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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:27 AM
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Do you enjoy, tolerate or dread family gatherings?
With Thanksgiving coming up and all, how do you feel about the upcoming gatherings?
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tabbycat31 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:33 AM
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1. depends on who I am seeing
Thanksgiving I am dreading because I have to see my entitlement princess sister and trust fund baby BIL (Mitt Romney Republicans). They went to an elite school, got high-paying corporate jobs 6 months before graduation, and have no clue how the rest of the world lives.

When I see the working class side of my family, i fit in much better.
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:36 AM
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2. I know what that is like
when I go to my aunts all she does is talk about her rich relatives and how they all would enjoy the small island they have a vacation home on or how good their stuff is blah blah blah blah blah....
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tabbycat31 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:41 AM
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3. that will be me on Thursday
topping it off with rubbing the NJ election results in my face. I'm dreading it already.
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:05 AM
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9. That is harsh. It's bad enough the state is going to have to endure
4 years of that political hack Christie but to have to hear about it while eating Thanksgiving dinner... :puke:
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tabbycat31 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 02:06 PM
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24. we can take it back
I have confidence in that--- we would have retained it by not running an incumbent or Corzine preaching to the choir. It's never too early to get behind Cory Booker for 2013, who will easily beat Christie barring scandal.

You are right, Thanksgiving is not the time to talk about that. However I can secretly wish that the turkey Christie eats too much turkey right?
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 11:53 AM
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37. I really hope you're right
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tabbycat31 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 01:52 PM
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38. we just have to keep at it
the problem is that so many people give up during off years. Corzine was not a good candidate and should have been primaried IMO. Here's my post election anger blog entry with a few ideas on how we can take it back. I'll be working on a series of a few more of them because it's really important to me.

http://outspokenliberal.blogspot.com/2009/11/what-we-ne...
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Blue_Tires Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:48 AM
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4. love the gatherings, HATE the flying...
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SteppingRazor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:54 AM
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5. Love it. I hardly ever get to see the folks. n/t
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JonLP24 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:57 AM
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6. I don't do gatherings
I'll be at home by myself likely watching the Lions and whoever and that's pretty much it.
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:26 AM
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11. By choice?
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JonLP24 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 12:24 PM
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15. I'll say yes
I'd like to see my brother who lives in Colorado that I haven't seen since early 2005 before I went into the Army. Even my dad who I haven't seen since 2003 who also lives in Colorado. Also many of my dad's side of the family who all live in Colorado. I can't afford that kind of trip.

Here in Arizona it's just my mom and her brother and sister-in-law. I see my mom all the time so that isn't an issue and she'll be with them Thanksgiving. The issue is my uncle and aunt are very much on the fundie side. I hate the interrogations and whether or not I've been saved, when was the last time I've been to church, and if I want to go to church, Potter's House aka "The Door"(look it up to see what I mean). It's just a very uncomfortable and unpleasant experience. They didn't vote for McCain because they felt Palin as a woman should be home raising her kids so they voted for Ron Paul.
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Brickbat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 10:59 AM
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7. I generally enjoy them. I very much love my FOO, and get along well with Mr. Brickbat's. They're
not without drama, but I'm sure we have it a lot better than many people, and I'm grateful for that.
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:00 AM
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8. Thoroughly enjoy. I just wish we were having one this TG.
I wish that every TG.
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:06 AM
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10. Why doesn't your family do gatherings?
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Bertha Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:32 AM
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12. We're 2600 miles apart.
:cry:
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phasma ex machina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 11:54 AM
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13. I always thoroughly enjoy family gatherings. nt
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pitohui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 12:23 PM
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14. dread
Edited on Tue Nov-24-09 12:25 PM by pitohui
this year i'll be cooking for someone else's dysfunctional family, so i think it will be more fun and less dysfunction

actually as far as i know i'm the only black sheep in my own family so i keep down the number of gatherings i attend, i'm sure it's generally more fun for the respectable folks if i'm not present too often

i pretty much don't put in an appearance until begged...always keep em wanting more, right?
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 12:33 PM
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16. Tolerate.
I love my family and love spending time with them one-on-one. I don't enjoy larger groups, family or not, and when my very small family gathers together in one place, we tend to group ourselves according to what we would have been doing at home, anyway. Thanksgiving? Some are watching football, some playing board games, some curled up reading.

It's not like we all feel compelled to do the same thing together at the same time.
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 12:53 PM
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17. I enjoy seeing my family.
:hi:
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:00 PM
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18. Well, I was looking forward to mine
but then my parents decided to invite these friends of theirs who I just really don't want to spend time with...nice people but I was looking forward to just family.

Anyway, what with the travel involved for me, I have now decided to stay here in the Keys.
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Mugu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:05 PM
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19. I always dread going.
Then once I get there I hate leaving.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:08 PM
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20. I love it. What other holiday lets you sleep in, not go to Church, watch football, drink booze,...
eat 3500 calories in one sitting, leave the table to lose consciousness, not buy any gifts, and not be chastised for any of these activities?
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Drunken Irishman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:09 PM
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21. I enjoy...
But my family is so much alike that it makes for fun times. We're all loud liberal Irish Catholics! :D
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NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:37 PM
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22. Enjoy for my daughter, but tolerate otherwise
we're pretty boring overall... and, my daughter's cousins are all boys that are 5-12 years older than her, so are into things like video games that a 6 year old shouldn't be watching.
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ChickMagic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 01:41 PM
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23. I dread it
I hate the trip out there, and although I love my in laws, I have to listen to their
right wing bullshit but I'm not allowed to speak. My brother in law got all up in
my ass about it one day when I made a comment about Alan Keyes. Then he started
berating my husband about how I control his mind. I WISH I could control his
mind.

Since then I was informed that since I'm in their house, I can't talk about politics,
but since it's their house, they get to ooze slime.

Seeing my sister and her family is better, especially if my nephew is there. He's my
baby. But screaming can often break out - not by or at me - and that pretty much means
exit, stage left.

I like Halloween so much more because family isn't an issue.
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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 08:31 AM
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34. Why is it that right wingers always feel free to spout their bull shit
and progressives are always the ones that have to bite their tongues?
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guitar man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 02:41 PM
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25. depends
I there an open bar?

:evilgrin:
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jakefrep Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 04:15 PM
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26. Mostly enjoy.
I don't have to cope with the travel headaches, and I still get along reasonably well with my family.
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Dogtown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 04:38 PM
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27. None of the above.
:rofl:
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 04:39 PM
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28. All three.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 07:54 PM
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29. Like and dislike.
They screw up my routine, but I like seeing family.
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 08:38 PM
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30. Love em. Always have.
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kiva Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 08:42 PM
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31. Other - I miss them. n/t
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old mark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-24-09 09:49 PM
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32. Mostly enjoy them, now that my neices are no longer 14. I forgot how
kids were at that age.
(They are mature college students now.)

Actually, everyone is staying home this thanksgiving.

mark
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murielm99 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 04:51 AM
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33. The only way I will put up with my mother is at large
gatherings. If it is only me and my husband, she starts a fight.

We are not doing all that this year. She has alienated just about everyone.
She can sit by herself and stew.
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dropkickpa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 08:34 AM
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35. I really enjoy them
My whole family actually lieks each other, so we usually end up all staying up til about 3am playing rock band until my mom gets completely fed up and kicks us out of her house. Good times.
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 10:04 AM
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36. Depends on which segment of the family.
I used to be sick around any holiday until I was in my late teens. I've never been in to formal occasions anyway, regardless of whether or not family is involved.

I do have a brother and niece who I enjoy seeing, but they are so much fun, they don't seem like family. Unfortunately, none of us can afford to travel right now, so we will have to have some sort of "virtual" get-together via Skype.


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NJmaverick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 06:24 PM
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39. I think that's a great idea. You could do virtual dinner together
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krabigirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-25-09 06:31 PM
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40. Family, fine. When they bring their church "friends"...not fine.
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