OK, is this weird of me?

[Lex]

I have an individual office in a larger suite of offices with other people. All very nice folks and I consider them friends and have worked with them for several years. However, part of what I do in my job is keep track of checks related to various real estate deals sometimes, so I'm very careful to keep my door locked when I'm not in my office. However, I gave a spare key to someone in my office in case there is an emergency and someone has to access my office and I'm not there. Also, in case I lose my key I know one other person has the key.

So today this person in my office who has the other key said, "Oh I was in your office using your typewriter today while you were out because mine ran out of ribbon and I had to type a form."

And I asked her not to access my office unless I knew ahead of time that she was going to do so. And she really got pissed off at me and acted like I being a total dick to her. And I consider her a friend and maybe I lost her friendship. *sigh*

Is this weird of me?

(To me it's like if you gave me a key to your house to feed your cat while out of town and didn't get the key back and one day I just say "Hey I ran out of sugar and came over to your (locked) house to see if you had any extra, okay?" Or something like that.)

[yawnmaster]

1. Offices still use typewriters??? eom

[Lex]

2. Preprinted forms still have to be typed occasionally.

Or at least in many offices.

[TZ]

3. Its your space. Period.

Just like if someone needs a spare computer, they ask the person whose cube it is if they can use it. I don't think asking permission is a burden, its common courtesy. And if this person refuses to get past something like this, its someone you maybe don't want to be friends with....

[Lex]

4. Thanks, at first

I felt terrible that I obviously hurt her feelings by my request, but then I starting thinking sort of what you just said. :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. no but maybe you need to explain why to her

"the only reason i state so, is because the company wants me to be treat confidential forms with extreme care. i know you woudl never snoop through my stuff, but i could have left someone on the typewriter, that violated my agreement with the company. please dont take it personally. i trust you, which is why i gave you the spare keys in the 1st place"

[Lex]

6. I did, several times.

Pretty much what you just said, more or less. I hope the 2 of us can get past it as I do think she is a good person.

Thanks Pri.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. sometimes people are defensive when they know they are wrong

hopefully she'll get over it

one thing i have learnt from du, is that oversensitive people are terrible friends