My cousin committed suicide last night. WTF?

[sixstrings75]

Valedictorian, married his high school sweetheart, prom king & queen.

38 years old.

Had 7 years to go at work for full pension.

9 yr. old daughter. 4 year old boy.


If you were to line up a million people he would be the last person I thought to do this.


Selfish, ignorant asshole. Don't know what to think???

Just bizarre. What's this world coming to?

[Aristus]

1. I'm sorry, sixstrings...

This must hurt an awful lot for you. Take care, and we're here for you... :grouphug:

[Capn Sunshine]

2. WTF pretty much covers it

I have several friends who have done themselves in, but there were always traumas involved

[EastTennesseeDem]

3. Horrifying and heartbreaking

I don't know what else to say.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

4. I am very sorry this happened.

sad and tragic.

[Skittles]

5. do not call him selfish and ignorant

depression is a terrible disease

[Fleshdancer]

10. It's all a part of the mourning process though

This just happened and the OP is angry. It's very normal to feel that way. :(

[SeattleGirl]

14. It IS very normal

I watched my youngest sister go through those feelings and more twice, after friends of hers committed suicide.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. My dear sixstrings75...

Sometimes people really are able to hide what's troubling them. Trust me, he felt as though he had nowhere else to go to relieve the
pain he felt.

I'm a retired RN and I've seen this...

My condolences to you and everyone who loved him...

:hug:

I hope that there will be answers.

[abq e streeter]

7. Don't know what to say, except I'm so sorry to hear this

[OhioBlue]

8. I am so sorry

My cousin did the same thing 10 years ago. she had a baby boy. It was heartbreaking. Sometimes we never understand.

My condolences to you and your family. I am so sad for those poor children - what a horrible thing to have happen to them.

:hug:

[MadMaddie]

9. sixstrings75 I am really sorry to hear this my condolences to

your family.

Sometimes we don't know the angst and private depression our friends and family members go through.

May he RIP!!

[Tommy_J]

11. So sorry...

Don't forget to take care of yourself in your grief.

[GreenPartyVoter]

12. I am so very sorry. :^( Sometimes we just don't know why they do it.

[SeattleGirl]

13. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[debbierlus]

15. You don't understand much about mental illness or depression

People don't choose suicide out of selfishness or ignorance.

They do it out of despondency & despair. When a person reaches their maximum threshold for tolerating negative emotions, they become at risk for suicide.

People who suffer from a mental illness or experience a extreme period of emotional depression or instability are victims, just as much as people who suffer a heart attack or suffer any other physical disorder. They don't have the coping mechanisms to deal with their lives.

Suicide is a tragedy.

I have known some wonderful people who have committed suicide. Their demons won out. Sometimes this is after many years of fighting.

May your cousin RIP.

Peace and light to you.

[flaminbats]

32. I'm sorry too..

Despondency and despair has everything to do with it. Disabilities and lack of hope can have everything to do with it.

I knew a guy who went to my church who I looked up to and was a hero for me as I grew up. He was a Vietnam vet and later developed Juvenile Diabetes. He lived alone and had trouble taking care of himself.

The last time I saw him we had a terrible argument, but I continued to look up to him. It was a crushing experience to go to his funeral after he committed suicide.

The challenge for us is to remember what we love most about these people, and remember we probably generated more happiness than they could have thanked us for. :hug:

[S n o w b a l l]

16. I'm so very sorry...

It's so hard to understand unless you've suffered from such severe depression. What a terrible loss. And I'm very sorry for you and his family.

[XemaSab]

17. That's hard

:(

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[Odin2005]

19. OMG, I'm so sorry!

:(

[BlueIris]

20. So sorry to hear this, sixstrings.

It does leave the survivors in a terrible position, doesn't it?

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

21. As a new member into the suicide survivors club myself

I'm sorry for your loss. You obviously are reacting with anger that he would leave his wife and children to deal with such misery. That's understandable. Take care of yourself and if you are close to his family, try to be there for them, especially the 9 year old.

[JohnnyLib2]

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[peekaloo]

22. Condolences.

Your anger is understandable. If you can, be there for his family. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

23. Seemed like he had a lot to live for

But it often does. Suicide is an irrational act. Often, there is no making sense of it. :hug:

[NJmaverick]

24. Very sorry

:hug:

[Mutley]

25. I'm so sorry, sixstrings.

:(

[seabeyond]

26. suicide is a really hard death to get brain around. the person that commits suicide

is so messed up in their thinking. they have really convinced themselves that others will be better off. that it is the only answer. their mind think is so off.

and the people around spend a lot of time trying to figure out how they could have done something, fixed it for the person, stopped them from doing it.

the guilt for survivors is amazing.

i am sorry what the survivors, those that love this man will have to go thru.

i am also sorry for the person that did this, that if only time had gone, he would not have made this choice. 12 yrs later i think, if she had only made it thru, she would be in this place, enjoying this now.

suicide has its own particular mourning.

[jobycom]

27. Good response. nt

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[bif]

29. Lost my Mom, and uncle, and a brother to suicide.

Nor rhyme nor reason.

[JohnnyLib2]

31. I'm so sorry.

Suicide is a possibility we tend to overlook.


And hits us so hard......

Hope you are near enough to provide strength to that poor family

[Kajsa]

33. I am so sorry, Sixstrings75.

My condolences to you and your family.

:hug:

[Callalily]

34. I am very sorry sixstrings75

I hope that you and your family will one day find peace with this sitation.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

35. sorry you have to deal with this. sorry people here are moralizing when you just had a death

in your family

people are unsympathetic idiots most of the time

[applegrove]

36. Really sorry.

[pitohui]

37. i'm sorry to hear it

sometimes people just can't keep up the brave face any more, you have no idea of what awful pain he was suffering inside to take such a step

:hug:

[Lindsey]

38. I'm so sorry for everyone involved - wow...

When someone is in that state, they truly feel they have no other choice and believe everyone would be better off if they were gone.
My family (on my mother's side) has so much depression. My precious sister, who I'm closer to than anyone else probably in the world, tried many times to end her life. Thank God she never accomplished her "goal". She has since overcome the depression and is now a completely different person. I'm not judging your anger - you have every right to feel the way you do. They have many outstanding suicide support groups all over the country. I'm so very sorry for you and everyone else involved, especially his kids. What a horrible, horrible, situation. :hug: