21. ttt....i could use some direction on my page as well...

for starters, i've got to beg, borrow or steal a camera for some decent photos

[Clintonista2]

22. dont post on your own wall

Everyone seems to make that mistake lol

[NewJeffCT]

37. I did that a few times in the beginning - until I saw your post

thanks

[Ava83]

23. I take care

To only add people I know...even if we have not spoken in some time you do reconnect.

Be careful about your status...some people update just to update...I usually do it to be snarky (and no one is ever surprised..it makes me sad no one ever is) :nopity:

Check your privacy settings (which has been mentioned) and if you want only some people to see something like pictures and videos..you can set different privacy settings for that!

Have fun with it!

[dalaigh lllama]

24. If you "share" something that someone else has posted

I usually acknowledge who I've gotten it from. Also, just for fun, you ought to switch your language from "English" to "English pirate" for a day.

[Midlodemocrat]

26. I'm defriending you.

:P

[NewJeffCT]

32. nice post Hitler - welcome to ignore!

:P

[Capn Sunshine]

27. If you have ANY employment aspirations

Imagine your potential employer reading your page. A lot of Facebook pages look like the person spends all fucking day there updating; not good. Also, anything ultra HIp might scare them away, like oh, I dunno, gansta rap shit and photos of everybody flashing signs.
Even political references have to be pretty vanilla because there's a 20% chance your potential employer is a big fan of Sarah Palin. I started one during the campaign because everyone on Team Obama had one and commmunicated that way. Now I'm stuck with it. My kids communicate with me there. I'm thinking of shutting it down because I'm doing a lot of finance and my client base is pretty Red State if you get my drift.

Better to take Richardo's advice.

[NewJeffCT]

31. I'm avoiding any political stuff

on my page. Most of my potential employers in the Hartford area are either in insurance or defense. I temporarily put "atheist" in there for religion, but then realized that atheists are one of the most hated demographics in the country... so, took it out.

[krabigirl]

59. This is why I absolutely hate Facebook. More like fakebook.

I put agnostic on mine, and people got offended. I told them to takea hike...

[tabbycat31]

39. I can rant politically-- I just refer people to my Twitter feed or blog

I live in a blue state that recently took a sharp right turn (my county swung 35 points from 2008 to 2009).

[jobycom]

30. Dive in, have fun, ignore everyone else's advice.

I've met people I haven't seen since 7th grade, and renewed old friendships, and talked to old girlfriends. I've found parts of me I didn't realize I'd lost. Make friends with everyone from your high school, sort out the bad ones later. One of my favorite people there now is a right wing religious nut I knew in high school because we can call each other all kinds of names and laugh about it. I had one bad experiene with an old college roommate, but it only reminded me of why I always thought he was a loser, anyway.

Okay, one tip. Don't use a password that you use on other sites. That place is too easy to hack, and then they'd have your password and email address, and other personal info, and that's enough to get through security on a lot of websites.

[NewJeffCT]

33. funny story on RW religious nuts

some woman a friend of mine dated back in college in the late 80s/early 90s was known for being rather not hard to have sex with. However, for some reason, they dated once or twice and she had to move or leave or go somewhere else - right before he was able to have sex. Well, she ended up finding him years later on FB, and since he was single, he was thinking it was finally going to be his chance - however, turns out she is now some born-again fundie nut.

[jobycom]

35. Yeah, my class partiers all seem to be born agains, too. Funny thing, though,

one woman I dated was too conservative in high school and that's part of why I quit dating her. I could easily have married her, and at times in my life wish I had. She's now as liberal as me. If only I'd known.

It's a hoot to catch up with people. Some have never grown up. Some I thought were losers are rich and happy, while I, while always happy, have not done much with myself. And some I'm glad I didn't know in the intervening years. I think mostly I've felt happy to see them all again, but even happier I moved away from that place. :)

[Odin2005]

34. Set your personal information and any naughty pics to "friends only"

You don't want employers seeing that.

[MissMillie]

36. don't "friend" your mom or your kids

some boundaries are healthy

[Lex]

42. you are obviously unaware how to manipulate the privacy settings

just because you friend someone doesn't mean they can see any thing you do or post on Facebook

[quakerboy]

38. Do what you want

when you want how you want. Thats how the internet works, and facebook is no exception.

[Kat45]

41. I also recently joined and I'm still trying to figure it out.

I think you can have different lists of friends so all your friends don't see everything but I don't know how to do it. I still barely know how to do anything there. But I did find out that among the groups, there is a DU group, which of course I joined.

[Peregrine Took]

60. Me too and I don't know exactly what I'm doing.

I got my feelings hurt a few times once when I found out my niece was hiding my very interesting posts (!) in that I went to her wall to wish her a happy birthday and my posting wouldn't show up. I figured out that she must be hiding my posts. Ouch - that hurt.

[tabbycat31]

43. send me a PM if you want to friend me

[cynatnite]

45. I am in Facebook hell...I unknowingly friended the most religious nutjobs on the planet. n/t

[arcadian]

46. When you first join it is common protocol to send out porn links as your status.

To let everybody know they you are on Facebook.

[NewJeffCT]

47. thanks - I'll get right on that one

:P

[Patiod]

49. Those games are set up to make money, so be careful

Farmville, Mafia Wars, Sorority Life - they're all set up to suck you in thinking you're going to play for free, but be frustrating if you don't spend REAL money to buy virtual stuff (example: you can plow all day in Farmville for free, or buy a tractor with real money and keep on moving up). A friend sent around a link explaining the business model, and I'm too damed lazy to look for it right now.

Also, be prepared for "stalkers" - although my photos are all pretty innocuous, I've had people comment on photos that would have required a lot of looking-through to get to, making me wonder if they have too much time on their hands (sez someone posting in the DU Lounge.....) If it's there, bored people (or exes) are going to be looking at it!

[NewJeffCT]

50. well, sorority life sounds interesting to me

as an almost 43 year old guy. :P

[Patiod]

52. I suppose if you're interested in buying handbags and shoes

I'm guessing there aren't the naked pillow fights you might be imagining.

But then again.....

[NewJeffCT]

53. That was what I was hoping for

bathing, dressing, undressing, knitting exciting underwear...

[NewJeffCT]

51. OK - I was chatting with somebody on FB

and then I clicked on another page and I can't find out how to get the chat back with this guy? Help

[rcrush]

54. DONT FACEBOOK WITH YOUR PARENTS

[NewJeffCT]

56. lol

that was funny.

[cwydro]

55. Well we are friends now!

Thanks to Pri!

[Inchworm]

57. G'luck with that

I'm once again anti-social-networking online. I guess, I think, I need to find boobies nearer to me :rofl:

:hi: