If something breaks up with you by text message out of nowhere, can you be as mean as you want?

[BolivarianHero]

I think it's such an asshat move that it gives the victim free reign to say whatever they want to and about that person.

[Drunken Irishman]

1. Yes.

But then, how long was the relationship?

[madinmaryland]

2. I guess if the text message breaks up, then it must be a shitty cell phone.

:shrug:

[S n o w b a l l]

3. Something?

I'd say if "someone" breaks up with you that way, be the bigger person and rein in all the negative shit you'd like to say. You'll win in the end and feel better about it. Easier said than done, I know. But, it's the best way to get under their skin. Showing them that you really don't give a shit.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

6. odd usage of the word something

I agree but ...you know ... just this once let 'em have it via email ....wtf ...

I know he should take the high road but dang...how tacky can a person be?

:shrug:

:hi:

[S n o w b a l l]

7. You don't really want me to answer that, do you?

:) There's way more tacky ways. Ask me...I know. One is to lie. At least "something's" being truthful. If he needs to vent, that's ok too. But, I think it'd make a bigger impact if he said nothing at all.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

8. lying is the height of tackiness.I agree.

shows a lack of breeding ;) :toast:

[S n o w b a l l]

12. LOL! I wish!

Breeding is the problem here! :)
But, I know what you mean. ;)

:loveya:

[Quantess]

11. Exactly. Be the better person and agree with the breakup!

You could also add a comment about wanting to find someone with more class who doesn't dump by text.

S n o w : did you mean, not respond at all? That's also an option.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

4. go for it

you have my permission to be as shitty as need be.

[janx]

5. That is AWFUL.

What a cowardly way to interact with another human being!

[Iggo]

9. Wouldn't you feel just as shitty if it'd broken up with you by email?

Or by telephone? Or even straight to your face?

I know I would. It's the breakup that hurts. Not the method.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

10. it sucks to be the dumpee...

it just does.

[Iggo]

13. Oh yes it does.

No argument here.

[S n o w b a l l]

14. omg, yes it does....

I don't think I'll ever get over that in my divorce. So really, the OP doesn't give enough history to really give any of our .02 advice.

[noamnety]

16. That sums up my feelings

People forget we're all different.

Personally, I'd prefer a text breakup so I could react in private. I never understood the mentality of someone wanting to be WITH the person who was dumping them. I just can't grasp that desire.

[hippywife]

18. If it isn't face to face

then it shows a lack of respect, even humanity. I still wouldn't give the other person the satisfaction of being shitty and blowing off at them, tho. I agree with Snowball, that the best thing is to let them stew without a word. That way you haven't stooped to their level of disrespect and they'll always wonder but be afraid to make contact. LOL

[hunter]

15. Find a pickpocket to steal their phone...

... flatten the phone in a vice and laminate it in clear plastic along with a note saying Text Message This, Asshat!!!...and then glue it to the miscreant's car with fast setting construction adhesive.

That's probably about the right level of mean and furthermore they've probably pissed off so many people by being an asshat there is plausible deniability.

If they call you up and accuse you of the vandalism enjoy a well deserved belly laugh and say something like "Well, who doesn't think you are an asshat?"

[cwydro]

17. I think doing it via email is pretty rough too.

But still better not to get all hateful back.

Just accept it and move on.

[Callalily]

19. Although a cowardly move

to breakup via text, my motto is (which has served me well) always take the high road. You will indeed feel much better about yourself, and YOU is all that counts in this situation.

[Cabcere]

20. U CANT TXT MSG BREAKUP!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTKI9OUGVGU

(Edited to add - I agree that a text message breakup is, as my rowing coach used to say, a "dick move." Definitely not cool.) :(

[TK421]

21. If they use that method, it is utterly spineless on their part....that is my opinion

and I stand by it....since they feel at that moment that they can't handle an actual conversation about it...unless you have been stalking them, but these days that won't help you ( you gotta love technology )

people sure do have a difficult time communicating these days....with actual face-to-face words